I'm getting bored being a SAHM

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand all of you people who are saying get a job, that crafting books and trips to the library are mind-numbingly boring and awful.

SOMEONE has to spend their day with a baby/child, don't they? If it isn't a parent, it's someone you're paying to do it, right? Do you think that person is mind-numbingly bored?

If you can't imagine your life having any meaning or interest without your job, you really probably shouldn't have become a parent (not talking to you, OP, talking to these other people who think the only way to be happy is to have a job while you also have kids).

And by the way, I have never been a stay at home parent, I work full time in a demanding career and bring in $200k+ annually. But the narrow-mindedness of people who think that getting a job must be the answer is really crazy. OP has a child and it doesn't make sense for her family for her to work. That is pretty clear. She can find a way to make life more interesting and fun and meaningful without getting a job and having to pretend to be superwoman, doing it all, the lion's share of the child/house work and a paying job as well.

Not everyone is built the same. Of course a nanny does not think her job is boring. I would never be a nanny, it would bore me to death. I would also never be a librarian or an accountant.

However, I don't do the lions share of the housework or childcare. My kids are in school and I have a housekeeper. Plus I have a DH who parents his kids. Apparently an engaged father is some sort of luxury-sad.

Why would you have kids if taking care of them during the day and after school would bore you to death?

[Anonymous]

I just want to post to say I have been there too and it IS hard. I have been back in the workforce for a while and now have two older kids, but my working life now is nowhere near as hard on me psychologically as staying home with one needy infant and one terribly busy husband for a year. My new moms' group was wonderful and I looked forward to those meetings all week because I could socialize and commiserate and talk to an adult for once. Starting part-time preschool at 2 was wonderful too, to watch my child gain some independence and also make some new friends of my own. Life is long and you can get back in the workforce sometime if you want. But for now you need to get out of the house and talk to adults somehow. It sounds like you have a good multi-step plan. Go for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand all of you people who are saying get a job, that crafting books and trips to the library are mind-numbingly boring and awful.

SOMEONE has to spend their day with a baby/child, don't they? If it isn't a parent, it's someone you're paying to do it, right? Do you think that person is mind-numbingly bored?

If you can't imagine your life having any meaning or interest without your job, you really probably shouldn't have become a parent (not talking to you, OP, talking to these other people who think the only way to be happy is to have a job while you also have kids).

And by the way, I have never been a stay at home parent, I work full time in a demanding career and bring in $200k+ annually. But the narrow-mindedness of people who think that getting a job must be the answer is really crazy. OP has a child and it doesn't make sense for her family for her to work. That is pretty clear. She can find a way to make life more interesting and fun and meaningful without getting a job and having to pretend to be superwoman, doing it all, the lion's share of the child/house work and a paying job as well.

Not everyone is built the same. Of course a nanny does not think her job is boring. I would never be a nanny, it would bore me to death. I would also never be a librarian or an accountant.

However, I don't do the lions share of the housework or childcare. My kids are in school and I have a housekeeper. Plus I have a DH who parents his kids. Apparently an engaged father is some sort of luxury-sad.

Why would you have kids if taking care of them during the day and after school would bore you to death?

Working parent here. Being a nanny would bore me to death as well. I actually can't even think of many jobs much worse than that one. I'm sure some nannies would find my job in sales equally miaerable.

why should I SAH? Both my wife and I have no trouble managing or careers and our children. I don't see the point. We have no complaints.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand all of you people who are saying get a job, that crafting books and trips to the library are mind-numbingly boring and awful.

SOMEONE has to spend their day with a baby/child, don't they? If it isn't a parent, it's someone you're paying to do it, right? Do you think that person is mind-numbingly bored?

If you can't imagine your life having any meaning or interest without your job, you really probably shouldn't have become a parent (not talking to you, OP, talking to these other people who think the only way to be happy is to have a job while you also have kids).

And by the way, I have never been a stay at home parent, I work full time in a demanding career and bring in $200k+ annually. But the narrow-mindedness of people who think that getting a job must be the answer is really crazy. OP has a child and it doesn't make sense for her family for her to work. That is pretty clear. She can find a way to make life more interesting and fun and meaningful without getting a job and having to pretend to be superwoman, doing it all, the lion's share of the child/house work and a paying job as well.

Not everyone is built the same. Of course a nanny does not think her job is boring. I would never be a nanny, it would bore me to death. I would also never be a librarian or an accountant.

However, I don't do the lions share of the housework or childcare. My kids are in school and I have a housekeeper. Plus I have a DH who parents his kids. Apparently an engaged father is some sort of luxury-sad.

Why would you have kids if taking care of them during the day and after school would bore you to death?

Working parent here. Being a nanny would bore me to death as well. I actually can't even think of many jobs much worse than that one. I'm sure some nannies would find my job in sales equally miaerable.

why should I SAH? Both my wife and I have no trouble managing or careers and our children. I don't see the point. We have no complaints.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I also feel like I'm getting really dumb being a SAHM. Did anyone else feel that way? I felt mentally sharp during pregnancy and never had "pregnancy brain" but I think the lack of sleep for so many months combined with a lack of intellectual stimulation has caused me to get dumber. I feel like my mind isn't as quick or as sharp as it used to be, and I don't know if I could even work in a job due to this issue.