I feel like everyday is a shit day since having kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP--perhaps you should try these 5 things before getting out of bed each morning. Costs nothing and won't hurt.

http://www.bodymindsoulspirit.com/5-things-happy-people-do-before-getting-out-of-bed-every-morning/

NP here. Thanks for sharing this!

[Anonymous]

Sounds to me like you might need to take a parenting class or read a discipline book. If your kids were better behaved, you'd be having a better time.

I know you feel like you *are* disciplining them, but obviously whatever you are doing doesn't work for your kids--no judgement. Every kid is different, every parent is different and your natural style just isn't working with their personalities.

So find someone to work with that can give you some tips on what to do to keep them from driving you (and the people around you) crazy. Do you have childcare workers in your life or teachers? They can give you some insight.

I think you can overcome all the things that are making your life shit, jut need to think about how to do things differently.

[Anonymous]

I haven't had a good day since having my child. I got care, got put on drugs, and it still sucks. OP might it want advice other than to know she's not alone.

My pre-kid life was immeasurably better in every single way. I truly don't enjoy being a parent - I've been told to lie and eventually it'll happen. Still waiting.

Take it one day at a time and try to find one thing that makes you happy every day, regardless of what it is.

I haven't slept in years and my body is slowly dying from lack of sleep or anything healthy. I'm trying to find that one thing and sometimes it's that I haven't smacked anyone (not kid. Just anyone in general. Would never hurt kid)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't had a good day since having my child. I got care, got put on drugs, and it still sucks. OP might it want advice other than to know she's not alone.

My pre-kid life was immeasurably better in every single way. I truly don't enjoy being a parent - I've been told to lie and eventually it'll happen. Still waiting.

Take it one day at a time and try to find one thing that makes you happy every day, regardless of what it is.

I haven't slept in years and my body is slowly dying from lack of sleep or anything healthy. I'm trying to find that one thing and sometimes it's that I haven't smacked anyone (not kid. Just anyone in general. Would never hurt kid)

How old is your kid? I felt this way but it started to get better around the 3 year mark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't had a good day since having my child. I got care, got put on drugs, and it still sucks. OP might it want advice other than to know she's not alone.

My pre-kid life was immeasurably better in every single way. I truly don't enjoy being a parent - I've been told to lie and eventually it'll happen. Still waiting.

Take it one day at a time and try to find one thing that makes you happy every day, regardless of what it is.

I haven't slept in years and my body is slowly dying from lack of sleep or anything healthy. I'm trying to find that one thing and sometimes it's that I haven't smacked anyone (not kid. Just anyone in general. Would never hurt kid)

How old is your kid? I felt this way but it started to get better around the 3 year mark.

NP: Thank you for this. In the monotony of a needy, sleepless 1 year old, and your post gives me hope.

[Anonymous]

If you stopped at one, you would be in heaven with one 5 yo right now. Well, most of the days
Didn't you know what it was like before deciding to have another?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't had a good day since having my child. I got care, got put on drugs, and it still sucks. OP might it want advice other than to know she's not alone.

My pre-kid life was immeasurably better in every single way. I truly don't enjoy being a parent - I've been told to lie and eventually it'll happen. Still waiting.

Take it one day at a time and try to find one thing that makes you happy every day, regardless of what it is.

I haven't slept in years and my body is slowly dying from lack of sleep or anything healthy. I'm trying to find that one thing and sometimes it's that I haven't smacked anyone (not kid. Just anyone in general. Would never hurt kid)

How old is your child? After his 4th birthday, my never sleep trained kid started sleeping all night most of the nights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yesterday was an ok day. Today was another shit day. I seriously think I am trapped in hell sometimes of whining screaming children. Woke up to kids jumping on me, kicking my face, stepping on my stomach. Fun. DH took kids downstairs to feed them breakfast. I stare at several loads of laundry. I am pretty sure I just did 2 loads on Friday. Walk downstairs and fight with 1 kid because he didn't want to eat his breakfast. Other kid keeps dropping food from his fork. Then he knocks down his drink. Kids start playing, screaming and hitting one another. DH turns the tv on for like 2 hours. Met up with a friend for lunch. Kids are running around the restaurant, spilling drinks, crawling under the table. We run to get some coffee and kids are running around and screaming. They are the exact kids that used to annoy me so much before I had kids. I escaped to go grocery shopping and run to Costco. Lines are insanely long and kids are whining and screaming bloody murder that they are starving when I get home. Throughout the day, I am scolding them and trying to get them to listen.

I really can't stand this life. Maybe I was not meant to be a mom. Some moms may have infinite patience. I seriously am irritated all day long. The kids do not bring me much joy. They fight all freakin day long, make messes all day along and annoy the hell out of me.

I thought perhaps I was exaggerating about the 360 bad days out of year. Unfortunately, I really do have 360 bad days.

I remember watching Super Nanny episodes featuring families like this. I believe what you have is a discipline issue on your hands. That and probably you need to MAKE more fun with your kids, even if that means you and your husband do it one-on-one with your children so they're not annoying each other (and therefore you). Seriously. Consider that you need to learn some things about setting expectations, letting certain things go, and addressing high-stress behaviors in an *effective* way.

[Anonymous]

I agree. Your kids are poorly behaved and it's making you miserable. Time to try something new.