I'm a stripper. AMA.

[Anonymous]

OP - thanks for an interesting thread. Have you thought about continuing to look for a professional job while you strip? You are clearly very intelligent and hard working and I really think you could find something clear to what you make (around 95,000). Two questions:
Is hiding what you do emotionally problematic? I would hate hiding a big part of my life from my relatives. When you were abused as a child did you tell your mother? If not, why? If yes, did she leave your dad? TIA

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you process, in a healthy way, men sitting there for hours staring at your body parts like you're subhuman? Do you have a mental game/trick that gives you a feeling of empowerment over this? Does it feel familiar, as a sexual abuse survivor? No judgment in this question, more purely psychological curiosity.

It does seem like there is judgement in your question. I don't think about this. I just try to do my job and entertain.

I'm sorry you sense judgment in the question. There really isn't. Most of the men watching you are not there to enjoy the artistry of your dancing, or even to appreciate you physically as a whole person, and they're not thinking about what an intelligent and nice person you are. They're reducing you to sexual body parts. Especially the sex addicts. A woman who chooses your line of work needs a defense against the sense that she's reduced to this. Some come to despise men, some self-medicate to block it out, some despise themselves. I'm just surprised your therapist hasn't addressed this with you, and that you haven't given it more thought. I think it's important to work through for anyone, but especially if you have a history of sexual abuse, where someone has ignored who you are as a person and reduced you to body parts for their sexual use in a very traumatic way.

I agree. It seems so obvious to me that this life choice is not about empowerment or earning potential.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you process, in a healthy way, men sitting there for hours staring at your body parts like you're subhuman? Do you have a mental game/trick that gives you a feeling of empowerment over this? Does it feel familiar, as a sexual abuse survivor? No judgment in this question, more purely psychological curiosity.

It does seem like there is judgement in your question. I don't think about this. I just try to do my job and entertain.

I'm sorry you sense judgment in the question. There really isn't. Most of the men watching you are not there to enjoy the artistry of your dancing, or even to appreciate you physically as a whole person, and they're not thinking about what an intelligent and nice person you are. They're reducing you to sexual body parts. Especially the sex addicts. A woman who chooses your line of work needs a defense against the sense that she's reduced to this. Some come to despise men, some self-medicate to block it out, some despise themselves. I'm just surprised your therapist hasn't addressed this with you, and that you haven't given it more thought. I think it's important to work through for anyone, but especially if you have a history of sexual abuse, where someone has ignored who you are as a person and reduced you to body parts for their sexual use in a very traumatic way.

I agree. It seems so obvious to me that this life choice is not about empowerment or earning potential.

Not the OP ... But you are over analyzing. It's pretty much about the money. Sounds like a good short term plan - financially - to me! Most of those who are criticizing and judging are maybe just a little bit jealous but more than that they think they know more than you (about you and everything else). A lot of the DCUM crowd doesn't get the concept of walking in another person's shoes. They think we all need to fit into their shoes! Don't worry about it. You are not damaged and the men who watch you dance are just having fun and appreciating you - that money they throw at you? It's a compliment. Enjoy it while you can!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - thanks for an interesting thread. Have you thought about continuing to look for a professional job while you strip? You are clearly very intelligent and hard working and I really think you could find something clear to what you make (around 95,000). Two questions:
Is hiding what you do emotionally problematic? I would hate hiding a big part of my life from my relatives. When you were abused as a child did you tell your mother? If not, why? If yes, did she leave your dad? TIA

Any response?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you process, in a healthy way, men sitting there for hours staring at your body parts like you're subhuman? Do you have a mental game/trick that gives you a feeling of empowerment over this? Does it feel familiar, as a sexual abuse survivor? No judgment in this question, more purely psychological curiosity.

It does seem like there is judgement in your question. I don't think about this. I just try to do my job and entertain.

I'm sorry you sense judgment in the question. There really isn't. Most of the men watching you are not there to enjoy the artistry of your dancing, or even to appreciate you physically as a whole person, and they're not thinking about what an intelligent and nice person you are. They're reducing you to sexual body parts. Especially the sex addicts. A woman who chooses your line of work needs a defense against the sense that she's reduced to this. Some come to despise men, some self-medicate to block it out, some despise themselves. I'm just surprised your therapist hasn't addressed this with you, and that you haven't given it more thought. I think it's important to work through for anyone, but especially if you have a history of sexual abuse, where someone has ignored who you are as a person and reduced you to body parts for their sexual use in a very traumatic way.

I agree. It seems so obvious to me that this life choice is not about empowerment or earning potential.

Not the OP ... But you are over analyzing. It's pretty much about the money. Sounds like a good short term plan - financially - to me! Most of those who are criticizing and judging are maybe just a little bit jealous but more than that they think they know more than you (about you and everything else). A lot of the DCUM crowd doesn't get the concept of walking in another person's shoes. They think we all need to fit into their shoes! Don't worry about it. You are not damaged and the men who watch you dance are just having fun and appreciating you - that money they throw at you? It's a compliment. Enjoy it while you can!

PP to whom you are responding: I was a stripper, I'm not at all jealous, and my perspective is based on experience and first-hand observation.

Sure, the men are having fun, and they're thinking about f****** the strippers.

[Anonymous]

I had asked the earlier questions about how she processes being dehumanized by a certain percentage of the clients, especially in light of her seeking therapy for past sexual abuse, and as it turns out, the non-response is the response. Deny, rationalize, pretend it's not what it is. It's how a lot of us humans make it through the day.

[Anonymous]

Where did you go OP?