I'm a stripper. AMA.

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Anonymous wrote:seriously, names. what sorts of names do the other dancers actually have, and what sorts of names are chosen as stage names?

Anonymity (or near-anonymity) is invaluable. No potentially personally identifiable info, sorry!

that is why I said "sorts of" names. If you read the name threads on this site you'll see that the issue of what is or isn't a "stripper name" comes up often. There is a fear among the middle class that giving your kid the wrong name will doom them to a career like stripping. The most useful thread we ever had on it was one where someone had recently been at a strip club and posted the list of stage names and instead of being what's commonly ID'd here as "stripper names" it was girl-next-door stuff like Amanda. That's all we're asking. Nobody is asking for your or anyone else's PII.

Okay, I see. First of all, DCUM, you're not giving your girls stripper names! I use an actual name, but most of the women I work with use object names: scents, flowers, locations, etc.

Thank you, OP! I am going to quote you from now on for all of the "that's a stripper name" threads. "A real actual stripper on DCUM says that..." Yay!

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Anonymous wrote:Are the girls mean to one another? How do women behave as opposed to men when they come in? Do you have regulars? Do you like them or just like their money?

The girls who are mean/ dramatic tend to be younger, with little going on outside of the club (not in school, no husband/kids, no goals). As with any job, I just avoid them and stay under the radar, and focus on why I'm there: to make money.

As with men, the women who come in are sometimes great, sometimes awful. It typically seems to be more of a novelty or a gag to women; men tend to be looking for some sort of connection, or fulfillment of some sort (not sexual, believe it or not).

I have a few regulars, and honestly the vibe is so much more "Cheers" than Playboy Mansion. I have one regular who just likes to chat and work on the crossword together. I do genuinely like my regulars. Yes, I hustle, but I'm successful because I excel at customer service and that's really all the job is about.

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Do you really think the men who come in wouldn't be able to find out your real name, address, etc ?

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Does it matter to you that many of your customers are coming there against the wishes or without the knowledge of their significant others?

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Anonymous wrote:I hear the men aren't allowed to touch you at all? Is that true?

Also, how do you answer the question "how was work?" From your husband?

What are you going to do if someone you know shows up where you work? Happened to my friend, she ended up giving a lap dance to a mutual friends little brother (we were HS seniors when he was in eighth grade, for a little context) when she was stripping in Vegas in the 90's. She didn't recognize him until it was too late. Awful experience since he told EVERYONE

It is true. Some clubs allow it (some even encourage it), but I work in a "clean" club.

I'm honest with him. I'm unconventional and he knows who he married. We don't talk much about it, though. We leave work at work.

I work in a different city than where I live and can only hope it doesn't happen. Also, 18 year old boys and 35 year old men are quite different: I'm hoping the latter would have more maturity and discretion than to stir the pot.

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Hey OP:

I have had the pleasure of knowing many strippers, prostitutes, and strip-club waitresses in my time thanks to growing up very poor. While I didn't make that choice, I sometimes wonder why I didn't at least waitress at one.

Anyway, the work v/s stay at home debate is a farce. Most women do not have a choice at all and have not throughout history. America's Stay At Homes are history's 1%.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you really think the men who come in wouldn't be able to find out your real name, address, etc ?

I really do. If a stalker was dead set on finding out information on me (God forbid), of course he could, as could a PI. But I have a fake bio that I recite and am wise about safety. Safety is the club's top priority, too.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter to you that many of your customers are coming there against the wishes or without the knowledge of their significant others?

No. Even if I wasn't a dancer, the industry would still exist. Grown-ups are responsible for their own actions, period.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter to you that many of your customers are coming there against the wishes or without the knowledge of their significant others?

No. Even if I wasn't a dancer, the industry would still exist. Grown-ups are responsible for their own actions, period.

I don't have a problem with what you do, but that answer is not really justification. Almost any crime and hurtful action can be justified in this manner.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter to you that many of your customers are coming there against the wishes or without the knowledge of their significant others?

No. Even if I wasn't a dancer, the industry would still exist. Grown-ups are responsible for their own actions, period.

I don't have a problem with what you do, but that answer is not really justification. Almost any crime and hurtful action can be justified in this manner.

OP is not responsible for other people's choices.

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Anonymous wrote:Hey OP:

I have had the pleasure of knowing many strippers, prostitutes, and strip-club waitresses in my time thanks to growing up very poor. While I didn't make that choice, I sometimes wonder why I didn't at least waitress at one.

Anyway, the work v/s stay at home debate is a farce. Most women do not have a choice at all and have not throughout history. America's Stay At Homes are history's 1%.

It's probably better for you that you stayed out of this world entirely. It IS toxic.

Agreed regarding the SAHM/WOHM "debate." What a luxury to even have such a debate.

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Do you feel there's a certain kind of clientele that approaches you with a kind of fetish for your ethnicity?

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OP, you skipped my question:

Anonymous wrote:How do you expect to find professional full time work with a gap in your resume, assuming that you won't write down "stripper" on your resume?

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter to you that many of your customers are coming there against the wishes or without the knowledge of their significant others?

No. Even if I wasn't a dancer, the industry would still exist. Grown-ups are responsible for their own actions, period.

I don't have a problem with what you do, but that answer is not really justification. Almost any crime and hurtful action can be justified in this manner.

I think you're reaching. What do you want me to say? It's my fault some men are scumbags? I'm not going to say that.

There have always been and will always be deceitful, selfish, hedonistic men. Whether they frequent strip clubs/ bars/ casinos/ "massage parlors" or anything else is their prerogative. Adults must be accountable for their own actions. If I drink too much, I'm not going to get pissed at the bartender for serving drinks - there are plenty of people who can enjoy their time at the bar responsibly. It's not the bartender's fault that I can't.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you skipped my question:

Anonymous wrote:How do you expect to find professional full time work with a gap in your resume, assuming that you won't write down "stripper" on your resume?

Actually, you skipped my answer. I hold a part time volunteer position relevant to my field.