All the guys I like on match do not want potential matches to have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are on match, and as other PPs have said, there are ways to filter out men who have no kids so that only divorced/single dads will fall into your search results.

You can also indicate in your own profile that you are looking for someone with kids or who wants to have kids - so that way if a man does look at your profile, he knows (if he's paying attention) what you want in a potential partner.

All that said, in your profile itself, I would be very clear that you are looking to meet/date someone who understands family life, or someone who themselves is a single parent. You don't need to write an essay on this but a sentence or two that clearly and succinctly conveys this is important.

I was on match for a little while and as single dad myself, only went on dates with single parents or women who had been divorced and/or who indicated they were open to the idea of blending a family. I can tell you that while online dating is a bit rough, I had no shortage of dates.

It took time, as dating does no matter how you meet someone, to find someone. I met someone who is a great fit for me (as I am to her) - she's a single parent and she completely understood the life as a single parent. The key is to be able to find or attract that type of person through your profile and through your own search criteria.

Take a careful look at your profile, your search criteria. If you know men who can look at your profile that would also be helpful as they can give you feedback on what men look for in a profile. Also think about the demographic you are searching through - age, ethnicity, education, distance, etc.

By the way, she contacted me first. And she found me only because one day she unmarked "Caucasian" in her filter and apparently my profile popped up as a top choice in her results.

Good luck!

~dd

This is a good post!

Thanks. I edited my profile

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd date you. I am separated 47 with two kids.

Come back when you're divorced!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So this is my day 2 on Match and I am surprised I am getting tons of messages and winks from men whose profiles indicate they do not want to date women with kids... Hmmm! This is really confusing. Of course, I instantly think they just want sex and I am not interested in just getting laid. Dating websites are not necessary for that, right? Anyway, I answered only one guy so far. What is up with winking? I do not even want to see who winked at me as I think it's so childish... I am so new to this and honestly, am nervous about going out with strangers. I guess I will get used to it. Parenthood has definitely made me paranoid and uptight. I am afraid men will sense that.

This just in. Any woman on a dating website who does not look like Honey Boo Boo's mother gets tons of messages.

This is why if I am ever reincarnated, I want to come back as a woman. Could walk into a bar and find someone to get laid anytime I want. Or go online and have dozens of people wanting to date me.

No guarantee that you will orgasm when you get laid!

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm the same age as you. I find that I fare much better in person. I've met guys while DC is with me, while hanging with friends, and through work. My married friends have husbands that have tried to match me with their friends as well. Online was hit or miss for me. My best guy friend once volunteered to look at my profile years ago. His tweaking lead to alot more hits. He said I didn't have enough full body pics. I have a nice figure but wrongly assumed that more than a few photos would attract guys looking for sex. In fact, it was the opposite. My modesty translated online to having something to hide (like 30 extra pounds, for example). I also talked about ish men didn't care about, according to him.lol

I don't know why single dads are suggested as if they're everywhere. Most "single dads" have visitation every other weekend. 90% of the guys I've met have been single/no kids. I think you should consider guys closer in age to you as well. It's great that you're willing to go to 45, but how about 28-45? Recently, I told a friend that I'm no longer asking a guy for his age. I've met soooo many twentysomethings and ruled them out solely based on age.

How long have you been single?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why single dads are suggested as if they're everywhere. Most "single dads" have visitation every other weekend. 90% of the guys I've met have been single/no kids. I think you should consider guys closer in age to you as well. It's great that you're willing to go to 45, but how about 28-45? Recently, I told a friend that I'm no longer asking a guy for his age. I've met soooo many twentysomethings and ruled them out solely based on age.

How long have you been single?

perhaps it's your demographic where this is true. But in my circles, single dads have 50% custody and have the kid(s) 50% of the time.

as for dating the young guys (28-ish) - sure, have your fun. But having been in my 20s myself, I can tell you the vast majority of them will not have the first clue of the lifestyle of a single parent and the "life" maturity level is far below what you want, will need or will expect. Are there exceptions, yes, but good luck with finding that one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So this is my day 2 on Match and I am surprised I am getting tons of messages and winks from men whose profiles indicate they do not want to date women with kids... Hmmm! This is really confusing. Of course, I instantly think they just want sex and I am not interested in just getting laid. Dating websites are not necessary for that, right? Anyway, I answered only one guy so far. What is up with winking? I do not even want to see who winked at me as I think it's so childish... I am so new to this and honestly, am nervous about going out with strangers. I guess I will get used to it. Parenthood has definitely made me paranoid and uptight. I am afraid men will sense that.

This just in. Any woman on a dating website who does not look like Honey Boo Boo's mother gets tons of messages.

This is why if I am ever reincarnated, I want to come back as a woman. Could walk into a bar and find someone to get laid anytime I want. Or go online and have dozens of people wanting to date me.

I'm a woman, fairly attractive but married. How exactly could I walk into a bar and get laid? Would a guy who's married or living with someone just want to do it in their car?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a very hot friend who is 29 with a kid and she gets literally 100+ messages a week on okcupid. A good 35-50% are actually messages that looked like the guy read her profile and in her age range.

So i can't believe what the OP is saying is true if she is as hot as she says she is. Guys will definitely not care if she is that hot.

I did not mean to boast about my looks. I signed up just yesterday and searched myself to see what is out there. Yes, now I am getting many messages from all kinds of guys, ages 30-50. It is strange to me that guys who say "women with NO kids" express their interest. That just shows that they need one thing only and probably think single moms are desperate. Those in their 50's are nuts to think I would be interested. I still want to have more children, well at least one more. Has your friend met anyone in person from the website?

It doesn't necessarily mean the bolded. Likely, it means they just looked at your pictures and didn't read your profile carefully.

Why would you date a guy who's not detail oriented?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in a weird position in that I am too old to have another child (39 yrs old) but I have a child already. Even the single dads aren't too interested b/c I have my child with me 24/7. Never married guys want someone younger who can still have kids. Sigh.

You do not want to marry a man who has never been married at the age of 39. There is a reason they have never been married- trust me, I married one and it was a disaster. So count yourself lucky that the never-marrieds are not interested in you. Look for divorced or widowed men, preferably with children of their own already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So this is my day 2 on Match and I am surprised I am getting tons of messages and winks from men whose profiles indicate they do not want to date women with kids... Hmmm! This is really confusing. Of course, I instantly think they just want sex and I am not interested in just getting laid. Dating websites are not necessary for that, right? Anyway, I answered only one guy so far. What is up with winking? I do not even want to see who winked at me as I think it's so childish... I am so new to this and honestly, am nervous about going out with strangers. I guess I will get used to it. Parenthood has definitely made me paranoid and uptight. I am afraid men will sense that.

This just in. Any woman on a dating website who does not look like Honey Boo Boo's mother gets tons of messages.

This is why if I am ever reincarnated, I want to come back as a woman. Could walk into a bar and find someone to get laid anytime I want. Or go online and have dozens of people wanting to date me.

I'm a woman, fairly attractive but married. How exactly could I walk into a bar and get laid? Would a guy who's married or living with someone just want to do it in their car?

There are these places called hotels, where you can rent a room for a short period of time...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So this is my day 2 on Match and I am surprised I am getting tons of messages and winks from men whose profiles indicate they do not want to date women with kids... Hmmm! This is really confusing. Of course, I instantly think they just want sex and I am not interested in just getting laid. Dating websites are not necessary for that, right? Anyway, I answered only one guy so far. What is up with winking? I do not even want to see who winked at me as I think it's so childish... I am so new to this and honestly, am nervous about going out with strangers. I guess I will get used to it. Parenthood has definitely made me paranoid and uptight. I am afraid men will sense that.

This just in. Any woman on a dating website who does not look like Honey Boo Boo's mother gets tons of messages.

This is why if I am ever reincarnated, I want to come back as a woman. Could walk into a bar and find someone to get laid anytime I want. Or go online and have dozens of people wanting to date me.

No guarantee that you will orgasm when you get laid!

Your chances will be better if you take an active role during sex instead of just laying back and waiting for him to "give" you an orgasm. Men wouldn't orgasm as much either if they mostly passive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So this is my day 2 on Match and I am surprised I am getting tons of messages and winks from men whose profiles indicate they do not want to date women with kids... Hmmm! This is really confusing. Of course, I instantly think they just want sex and I am not interested in just getting laid. Dating websites are not necessary for that, right? Anyway, I answered only one guy so far. What is up with winking? I do not even want to see who winked at me as I think it's so childish... I am so new to this and honestly, am nervous about going out with strangers. I guess I will get used to it. Parenthood has definitely made me paranoid and uptight. I am afraid men will sense that.

This just in. Any woman on a dating website who does not look like Honey Boo Boo's mother gets tons of messages.

This is why if I am ever reincarnated, I want to come back as a woman. Could walk into a bar and find someone to get laid anytime I want. Or go online and have dozens of people wanting to date me.

I'm a woman, fairly attractive but married. How exactly could I walk into a bar and get laid? Would a guy who's married or living with someone just want to do it in their car?

There are these places called hotels, where you can rent a room for a short period of time...

Any decent looking woman can get laid within the hour, but not necessarily with Prince Charming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in a weird position in that I am too old to have another child (39 yrs old) but I have a child already. Even the single dads aren't too interested b/c I have my child with me 24/7. Never married guys want someone younger who can still have kids. Sigh.

You do not want to marry a man who has never been married at the age of 39. There is a reason they have never been married- trust me, I married one and it was a disaster. So count yourself lucky that the never-marrieds are not interested in you. Look for divorced or widowed men, preferably with children of their own already.

There's a reason why they are divorced, too.

I see what you're saying, but by a certain age, everyone has some dirt. And a lack of dirt, is a kind of dirt, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So this is my day 2 on Match and I am surprised I am getting tons of messages and winks from men whose profiles indicate they do not want to date women with kids... Hmmm! This is really confusing. Of course, I instantly think they just want sex and I am not interested in just getting laid. Dating websites are not necessary for that, right? Anyway, I answered only one guy so far. What is up with winking? I do not even want to see who winked at me as I think it's so childish... I am so new to this and honestly, am nervous about going out with strangers. I guess I will get used to it. Parenthood has definitely made me paranoid and uptight. I am afraid men will sense that.

This just in. Any woman on a dating website who does not look like Honey Boo Boo's mother gets tons of messages.

This is why if I am ever reincarnated, I want to come back as a woman. Could walk into a bar and find someone to get laid anytime I want. Or go online and have dozens of people wanting to date me.

No guarantee that you will orgasm when you get laid!

Your chances will be better if you take an active role during sex instead of just laying back and waiting for him to "give" you an orgasm. Men wouldn't orgasm as much either if they mostly passive.

AKA Corpse Sex. How to overcome pencil dick?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So this is my day 2 on Match and I am surprised I am getting tons of messages and winks from men whose profiles indicate they do not want to date women with kids... Hmmm! This is really confusing. Of course, I instantly think they just want sex and I am not interested in just getting laid. Dating websites are not necessary for that, right? Anyway, I answered only one guy so far. What is up with winking? I do not even want to see who winked at me as I think it's so childish... I am so new to this and honestly, am nervous about going out with strangers. I guess I will get used to it. Parenthood has definitely made me paranoid and uptight. I am afraid men will sense that.

This just in. Any woman on a dating website who does not look like Honey Boo Boo's mother gets tons of messages.

This is why if I am ever reincarnated, I want to come back as a woman. Could walk into a bar and find someone to get laid anytime I want. Or go online and have dozens of people wanting to date me.

No guarantee that you will orgasm when you get laid!

Your chances will be better if you take an active role during sex instead of just laying back and waiting for him to "give" you an orgasm. Men wouldn't orgasm as much either if they mostly passive.

AKA Corpse Sex. How to overcome pencil dick?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in a weird position in that I am too old to have another child (39 yrs old) but I have a child already. Even the single dads aren't too interested b/c I have my child with me 24/7. Never married guys want someone younger who can still have kids. Sigh.

You do not want to marry a man who has never been married at the age of 39. There is a reason they have never been married- trust me, I married one and it was a disaster. So count yourself lucky that the never-marrieds are not interested in you. Look for divorced or widowed men, preferably with children of their own already.

I am the 39 year old mom and I've never been married. I guess that makes me a freak too huh?