Wish you didn't redshirt?

[Anonymous]

There is always a lot of opinions on the redshirt debate, but I rarely hear from parents that did it and then regretted it. It seems to be the other way around. Is this an accurate feeling? If you redshirted, did you ever have a regret? Was the extra year of preschool worth it?

[Anonymous]

Regretted it so my child skipped K. So far it has been the right choice for him. He's much happier. We got a lot of pressure to hold back. I did not think it was a good idea but the school pushed it. They were wrong about my kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regretted it so my child skipped K. So far it has been the right choice for him. He's much happier. We got a lot of pressure to hold back. I did not think it was a good idea but the school pushed it. They were wrong about my kid.

Sounds like an inexperience parent. Wait until his in MS and HS. There's a reason why you rarely see parents of middleschoolers, especially highschoolers walking around with a smile on their faces. That frown on their foreheads says they've fought through many battles. I held my child back against when expert told me to move forward, but I wouldn't have ignored them if they'd told me to hold back. They rarely do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regretted it so my child skipped K. So far it has been the right choice for him. He's much happier. We got a lot of pressure to hold back. I did not think it was a good idea but the school pushed it. They were wrong about my kid.

Sounds like an inexperience parent. Wait until his in MS and HS. There's a reason why you rarely see parents of middleschoolers, especially highschoolers walking around with a smile on their faces. That frown on their foreheads says they've fought through many battles. I held my child back against when expert told me to move forward, but I wouldn't have ignored them if they'd told me to hold back. They rarely do that.

da fuq?

[Anonymous]

We ultimately decided to send my August boy on time after some deliberation, and a few years in, I believe I would have really regretted redshirting. He's mature, a couple years ahead academically, and one of the taller kids in his class, so it's hard to imagine him a grade behind. As it is, he's bored in the classroom. If he was a different kid, I might not feel that way though.

[Anonymous]

I redshirted my late August birthday son many years ago. He is currently a freshman in high school, and I absolutely believe I did the right thing. It made more of a difference in a positive way in middle school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regretted it so my child skipped K. So far it has been the right choice for him. He's much happier. We got a lot of pressure to hold back. I did not think it was a good idea but the school pushed it. They were wrong about my kid.

Sounds like an inexperience parent. Wait until his in MS and HS. There's a reason why you rarely see parents of middleschoolers, especially highschoolers walking around with a smile on their faces. That frown on their foreheads says they've fought through many battles. I held my child back against when expert told me to move forward, but I wouldn't have ignored them if they'd told me to hold back. They rarely do that.

Not inexperienced at all. I know my child. Kids need to learn to deal with things and holding back year isn't going to make a difference, but please tell yourself that. K. was going to be a waste of time academically. Physically last summer, he shot up and was so much bigger than the K. he looked out of place. Academically he was much further than any of the other kids, so it made no sense to have him do K. The repeating preschool was a huge waste of time and money as we had to homeschool him to keep him progressing academically. Why pay for school when you are also teaching just as much at home? He's in 1st and at home we are doing multiplication and division. In K. they are doing very basic addition, subtraction and just basic learning. I'm not worried about teenage battles. Teachers have no clue about how my child doing as he's the kid who just gets lost in the crowd. They assume the worst rather than spending that few minutes to realize there is far more there. They are the teachers who tell me to my face early in the year he will fail their tests but its ok and yet, he gets 100% (and they acted shocked). I have no interested in what teachers have to say at this point when they are so clueless and want you to hold back as it makes their job easier having a child who comes in knowing the material (which my child does anyway).

Middle school and high school suck regardless. Keeping them back a year does nothing if academically they are ok.

[Anonymous]

We are only in Kindergarten, but so far I'm happy I sent DD on time. Academically she is doing great, reading way above level, and finds the classwork easy. Socially she is happy and making friends. So far, no regrets! I couldn't imagine having her in another year of preschool or repeating from private K again! She would be so bored!

Of course I don't know what middle school will be like, but I honestly don't care if she is popular and have no need for her to start dating early. Looking back at my time in middle school, there were girls "old" in their grade who struggled and girls who were young that struggled. There were younger girls that had an easy time and older girls that had an easy time. I really don't remember there being a correlation to age. I agree with PP who said middle school is a tough time regardless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are only in Kindergarten, but so far I'm happy I sent DD on time. Academically she is doing great, reading way above level, and finds the classwork easy. Socially she is happy and making friends. So far, no regrets! I couldn't imagine having her in another year of preschool or repeating from private K again! She would be so bored!

You didn't redshirt and it doesn't sound like you had cause to consider it. Why bother posting?

[Anonymous]

Firm believer that more time benefits boys especially. DS is in 5th grade and he not being the youngest as he would have been if he went on time has made a huge difference in his academics and confidence. My girl went on time and was feeling pressure to do so with DS but so glad that we did not do that for my son. Best decision for him.

[Anonymous]

I did not redshirt my now-middle-school aged DC. The first couple years of school were a bit rocky. DC needed some additional supports, in no small part because many classroom peers were redshirted. Then it evened out. Now DC is top of the class and doing very well. DC being a grade below would be a frustrated child. I'm beginning to be concerned about HS providing enough challenge but I'll worry about that when we get there.

DC has a good friend who was redshirted. We are good friends with the family. The family still sees benefits from redshirting but also sees the negatives & right now it's mostly a wash as to whether it was a good choice or a bad choice. If their DC weren't into sports, redshirting might have more on the negative side for them.

Each individual is going to have a different impression. My spouse and I made our decision in part based on our own experiences with school and our own maturation cycles. Our family friends did the same.

We're not really going to know how well this works for several more years yet. My generation did not commonly redshirt. My DC's generation is being regularly redshirted (on top of having to be older to start school, in many parts of the country). We'll see how they feel as they start their careers, have their children, and what choices they make.

[Anonymous]

OP the question if written correctly, would be written as follows:

"Wish you HADN'T Redshirted?"

You weren't redshirted, were you...?

[Anonymous]

You can't get good objective info from parents. Parents can never know what would have been if they had made a different choice... All they know is that their kids turned out how they did and then can try and correlate that outcome to their choices. But correlation does not equal causation.

Most kids do fine in school, with bumps in the road here and there. This is true for red shirted and non redshirted kids alike. The only real objective way to measure this is to look at academic achievement data, which pretty much says kids even out by the mid elementary years.

Physically, a red shirted child can have physical advantages over non redshirted students in sports because of size.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't get good objective info from parents. Parents can never know what would have been if they had made a different choice... All they know is that their kids turned out how they did and then can try and correlate that outcome to their choices. But correlation does not equal causation.

Most kids do fine in school, with bumps in the road here and there. This is true for red shirted and non redshirted kids alike. The only real objective way to measure this is to look at academic achievement data, which pretty much says kids even out by the mid elementary years.

Physically, a red shirted child can have physical advantages over non redshirted students in sports because of size.

Presumably size evens out at some point too.

[Anonymous]

I still hear from my mother that redshirting my brother 30 some years ago was one of the best things she did.

I have two summer boys, one I red shirted, one I didn't. It was the right call for the each kid. The one I didn't red shirt is about to enter high school and is doing very well academically (smart, but not TJ smart, redshirting him would not have made him TJ smart. socially he's odd, but he would be that way no matter what!).

My youngest is in the middle years, and giving him "the gift of time" was one of the best things we've done. It never comes up now. We had the support of the pre-school team to red-shirt.

Neither one is good at sports, and neither one is large for his age. Which is odd, since my family is huge and I figured my kids would be the largest no matter what I did! I actually have short kids!