Dog destroying marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

MommaRN wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Didn't you post this a few months ago? Were you the poster who was heavily pregnant and was allowing the dog to defecate on the balcony because you couldn't carry him/her down the stairs?

Boom! I KNEW I'd heard this story before!

I reported it. I think the OP is making things up.

The two stories don't match up, but the OP of both is nuts. And disgusting.

[MommaRN]

Anonymous wrote:Ok as noted I will NOT be lugging the dog and the kids up and down the stairs. Why is this so difficult for you to understand? Do you have young kids?

So what you're looking for is validation from strangers that it's OK to let your dog pee and poo out on the balcony? I hope your DH finds this so he sees that some people are on his side

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but that is bs. How many of you walk your dog eight times per day? She gets walked twice, when DH gets home and before he leaves. The dog has had a long life and priorities change. I'm not a single woman with no other commitmentS anymore. She gets good care and lots of love and I am absolutely entitled to put my well being above the dog. I take care of the whole family, I have needs too.

This is ridiculous, OP. Many people have two young children and a dog. Dogs need to be walked more than 2 times a day. What do parents of young kids do? Put both kids in a double stroller. Wear one in an Ergo and walk the other while walking the dog. Whatever.

You are "entitled" to put yourself above a dog that has served you loyal and is now elderly and helpless. You are entitled to have a neglected dog pee all over your balcony and cause tension in your marriage. But you are not entitled to people approving you or to your husband being okay with that.

You are choosing your self-care priorities and causing your dog and your husband to be inconvienced and uncomfortable.

Sorry I had to come back and respond. I know people do this. They don't do it eight times per day. If any poster with kids is walking their dog eight times per day please say so. If anyone lets their dog out to potty eight times per day ease say so. This is not a normal situation.

[Anonymous]

Heck if any poster without kids walks their dog or let's them out eight times per day please let me know. No one will. Because it's not reasonable.

[Anonymous]

And yes I am absolutely putting my self care priorities above those of the dog and the husband. 100 percent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And yes I am absolutely putting my self care priorities above those of the dog and the husband. 100 percent

Presumably your DH can take care of himself. Your dog cannot. Rehome her if that's your attitude. Good luck rehoming a 16 year old incontinent dachshund.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And yes I am absolutely putting my self care priorities above those of the dog and the husband. 100 percent

Presumably your DH can take care of himself. Your dog cannot. Rehome her if that's your attitude. Good luck rehoming a 16 year old incontinent dachshund.

omg it's a dachshund?!?! So tiny. Pick the thing up and take it down for a quick pee 8x a day (I think you're exaggerating this number). So little. Or make it wear a diaper. Easy.

[Anonymous]

I have been in your situation OP right down to letting the dog use the balcony (we could not use the balcony of course and after the dog was gone we had it refinished and we needed to replace quite a bit of flooring and wood trim because eventually pee seeped into the floor boards and the trim. At the time this was going on, I was really sick, my DH was always traveling and I had just had my child.

My dog was healthy except for the incontinence and not being able to get up and down the stairs. In hindsight, I now realize that I let her linger much longer than I should have and her quality of life was gone. I should have done the kinder thing far before I did. I am most definitely an animal lover and loved our dog very much and still miss her though it's been years.

My vet tried to kindly steer me that way pointing out that there was no medication or treatment available and that I had to realize that things would only continue to decline not get better. He was right. It took me about a year before I could let go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heck if any poster without kids walks their dog or let's them out eight times per day please let me know. No one will. Because it's not reasonable.

I do and I was out with a dog 8 times daily or more when pregnant with all my children. And when I had babies I shoveled paths for a dog in deep snow. Why do people get dogs if they won't let them do their business?

My marriage would suffer if I or DH would not allow a living being to eliminate on a humane basis. This is a weird thread.

[Anonymous]

OP, what about doggie daycare during the day? This should cut down on your trips quite a bit. If DH picks the pooch up from daycare on his way home from work, then you're both home to take the dog out properly. Win-win?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are 3 and 1.

What about the one that you were supposed to give birth to in mid-January, per your previous post about how you had to run away to the Marriott in the middle of the night?

Yeah, I remember her now! She said that she had to check in while wearing her robe. She wanted to kick her husband to the curb and fly to her parent's home and give birth because she was so upset that her husband wanted her to put the dog down because of its age and condition.

She said that she was too pregnant and unsteady to continue carrying the dog up and down the stairs anymore and wanted her DH to do it. She refused to reason with her husband, so she started letting the dog do his business on the balcony which her husband thought was unsanitary. Now she is saying that she has two toddlers. Wonder if she made up the pregnancy for sympathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok as noted I will NOT be lugging the dog and the kids up and down the stairs. Why is this so difficult for you to understand? Do you have young kids?

Our dog walker has two kids. She manages to walk numerous dogs +stroller 5-6x a day. She goes .5 miles each time.

I don't see the issue.

That actually sounds really difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heck if any poster without kids walks their dog or let's them out eight times per day please let me know. No one will. Because it's not reasonable.

Actually we do--possibly even more than 8 times, because she tries to weasel treats out of us each time. Our dog is on prednisone, so she drinks a lot and therefore pees a lot. She'll usually get up with me at 7am to potty before I go to work; DH will leave her out at 9am when he leaves for work; she wears a diaper until he comes home at lunch to let her out around 1pm and then diapers her again; I let her out when I get home at 5; she'll then want to go out after dinner and 1-2 more times before bed. She'll want out at 12am and 3am. Is it an inconvenience? Yes, but we love her and don't want her to get a bladder infection or UTI. No resentment or laziness--we both pitch in for our dog.

We rarely find her doggie diapers wet, but put them on her just in case.


These are wonderful to put on furniture and on her bed:
http://www.petsmart.com/dog/potty-training/top-paw-washable-training-pad-zid36-25943/cat-36-catid-100127?var_id=36-25943&_t=pfm%3Dcategory

Are you using just the disposable potty pads or do you have a holder? (I'd be less grossed out by your balcony "arrangement" if you were using a holder or Tinkle Turf.)

You say your DH is walking the dog twice? You can't bother to take the dog out front to pee 1-2 times throughout the day? Smh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok as noted I will NOT be lugging the dog and the kids up and down the stairs. Why is this so difficult for you to understand? Do you have young kids?

Our dog walker has two kids. She manages to walk numerous dogs +stroller 5-6x a day. She goes .5 miles each time.

I don't see the issue.

That actually sounds really difficult.

Not the same as lugging a dog up/down stairs every couple (I'm assuming) of hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn't you post this a few months ago? Were you the poster who was heavily pregnant and was allowing the dog to defecate on the balcony because you couldn't carry him/her down the stairs?

I remember her too...