Posting College Acceptances To FB

[Anonymous]

He should look at the posts of other kids in his class and think about how they make him feel. Does he feel super happy for Joey who just got in early decision at Super Prestigious U? Or does he feel stressed and kind of jealous? Be the fb friend you want to have.

[Anonymous]

DD delayed posting because a close friend has applied to the same school and DD didn't know the outcome for a while, and then the friend's outcome wasn't positive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD delayed posting because a close friend has applied to the same school and DD didn't know the outcome for a while, and then the friend's outcome wasn't positive.

kudos to your daughter. she's the kind of friend I'd want to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The norm is to post where you are going, not acceptances. So if he's decided to go to a school he posts University of XX, class of 2019.

Our principal specifically asked kids to be sensitive of others and not post acceptances.

+1000000

[Anonymous]

OP again. This is talking about our son posting, not us (parents post about their kids acceptances???). It was NOT binding, so there is no guarantee that he will go there, but it is very likely. I still say no posting until he puts down a deposit.

[Anonymous]

Two kids at/graduated from two independent schools. At both the norm was/is to post where you're going, not acceptances. And yes, kids who post multiple acceptances get negative feedback from peers.

[Anonymous]

My kids are no where close to college but have seen FB friends who are parents posting congrats to their kids for early decision admits (binding).

[Anonymous]

I agree that it's tacky and bragging to post all your acceptances. I myself would not do it, and if my kid asked me what I thought I'd tell him.

But otherwise, I don't police my kid's online presence for tackiness or bragging. I police him to make sure he's not cruel, or criminal, or doing something that will come back to bite him professionally one day, but not for something like this. If he didn't ask, I wouldn't express an opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All my friends post where their children are going with their child in a sweatshirt with the school name. Our school (that has a uniform) allows kids to wear the sweatshirt of the school that they will attend. The kids post pictures of themselves in the sweatshirt on Instagram. My son has quite a few friends that signed letters of intent over the past month. Their school posted a picture of the kids and their parent re-post. Most of them have twitter accounts and they will tweet where they have verbally committed, they will retweet any mention of them committing (which is usually announced by the paper or the school).

Early on I have a few friends that will post, we got an acceptance so relieved or something like that.

If you read a post like that and think it is bragging you may be a little insecure. We have aunt, uncles, cousins and this is how we communicate.

+1 I like the pictures of the smiling kids in their New U gear! I'm always proud of them and excited for the parents.

[Anonymous]

Funny, no one complains about all of the National Signing Day photos all over the internet and in the newspapers. Why is it okay to celebrate athletic successes while we are reluctant to do the same for academics? The people on this forum belittling students/parents for posting college acceptances are the first ones who would get a kick out of seeing their kid's name in the Post as AllMet, for example.

[Anonymous]

My kid worked hard to get accepted into college of his choice and you bet I will brag. If someone feels sensitive, that's their own fuckin' problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny, no one complains about all of the National Signing Day photos all over the internet and in the newspapers. Why is it okay to celebrate athletic successes while we are reluctant to do the same for academics? The people on this forum belittling students/parents for posting college acceptances are the first ones who would get a kick out of seeing their kid's name in the Post as AllMet, for example.

Signing days are when kids are committing to a school, so there's no inconsistency with the suggestion that kids wait until they've decided where to go to post on FB.

AllMets aren't really analogous to college admissions. They are published by a local newspaper. The academic equivalent would be the school system's announcing its NMSFs every year, which does in fact take place. No one other than the kid or parent is going to announce a college admission.

I'd just leave this up to the kids to sort out. They probably have their own code at each school as to what's considered good or bad form. I don't think a principal needs to tell them how to communicate with each other on the topic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid worked hard to get accepted into college of his choice and you bet I will brag. If someone feels sensitive, that's their own fuckin' problem.

Lots of kids work very, very hard to get into the college of their choice. The parents who don't brag come off as the most impressive. Its not about feeling sensitive, its about how you look. But given this post I imagine you've already created that impression, so go at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid worked hard to get accepted into college of his choice and you bet I will brag. If someone feels sensitive, that's their own fuckin' problem.

Lots of kids work very, very hard to get into the college of their choice. The parents who don't brag come off as the most impressive. Its not about feeling sensitive, its about how you look. But given this post I imagine you've already created that impression, so go at it.

+1. Also, lots of kids work very, very hard yet *don't* get into the colleges of their choices. At the schools that accept 6-10% of applicants it often comes down to luck, frankly.

You're going to brag that your hard-working kid was luckier than all the other hard-working kids?

Signed, the PP with the DC who got into the 1st choice (one of those schools that accepts 6-10%), with an equally hard-working friend who didn't get into the same school, and who thinks a little humility and realism is in order

[Anonymous]

What's your opinion on this? We do not post acceptances on FB. When we send in our deposit for his choice I am sure we will post then. What about when people come right out in person and ask you if you have heard from any schools? My son asked what to do. My response: you can tell anyone you want, and if someone asks us we will do the same.

We have not told anyone but immediate family.

He still has not asked his classmate if he was accepted to a school they both applied to because he doesn't want the boy to feel bad if he didn't get in. That being said, I hope he did because he would be perfect room mate!!!