A question for those who are truly happily married...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very interesting. ...most happy posters here got married "young" by DC standards. Many of us in our 20s.

I met my DH when I was 20, he 21...personally it seems to me easier to be able to get along with someone when you settle down before you are set in your ways. I cannot imagine living by myself until o was 36 and then have to adapt to someone other than me scratching my ass and farting in bed.

I think this is very true. It also helps, IMO, that if you get together young, you have more time to discover each other before the kids come along (because we got together when I was 21 and he was 20, we had almost a decade to ourselves before we had children and I really think it strengthened our bond).

[Anonymous]

How long did you date before you lived together? 2 years

How long did you live together before you got married? 4 years

How old were you when you got married? 25 and 28

We've been married for 4 years and together for 10. We've been through the best things in life and the worst, and our marriage is still wonderful and strong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long did you date before you lived together?

How long did you live together before you got married?

How old were you when you got married?

The first time we dated about a year. The second time it was about 8 months.
We lived together after we were engaged and about 6 months prior to our marriage.
I was 30 and DH was 34.

[Anonymous]

Moved in together after about 7 months of dating.
Married about a year after we moved in together.
Ages 33/34 when we married, 15 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long did you date before you lived together?

How long did you live together before you got married?

How old were you when you got married?

1st marriage (not happy)

2 years

1 year

22

Second marriage (very happy)

2 years

1 month

45

[Anonymous]

Did not live together before marriage. Got married at 23. We are millenials and noticing a strong trend of educated young people refusing to live together before marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two and a half years of dating.

Never lived together.

I was 21 when we married and he was 25.

Happily married 56 years until his death nine years ago. I still miss him every day.

You inspire me and I hope I am as fortunate in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dated for 1.5 years then
Lived together for 1.5 years
Married on the 3rd year anniversary of the day we met.

Was 31 when we married.
Very happily married for the last nine years.

This is very similar to us (except getting married on the anniversary of meeting).

Dated for a little over a year and then lived together for about 2 years before getting married.
We were 30 when married and have been happily married for almost 9 years.

[Anonymous]

Dated 2.5 years, never lived together.
Happily married for 14 years.
I was 34, and it was his 2nd marriage.

[Anonymous]

Dated for 3.5 years
Didn't live together (not for religious reasons, but because we wanted it to be special and symbolic)
Married at 25

Head over heels in love daily!

[Anonymous]

did not date - arranged marriage
did not live together
I was 27, he was 28
Happily married for 17 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very interesting. ...most happy posters here got married "young" by DC standards. Many of us in our 20s.

I met my DH when I was 20, he 21...personally it seems to me easier to be able to get along with someone when you settle down before you are set in your ways. I cannot imagine living by myself until o was 36 and then have to adapt to someone other than me scratching my ass and farting in bed.

+1. I think getting married young is the secret. After 22 before 30. People are always worried about couples who marry early, but the ones who marry earlier normally spend more time dating and have no pressing issues (like wanting to start a family or finally settle down).

[Anonymous]

Dated two years, engaged after 1st six months. Did not live together and were long distance most of the time.
Married 13 years. I was 22 and he was not quite 25. We waited six years to have our first baby.

[Anonymous]

Seems like common denominator is meeting spouse early in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long did you date before you lived together?

How long did you live together before you got married?

How old were you when you got married?

1 year
2 years
27