Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents

[Anonymous]

Can anyone top these petty complaints?!:

1) In the morning if FIL is the first to get to the drip coffeemaker after it's done brewing, instead of taking the part with the filter off and screwing on the pouring lid, he just takes the filter-top off, pours his coffee, and then puts the filter-top back on. So the next person (usually me) has to deal with throwing out the filter/grinds, rinsing the filter-top, and screwing on the pouring top.

2) When SIL uses the microwave, when her item is almost done she just opens the door before time is up, takes out her item, and closes the door. So the next person (again, usually me) who wants to use the microwave has to first hit "clear" before being able to set it. Every. Single. Time. Not to mention that the microwave clock is the only clock in the kitchen, so when she does this I can't tell what time it is if I'm in the kitchen unless I hit "clear" or go to a different room to find a clock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my inlaws (both parents and all of the sibs) always sit on the furniture with their feet curled up under them - not just resting on the furniture but really digging and rubbing into the fabric. Gross!! We don't do shoes inside the house so this is their bare skanky feet rubbing into the upholstery (shoes doing this would be worse of course but both are totally unacceptable in my view). who does this???

I'll join you on this one. MIL does this at her house, but she's recently been visiting more often due to our new baby and sat on the couch with her bare feet bent along side of her. She then proceeded to touch her feet (seemingly not conscious of it--hoping, at least as that is gross). I kept DC away from her the rest of the visit, but was prepared to ask her to rewash her hands if she wanted to hold the baby again.

I'm pretty anal retentive, but some of you people are just plain nuts. Trust me, your little snowflake will survive. I hope you understand that you are alienating your MIL for a really petty reason. If she is kind to you, your husband, and your children, then you should count your blessings.

+1

[Anonymous]

My ILs like to ask when we will get around to painting this or recarpeting that...in a very nice home we've been in for two years, and put a new roof, A/C, some hardwood in...as if we don't have a toddler, baby on way, and are saving for colleges.

Meanwhile, their house is the land that time forgot! Old carpets, old/uncomfortable furniture, terrible mattresses...

I would never, as a guest, question of criticize my hosts' home, even if they are family.

[Anonymous]

My MIL insisted on feeding my dog "people food" even after we told her repeatedly that it makes him sick, so she did it when I wasn't looking. It was a holiday dinner with lots of rich food. We also told her the dog isn't allowed on any floor other than the ground floor, where he has a nice, huge, comfy dog bed. The reason is that the other floors have wall to wall carpet and for some reason he associates the carpeting with being outside and always, ALWAYS, pees on it. So we don't let him upstairs or in the basement. Well, in the middle of the night she decides she's lonely and gets the dog to come into the guest room (in the basement) and sleep with her. Well sure enough in the middle of the night the dog got sick, both threw up and diarrhea, everywhere. So instead of getting us, she grabs a bunch of paper towels, picks up the mess with it, puts it in the toilet, and tries to flush it all at once (not flush as you go), which clogs the toilet and causes it to overflow with the water, dog vomit, dog diarheea and the paper towels everywhere. So then she tries to clean that up with our towels. And then she tries to clean the carpet with bleach. Which results in a broken toilet and ruined wall to wall carpet. She finally woke us up to tell us what she had done and ask for help. It cost me $500 to snake the line and fix the toilet. And it cost $3500 to have the wall to wall carpet replaced. It cost $500 to replace the towels. And it cost another $500 to take the dog to the vet and his medicine. And my MIL yelled at me because she said she didn't know how to clean wall to wall carpet and I should have told her if she was going to be sleep in the guest suite, and I should have told her all along paper towels can't be flushed down the toilet.

I am still dumbfounded by that evening (was a few years ago) and what happened. It was a cluster fuck of fuck ups. And I have a relatively good relationship with my MIL, still do, but this is still a sore subject for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids touching my walls. My clean, freshly painted walls.

Suggestion. Cling wrap them

They always wriggle out.

[Anonymous]

Oh where to start...how about water orders? None of the 3 able bodies guests will get their own water. I guess they would die of thirst if I didn't wait on them.

Meanwhile, #1 wants ice water and accuses me of being "chintzy" by not filling glass top to bottom with ice.

#2 wants room temperature water, but won't drink the tap after a detailed interrogation about whether our tap water is safe here. So I leave the Brita pitcher on the counter, which then causes #1 (to whom she is married) to flip out because now the room temperature water is causing his full glass of ice to melt too fast.

#3 only wants bottled water.

It is so odd, it's like they think being house guests means playing Queen for a day or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can anyone top these petty complaints?!:

1) In the morning if FIL is the first to get to the drip coffeemaker after it's done brewing, instead of taking the part with the filter off and screwing on the pouring lid, he just takes the filter-top off, pours his coffee, and then puts the filter-top back on. So the next person (usually me) has to deal with throwing out the filter/grinds, rinsing the filter-top, and screwing on the pouring top.

2) When SIL uses the microwave, when her item is almost done she just opens the door before time is up, takes out her item, and closes the door. So the next person (again, usually me) who wants to use the microwave has to first hit "clear" before being able to set it. Every. Single. Time. Not to mention that the microwave clock is the only clock in the kitchen, so when she does this I can't tell what time it is if I'm in the kitchen unless I hit "clear" or go to a different room to find a clock.

I don't even understand #1, your coffee maker sounds complicated and if I was a guest I would probably do the same thing??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can anyone top these petty complaints?!:

1) In the morning if FIL is the first to get to the drip coffeemaker after it's done brewing, instead of taking the part with the filter off and screwing on the pouring lid, he just takes the filter-top off, pours his coffee, and then puts the filter-top back on. So the next person (usually me) has to deal with throwing out the filter/grinds, rinsing the filter-top, and screwing on the pouring top.

2) When SIL uses the microwave, when her item is almost done she just opens the door before time is up, takes out her item, and closes the door. So the next person (again, usually me) who wants to use the microwave has to first hit "clear" before being able to set it. Every. Single. Time. Not to mention that the microwave clock is the only clock in the kitchen, so when she does this I can't tell what time it is if I'm in the kitchen unless I hit "clear" or go to a different room to find a clock.

I don't even understand #1, your coffee maker sounds complicated and if I was a guest I would probably do the same thing??

I couldn't figure it out either!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can anyone top these petty complaints?!:

1) In the morning if FIL is the first to get to the drip coffeemaker after it's done brewing, instead of taking the part with the filter off and screwing on the pouring lid, he just takes the filter-top off, pours his coffee, and then puts the filter-top back on. So the next person (usually me) has to deal with throwing out the filter/grinds, rinsing the filter-top, and screwing on the pouring top.

2) When SIL uses the microwave, when her item is almost done she just opens the door before time is up, takes out her item, and closes the door. So the next person (again, usually me) who wants to use the microwave has to first hit "clear" before being able to set it. Every. Single. Time. Not to mention that the microwave clock is the only clock in the kitchen, so when she does this I can't tell what time it is if I'm in the kitchen unless I hit "clear" or go to a different room to find a clock.

I don't even understand #1, your coffee maker sounds complicated and if I was a guest I would probably do the same thing??

I couldn't figure it out either!!

Sorry, it was hard to explain! Like this:
http://m.surlatable.com/product/PRO-1774900/Bonavita+8+Cup+Coffee+Maker+with+Thermal+Carafe
And yes, FIL definitely knows how to deal with the coffeemaker; he's just being lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my inlaws (both parents and all of the sibs) always sit on the furniture with their feet curled up under them - not just resting on the furniture but really digging and rubbing into the fabric. Gross!! We don't do shoes inside the house so this is their bare skanky feet rubbing into the upholstery (shoes doing this would be worse of course but both are totally unacceptable in my view). who does this???

I'll join you on this one. MIL does this at her house, but she's recently been visiting more often due to our new baby and sat on the couch with her bare feet bent along side of her. She then proceeded to touch her feet (seemingly not conscious of it--hoping, at least as that is gross). I kept DC away from her the rest of the visit, but was prepared to ask her to rewash her hands if she wanted to hold the baby again.

I'm pretty anal retentive, but some of you people are just plain nuts. Trust me, your little snowflake will survive. I hope you understand that you are alienating your MIL for a really petty reason. If she is kind to you, your husband, and your children, then you should count your blessings.

My snowflake is a fresh from 10w in the NICU preemie and MIL picking at her dirty feet is and was disgusting even before baby. If my DH would've noticed, he'd have said something to her...his own mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL insisted on feeding my dog "people food" even after we told her repeatedly that it makes him sick, so she did it when I wasn't looking. It was a holiday dinner with lots of rich food. We also told her the dog isn't allowed on any floor other than the ground floor, where he has a nice, huge, comfy dog bed. The reason is that the other floors have wall to wall carpet and for some reason he associates the carpeting with being outside and always, ALWAYS, pees on it. So we don't let him upstairs or in the basement. Well, in the middle of the night she decides she's lonely and gets the dog to come into the guest room (in the basement) and sleep with her. Well sure enough in the middle of the night the dog got sick, both threw up and diarrhea, everywhere. So instead of getting us, she grabs a bunch of paper towels, picks up the mess with it, puts it in the toilet, and tries to flush it all at once (not flush as you go), which clogs the toilet and causes it to overflow with the water, dog vomit, dog diarheea and the paper towels everywhere. So then she tries to clean that up with our towels. And then she tries to clean the carpet with bleach. Which results in a broken toilet and ruined wall to wall carpet. She finally woke us up to tell us what she had done and ask for help. It cost me $500 to snake the line and fix the toilet. And it cost $3500 to have the wall to wall carpet replaced. It cost $500 to replace the towels. And it cost another $500 to take the dog to the vet and his medicine. And my MIL yelled at me because she said she didn't know how to clean wall to wall carpet and I should have told her if she was going to be sleep in the guest suite, and I should have told her all along paper towels can't be flushed down the toilet.

I am still dumbfounded by that evening (was a few years ago) and what happened. It was a cluster fuck of fuck ups. And I have a relatively good relationship with my MIL, still do, but this is still a sore subject for me.

Ok, this is not petty! What a disaster! Does she still stay with you? And off topic, how did the towels cost $500?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can anyone top these petty complaints?!:

1) In the morning if FIL is the first to get to the drip coffeemaker after it's done brewing, instead of taking the part with the filter off and screwing on the pouring lid, he just takes the filter-top off, pours his coffee, and then puts the filter-top back on. So the next person (usually me) has to deal with throwing out the filter/grinds, rinsing the filter-top, and screwing on the pouring top.

2) When SIL uses the microwave, when her item is almost done she just opens the door before time is up, takes out her item, and closes the door. So the next person (again, usually me) who wants to use the microwave has to first hit "clear" before being able to set it. Every. Single. Time. Not to mention that the microwave clock is the only clock in the kitchen, so when she does this I can't tell what time it is if I'm in the kitchen unless I hit "clear" or go to a different room to find a clock.

I don't even understand #1, your coffee maker sounds complicated and if I was a guest I would probably do the same thing??

I don't get the problem with #2. Maybe she's trying to be considerate to stop the microwave before it stops and starts beeping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL insisted on feeding my dog "people food" even after we told her repeatedly that it makes him sick, so she did it when I wasn't looking. It was a holiday dinner with lots of rich food. We also told her the dog isn't allowed on any floor other than the ground floor, where he has a nice, huge, comfy dog bed. The reason is that the other floors have wall to wall carpet and for some reason he associates the carpeting with being outside and always, ALWAYS, pees on it. So we don't let him upstairs or in the basement. Well, in the middle of the night she decides she's lonely and gets the dog to come into the guest room (in the basement) and sleep with her. Well sure enough in the middle of the night the dog got sick, both threw up and diarrhea, everywhere. So instead of getting us, she grabs a bunch of paper towels, picks up the mess with it, puts it in the toilet, and tries to flush it all at once (not flush as you go), which clogs the toilet and causes it to overflow with the water, dog vomit, dog diarheea and the paper towels everywhere. So then she tries to clean that up with our towels. And then she tries to clean the carpet with bleach. Which results in a broken toilet and ruined wall to wall carpet. She finally woke us up to tell us what she had done and ask for help. It cost me $500 to snake the line and fix the toilet. And it cost $3500 to have the wall to wall carpet replaced. It cost $500 to replace the towels. And it cost another $500 to take the dog to the vet and his medicine. And my MIL yelled at me because she said she didn't know how to clean wall to wall carpet and I should have told her if she was going to be sleep in the guest suite, and I should have told her all along paper towels can't be flushed down the toilet.

I am still dumbfounded by that evening (was a few years ago) and what happened. It was a cluster fuck of fuck ups. And I have a relatively good relationship with my MIL, still do, but this is still a sore subject for me.

Ok, this is not petty! What a disaster! Does she still stay with you? And off topic, how did the towels cost $500?

Because she used every single one in the linen closet, including hand towels, beach towels and wash clothes. It was over 25+ towels, all had to be thrown away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my inlaws (both parents and all of the sibs) always sit on the furniture with their feet curled up under them - not just resting on the furniture but really digging and rubbing into the fabric. Gross!! We don't do shoes inside the house so this is their bare skanky feet rubbing into the upholstery (shoes doing this would be worse of course but both are totally unacceptable in my view). who does this???

Humans. Humans do that. Including me and pretty much everyone I know. The reas question is who doesn't do that.

I don't do it. I'm not a cat, and definitely don't' do it in somebody else's house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my inlaws (both parents and all of the sibs) always sit on the furniture with their feet curled up under them - not just resting on the furniture but really digging and rubbing into the fabric. Gross!! We don't do shoes inside the house so this is their bare skanky feet rubbing into the upholstery (shoes doing this would be worse of course but both are totally unacceptable in my view). who does this???

Humans. Humans do that. Including me and pretty much everyone I know. The reas question is who doesn't do that.

Yuck. I would never do this on any furniture except for my own. I have never seen a man or grown woman sit like this. Just college girls.

+1 million.

I would never do this either. I'm going to get flamed for this, but I think it's a white people thing. I am AA and whenever my white friends visit my home, they do this, in addition to picking their feet and plucking the skin all over my floor. I cringe every time. These are highly educated, professional, kind, generous, upstanding citizens of society, I might add (should anyone accuse my friends being "poor white trash").