Posting College Acceptances To FB

[Anonymous]

I say no, my wife says yes. I say it's bragging especially b/c it's not binding and we don't know if he's going to attend. My wife says he should have a right to inform all his friends easily without having to go one by one.

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

So its him posting his own acceptance and not one of you?

[Anonymous]

The norm is to post where you are going, not acceptances. So if he's decided to go to a school he posts University of XX, class of 2019.

Our principal specifically asked kids to be sensitive of others and not post acceptances.

[Anonymous]

It is really a difficult time of year for seniors, and having gone through this process twice recently, seemed to be considered quite bad form to post an early decision/early action acceptance on Facebook, either by a parent or a kid.

Unlike in the spring, where reasonably quickly 98% of kids know where they are going, or what choices they have, in December, there are some very very happy kids/families that are admitted to their first choice, and know they are going there, and can relax and not spend Christmas vacation filling out more applications and writing additional essays needed for some schools, and others are miserable, having been rejected or deferred, and having a bleak holiday ahead of them. \
Both my kid's schools made it very explicit that either kids or parents posting or even talking at school about acceptances was very insensitive.

We were on both sides of this situation, i.e. happy December and sad December, and seeing it from both sides, really don't want to see this information on Facebook! Close friends/family that need to know can be called or emailed or privately messaged.

[Anonymous]

Parents should never post. Its just bragging. Any post that starts "I'm so proud of ____" is probably a bad idea.

Kids will eventually post themselves. But at this point its not a good idea.

[Anonymous]

I chose not to share all of my DS's college acceptances on FB, but I did share the name of the university that he finally chose to attend. However, I know people who have listed every acceptance; they are the same people who share every little thing their kids have ever done, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The norm is to post where you are going, not acceptances. So if he's decided to go to a school he posts University of XX, class of 2019.

Our principal specifically asked kids to be sensitive of others and not post acceptances.

That is not the norm at my DC's school. Kids post minutes after they have been accepted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The norm is to post where you are going, not acceptances. So if he's decided to go to a school he posts University of XX, class of 2019.

Our principal specifically asked kids to be sensitive of others and not post acceptances.

That's the "norm"? Do you have a source to support this?

[Anonymous]

That's certainly not the "norm" on Twitter.

[Anonymous]

Nor on Instagram. My DD no longer uses Facebook, so that's a moot point at our house, but I've heard no gag order from our principal on any posting.

I'm ok with kids posting, but parents posting is a bit much. I have liked a couple Facebook pages for colleges where my daughter has been accepted, but that's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The norm is to post where you are going, not acceptances. So if he's decided to go to a school he posts University of XX, class of 2019.

Our principal specifically asked kids to be sensitive of others and not post acceptances.

That is not the norm at my DC's school. Kids post minutes after they have been accepted.

At my DC's school, kids tend only to post where they're going...not all acceptances. One girl in DD's class posted each and every acceptance as it arrived (Princeton, Harvard, Duke, Stanford). This was not looked upon favorably.

[Anonymous]

All my friends post where their children are going with their child in a sweatshirt with the school name. Our school (that has a uniform) allows kids to wear the sweatshirt of the school that they will attend. The kids post pictures of themselves in the sweatshirt on Instagram. My son has quite a few friends that signed letters of intent over the past month. Their school posted a picture of the kids and their parent re-post. Most of them have twitter accounts and they will tweet where they have verbally committed, they will retweet any mention of them committing (which is usually announced by the paper or the school).

Early on I have a few friends that will post, we got an acceptance so relieved or something like that.

If you read a post like that and think it is bragging you may be a little insecure. We have aunt, uncles, cousins and this is how we communicate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The norm is to post where you are going, not acceptances. So if he's decided to go to a school he posts University of XX, class of 2019.

Our principal specifically asked kids to be sensitive of others and not post acceptances.

That is not the norm at my DC's school. Kids post minutes after they have been accepted.

That's surprising. At my DCs school that was considered bad form to post every acceptance. The vast majority seemed to use it to announce where they were going. I guess each school has its own culture.

[Anonymous]

It's tacly and bragging to post all acceptances. He should just post where he's going.

[Anonymous]

Kids do it slightly more subtly. They may (for legitimate reasons) join a FB group about a school they are considering. Many college admission staffs create their own groups which they invite admits to join. By the way, some college FB groups can backfire. I've heard of kids turning down a school because they formed the impression from FB postings that other admitted kids were jerks.