(to whites on here) have you personally been in racist situations?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am half white (and look white). I was once surrounded by a group of white college kids who were saying horrible things about another race of which I am half (the other half). It was horrible. I ended up telling them off and transferring colleges.

Oh wait did you mean experiencing racism as a white person? I am 99% sure this doesn't occur. I think white people read "social slights" as racism.

"Social slights" like being told to get my white ass out of "their"neighborhood? Like being beaten up by a group of blacks shouting "FUCK YOU, WHITEY"? Like finding a giant loogie in my sandwich at an AA-owned deli?

Those kind of "social slights?"

Well you could be pursued, accosted & shot dead simply because the color of your skin reduces you to a violent caricature and not a human being minding their own business. You could be followed in most stores because you can only be up to no good because of your skin color. You could be constantly stopped by police because an incident that happened was perpetrated by someone of your same skin color & you are automatically a suspect. You could be shot dead by those cops & the cops receive promotions for getting rid of "the issue." You can be denied employment or promotional opportunities because of the color of you skin. To compare, white people really don't have it all that bad! Congrats your privilege and entitlement serves you well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At my first job as an adult my manager was AA. She pulled me into her office my first day and told me I didn't have the right color skin to work there and I'd never advance in her group. I was too stunned to even know what to say.

Holy shit! What happened?

Nothing. I just quietly did my job and immediately started job hunting. I stayed there about 8 months before I found a new position. I didn't think anyone would believe me (mainly because I almost couldn't believe it myself) so I just decided to do my best, do no wrong, and get out of there as fast as I could.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am half white (and look white). I was once surrounded by a group of white college kids who were saying horrible things about another race of which I am half (the other half). It was horrible. I ended up telling them off and transferring colleges.

Oh wait did you mean experiencing racism as a white person? I am 99% sure this doesn't occur. I think white people read "social slights" as racism.

"Social slights" like being told to get my white ass out of "their"neighborhood? Like being beaten up by a group of blacks shouting "FUCK YOU, WHITEY"? Like finding a giant loogie in my sandwich at an AA-owned deli?

Those kind of "social slights?"

Well you could be pursued, accosted & shot dead simply because the color of your skin reduces you to a violent caricature and not a human being minding their own business. You could be followed in most stores because you can only be up to no good because of your skin color. You could be constantly stopped by police because an incident that happened was perpetrated by someone of your same skin color & you are automatically a suspect. You could be shot dead by those cops & the cops receive promotions for getting rid of "the issue." You can be denied employment or promotional opportunities because of the color of you skin. To compare, white people really don't have it all that bad! Congrats your privilege and entitlement serves you well!

NP here and you sound like an idiot. Just because you feel white people don't receive racist remarks does not mean it doesn't happen. I'm not white myself and want to slap half the posters on here who are seemingly white for some of their comments but to say that one race has it worst so the race that receives less negativity shouldn't complain is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

While not racism, I experienced a race-based decision that significantly impacted my career. I was an associate at a law firm along with a very competent African American woman. I was told in different ways but very clearly by four, yes four, partners that the firm would not be making more than one partner from our group, and that I would not make partner unless the African American woman left the firm. Three of these partners stated that I was generally considered the top choice for partnership based on my legal skills and client relations, but that the firm needed to increase diversity. These and other partners assisted me in finding another job outside of the firm, which turned out well in the end, but I still regret not having been able to compete fairly for partnership after years of working many, many hours. I do not begrudge the African American attorney at all, and found her to be both competent and a personally terrific individual. I am now much more careful, though, To avoid professional situations and which my primary competitors for promotion are African American or other underrepresented minorities. I have also experienced probably a handful of minor racially charged events. Nothing, however, that would rise to the level of affecting my day today life in any way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At my first job as an adult my manager was AA. She pulled me into her office my first day and told me I didn't have the right color skin to work there and I'd never advance in her group. I was too stunned to even know what to say.

Holy shit! What happened?

Nothing. I just quietly did my job and immediately started job hunting. I stayed there about 8 months before I found a new position. I didn't think anyone would believe me (mainly because I almost couldn't believe it myself) so I just decided to do my best, do no wrong, and get out of there as fast as I could.

Damn. Good for you. But if they had an HR department, or even if they didn't, I would've told them what happened during the exit interview. You really need to out racists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While not racism, I experienced a race-based decision that significantly impacted my career. I was an associate at a law firm along with a very competent African American woman. I was told in different ways but very clearly by four, yes four, partners that the firm would not be making more than one partner from our group, and that I would not make partner unless the African American woman left the firm. Three of these partners stated that I was generally considered the top choice for partnership based on my legal skills and client relations, but that the firm needed to increase diversity. These and other partners assisted me in finding another job outside of the firm, which turned out well in the end, but I still regret not having been able to compete fairly for partnership after years of working many, many hours. I do not begrudge the African American attorney at all, and found her to be both competent and a personally terrific individual. I am now much more careful, though, To avoid professional situations and which my primary competitors for promotion are African American or other underrepresented minorities. I have also experienced probably a handful of minor racially charged events. Nothing, however, that would rise to the level of affecting my day today life in any way.

You know, this kind of thing sucks, but mostly it sucks that it still kind of needs to happen. That black woman had to work a thousand times harder than you to get where she was, no matter her socioeconomic status growing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While not racism, I experienced a race-based decision that significantly impacted my career. I was an associate at a law firm along with a very competent African American woman. I was told in different ways but very clearly by four, yes four, partners that the firm would not be making more than one partner from our group, and that I would not make partner unless the African American woman left the firm. Three of these partners stated that I was generally considered the top choice for partnership based on my legal skills and client relations, but that the firm needed to increase diversity. These and other partners assisted me in finding another job outside of the firm, which turned out well in the end, but I still regret not having been able to compete fairly for partnership after years of working many, many hours. I do not begrudge the African American attorney at all, and found her to be both competent and a personally terrific individual. I am now much more careful, though, To avoid professional situations and which my primary competitors for promotion are African American or other underrepresented minorities. I have also experienced probably a handful of minor racially charged events. Nothing, however, that would rise to the level of affecting my day today life in any way.

You know, this kind of thing sucks, but mostly it sucks that it still kind of needs to happen. That black woman had to work a thousand times harder than you to get where she was, no matter her socioeconomic status growing up.

I disagree. I know her very well. She had a much, much more privileged background than I did, with parents who were high-educated professionals. She was raised in a wealthy community and attended the best private schools. I did not have any if these benefits, and the relatively amorphous claims that I have had white privilege my whole life don't in my view hold a candle to the actual tangible be edits and luxuries she was raised with. I liked her very much, and respect her professionally and personally, but to say that she had to work harder than I did based on some pretty extensive assumptions just avoids one if the main issues here. For what it's worth, I'm actually in favor of affirmative action as well as organizations consciously expanding diversity. But to make it seem that she worked harder than I dud to get to the point of partnership at a law firm is way off base in this case.

[Anonymous]

youngblackdude wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure I follow the question, but I'm white and have been in situations where people I am with that are minorities are treated by others in a way that I think is racist.

Example- you're out in public ,let's say a supermarket.& you may skip somebody in line whose of another race .& that person may call you a derogatory racial slur (not gonna say the racial slur for whites) .that type of situation is what I'm referring to

I've been called some names before, but I am a white girl that grew up not far from the projects. There was a public pool next to the projects. While walking home from the pool, there would sometimes be some names called in my direction. The worst names were one year when I was passing out Halloween candy. A group of teenagers came up to trick or treat and they weren't dressed up. I gave them *some* candy but when they wanted more, I told them no, they weren't even dressed up. They knocked over the entire bowl and called me quite a few names. I have found that I get the most pissed off responses when I am calling someone on poor behavior. I always knew they were just pissed off and acting like brats so I never let it get to me. I married a black man, so it's clear there are no hard feelings. As an adult, I've not experienced this and I've been in multiple situations where I am the only white person.

[Anonymous]

A couple of times. Once in New Orleans, when I was trying to get across a street before a parade came through and some teenaged black girls refused to let me pass them and were really nasty about it. It was pretty frustrating. Another time, a guy pulled a knife on me and my boyfriend at a laundromat in Alexandria because he thought I was disrespecting his woman by using an empty laundry cart she thought of as hers. There were some slurs thrown around.

It's possible the same things would have happened if I'd been black - who knows. These things happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I had a perfect SAT score and did not get into Harvard.

Oh, please. That's not racism. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While not racism, I experienced a race-based decision that significantly impacted my career. I was an associate at a law firm along with a very competent African American woman. I was told in different ways but very clearly by four, yes four, partners that the firm would not be making more than one partner from our group, and that I would not make partner unless the African American woman left the firm. Three of these partners stated that I was generally considered the top choice for partnership based on my legal skills and client relations, but that the firm needed to increase diversity. These and other partners assisted me in finding another job outside of the firm, which turned out well in the end, but I still regret not having been able to compete fairly for partnership after years of working many, many hours. I do not begrudge the African American attorney at all, and found her to be both competent and a personally terrific individual. I am now much more careful, though, To avoid professional situations and which my primary competitors for promotion are African American or other underrepresented minorities. I have also experienced probably a handful of minor racially charged events. Nothing, however, that would rise to the level of affecting my day today life in any way.

You know, this kind of thing sucks, but mostly it sucks that it still kind of needs to happen. That black woman had to work a thousand times harder than you to get where she was, no matter her socioeconomic status growing up.

I disagree. I know her very well. She had a much, much more privileged background than I did, with parents who were high-educated professionals. She was raised in a wealthy community and attended the best private schools. I did not have any if these benefits, and the relatively amorphous claims that I have had white privilege my whole life don't in my view hold a candle to the actual tangible be edits and luxuries she was raised with. I liked her very much, and respect her professionally and personally, but to say that she had to work harder than I did based on some pretty extensive assumptions just avoids one if the main issues here. For what it's worth, I'm actually in favor of affirmative action as well as organizations consciously expanding diversity. But to make it seem that she worked harder than I dud to get to the point of partnership at a law firm is way off base in this case.

I still respectfully disagree. She has to work harder to be taken seriously no matter where she's from (unless like the whole room automatically knows she is the daughter of somebody super famous). But maybe she didn't have to work harder to get there (if you're a woman, but if you're a white man she certainly still did), but she definitely had to put up with a lot more shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am half white (and look white). I was once surrounded by a group of white college kids who were saying horrible things about another race of which I am half (the other half). It was horrible. I ended up telling them off and transferring colleges.

Oh wait did you mean experiencing racism as a white person? I am 99% sure this doesn't occur. I think white people read "social slights" as racism.

"Social slights" like being told to get my white ass out of "their"neighborhood? Like being beaten up by a group of blacks shouting "FUCK YOU, WHITEY"? Like finding a giant loogie in my sandwich at an AA-owned deli?

Those kind of "social slights?"

Well you could be pursued, accosted & shot dead simply because the color of your skin reduces you to a violent caricature and not a human being minding their own business. You could be followed in most stores because you can only be up to no good because of your skin color. You could be constantly stopped by police because an incident that happened was perpetrated by someone of your same skin color & you are automatically a suspect. You could be shot dead by those cops & the cops receive promotions for getting rid of "the issue." You can be denied employment or promotional opportunities because of the color of you skin. To compare, white people really don't have it all that bad! Congrats your privilege and entitlement serves you well!

NP here and you sound like an idiot. Just because you feel white people don't receive racist remarks does not mean it doesn't happen. I'm not white myself and want to slap half the posters on here who are seemingly white for some of their comments but to say that one race has it worst so the race that receives less negativity shouldn't complain is ridiculous.

You damn right I laugh at these stories because of this pp here:"I don't have to care what they think bc my people run shit. Racism against minorities by white people has bad real-world consequences... vice versa, usually not so much." You can sit here & feel for whites whose stories will never impact their lives like other races like the idiot that you sound like.

[Anonymous]

pp, you are making assumptions that she the AA had to work harder and put up with more than the WW or that the WW didn't work as hard or put up with as much. I am not the actual poster this happened to by the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am half white (and look white). I was once surrounded by a group of white college kids who were saying horrible things about another race of which I am half (the other half). It was horrible. I ended up telling them off and transferring colleges.

Oh wait did you mean experiencing racism as a white person? I am 99% sure this doesn't occur. I think white people read "social slights" as racism.

"Social slights" like being told to get my white ass out of "their"neighborhood? Like being beaten up by a group of blacks shouting "FUCK YOU, WHITEY"? Like finding a giant loogie in my sandwich at an AA-owned deli?

Those kind of "social slights?"

Well you could be pursued, accosted & shot dead simply because the color of your skin reduces you to a violent caricature and not a human being minding their own business. You could be followed in most stores because you can only be up to no good because of your skin color. You could be constantly stopped by police because an incident that happened was perpetrated by someone of your same skin color & you are automatically a suspect. You could be shot dead by those cops & the cops receive promotions for getting rid of "the issue." You can be denied employment or promotional opportunities because of the color of you skin. To compare, white people really don't have it all that bad! Congrats your privilege and entitlement serves you well!

NP here and you sound like an idiot. Just because you feel white people don't receive racist remarks does not mean it doesn't happen. I'm not white myself and want to slap half the posters on here who are seemingly white for some of their comments but to say that one race has it worst so the race that receives less negativity shouldn't complain is ridiculous.

You damn right I laugh at these stories because of this pp here:"I don't have to care what they think bc my people run shit. Racism against minorities by white people has bad real-world consequences... vice versa, usually not so much." You can sit here & feel for whites whose stories will never impact their lives like other races like the idiot that you sound like.

And you just explained my "social slight," thank you. Having people be mean to you or call you names is not the same as the systemic racism we have in America. Sorry that people said some things that were not nice but take comfort that the system, overall, isn't rigged for your failure! Reverse racism is a fantasy, like unicorns, fairies, and Hobbits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:pp, you are making assumptions that she the AA had to work harder and put up with more than the WW or that the WW didn't work as hard or put up with as much. I am not the actual poster this happened to by the way.

NP. Yes, AA must put up with more.