Posting College Acceptances To FB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a little surprised that the majority of people posting on this thread seem to have a big issue with others posting their kids' college acceptances on Facebook. Now that I'm at the age (46) where some of my friends have kids old enough to be college-bound, I like hearing about where they're going, just as I've enjoyed posts in recent years about their kids' athletic achievements, seeing pictures/videos of their musical performances, etc. I live far from many of my oldest and closest friends, and don't talk to them nearly as much as I used to. So I welcome these glimpses into their lives.

Maybe it's because I only have about 150 Facebook "friends." Pretty much every single person I'm friends with there is someone I genuinely know, value, and wish the best for. If I had 800 "friends" - including every co-worker, classmate, and kids' classmates parents - maybe I'd be a lot less interested in hearing about their kids' accomplishments.

I posted on pg4 along your same lines. I'm 44. I really love knowing my friends kids accomplishments. And I have less friends than you-- maybe 50. But I know each and everyone of my friends. Most of them have been around along time.

[Anonymous]

I think the point is, you can't control other peoples' reactions to your FB post about Larla's acceptance/matriculation to Harvard/Podunk U. So go ahead and post your kid's results. Just know that the reaction to your post will be as mixed as the reactions here: some people, like immediate PP, will be excited to hear Larla's plans, while others among your friends will think you're living vicariously through Larla.

Or, if you're the crass PP, you understand that you have no control, but you simply don't care what they think of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the point is, you can't control other peoples' reactions to your FB post about Larla's acceptance/matriculation to Harvard/Podunk U. So go ahead and post your kid's results. Just know that the reaction to your post will be as mixed as the reactions here: some people, like immediate PP, will be excited to hear Larla's plans, while others among your friends will think you're living vicariously through Larla.

Or, if you're the crass PP, you understand that you have no control, but you simply don't care what they think of you.

This is all of Facebook though. As evidenced by the multitude of Facebook related posters here on DCUM, EVERYTHING that one could post on Facebook will have mixed reactions. You can't post vacation pics because that's bragging about your lifestyle. You can't post food related pics because OMG, that's boring. Don't you have something better to do with your time? You can't post complimentary stuff about your spouse, because if you had a REAL relationship, you'd be saying it to him in person, and you're obviously just trying to give off an impression of being happy when your relationship is actually in shambles.

So, it's not an issue specific to college acceptance letters. People will always judge what others post on Facebook, stop acting like college stuff is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the point is, you can't control other peoples' reactions to your FB post about Larla's acceptance/matriculation to Harvard/Podunk U. So go ahead and post your kid's results. Just know that the reaction to your post will be as mixed as the reactions here: some people, like immediate PP, will be excited to hear Larla's plans, while others among your friends will think you're living vicariously through Larla.

Or, if you're the crass PP, you understand that you have no control, but you simply don't care what they think of you.

This is all of Facebook though. As evidenced by the multitude of Facebook related posters here on DCUM, EVERYTHING that one could post on Facebook will have mixed reactions. You can't post vacation pics because that's bragging about your lifestyle. You can't post food related pics because OMG, that's boring. Don't you have something better to do with your time? You can't post complimentary stuff about your spouse, because if you had a REAL relationship, you'd be saying it to him in person, and you're obviously just trying to give off an impression of being happy when your relationship is actually in shambles.

So, it's not an issue specific to college acceptance letters. People will always judge what others post on Facebook, stop acting like college stuff is different.

Who said college is different? Just know you'll be judged. That's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here - I want to amend my previous remarks to say I don't have a problem with someone posting where their kid is going to attend. Keeping a running tally of all the places he/she was accepted is braggy and pretty gross.

Yeah, but most of FB is braggy and pretty gross.

[Anonymous]

+100

[Anonymous]

This conversation is a bit yesterday's news. Your kids are using social media to comminucate way more than we know as parents. To them, Facebook is a relic. All of this info goes out in real time via Instagram, Snapchat and other medium. Not to mention face2face. Out belief that we can control information flow, and thereby protect the feelings of other students, is at best quaint and certainly naive. Awaken to the information revolution. All that one can do is control our reactions to information. Attempts to control the flow are futile.

[Anonymous]

Fuck Facebook.