Why does the younger DCUM majority hate Boomers so much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 56 and my husband is 57, baby boomers both of us. Both our sets of parents divorced when we were young and re-married, some multiple times. We have had six step-parents and 15 step siblings between us. No one paid much attention to us growing up. We went through college with lots of jobs, loans, and a little help from our grandparents. When we had our own children, our parents did not help out of baby-sit. They were too busy with their own messed up lives. When our parents got old, we ended up partially supporting some of them because they had been financially irresponsible. Thank goodness they had social security and in some cases small pensions. Because they were all divorced, they didn't look out for or take care of each other, so we had to take care of each of our parents separately. If they had stayed married then maybe the healthier one could have at least helped take care of the less healthy one.

Our children, millenials born in the mid and late 1980s, were raised in a stable home with two parents. We paid all their tuition and room and board for college, although we expected them to earn their own spending money through summer and occasionally term-time jobs. We helped them move to college and helped them move many times (something our parents never did for us: I was given a bus ticket and put on the bus with my suitcase). I signed lease guarantees for my children, something my parents never would have done for me. (I asked once when I was young and they said no.) I helped my children with their resumes and coached them through job hunting, something no parent ever did for me. I have also saved enough money for my own retirement so they will not need to financially contribute when I get old and sick.

Which generation had it bad?

You are more the exception than the rule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP again. Try substituting "women" or "blacks" or "gays" or "immigrants" for some of these comments about baby boomers and see how they sound. This is prejudice pure and simple. I didn't realize it was so permissible against older people.

Oh, please. We hated you when we were 15 and you were 35

Troll.

[Anonymous]

This is not stereotyping people based on age. It's criticizing the REAITY of what this country has become under the Boomers' watch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 56 and my husband is 57, baby boomers both of us. Both our sets of parents divorced when we were young and re-married, some multiple times. We have had six step-parents and 15 step siblings between us. No one paid much attention to us growing up. We went through college with lots of jobs, loans, and a little help from our grandparents. When we had our own children, our parents did not help out of baby-sit. They were too busy with their own messed up lives. When our parents got old, we ended up partially supporting some of them because they had been financially irresponsible. Thank goodness they had social security and in some cases small pensions. Because they were all divorced, they didn't look out for or take care of each other, so we had to take care of each of our parents separately. If they had stayed married then maybe the healthier one could have at least helped take care of the less healthy one.

Our children, millenials born in the mid and late 1980s, were raised in a stable home with two parents. We paid all their tuition and room and board for college, although we expected them to earn their own spending money through summer and occasionally term-time jobs. We helped them move to college and helped them move many times (something our parents never did for us: I was given a bus ticket and put on the bus with my suitcase). I signed lease guarantees for my children, something my parents never would have done for me. (I asked once when I was young and they said no.) I helped my children with their resumes and coached them through job hunting, something no parent ever did for me. I have also saved enough money for my own retirement so they will not need to financially contribute when I get old and sick.

Which generation had it bad?

I think it's sad that you feel you were deprived, and simultaneously congratulate yourself for spoiling your children. Your kids probably would have been better off with a bus ticket instead of you co-signing leases.

And are you congratulating yourself for staying married when you parents did not, as if that's some kind of a generational thing? Statistics don't back you up. http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052702303544604576430341393583056

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP again. Try substituting "women" or "blacks" or "gays" or "immigrants" for some of these comments about baby boomers and see how they sound. This is prejudice pure and simple. I didn't realize it was so permissible against older people.

Oh, please. We hated you when we were 15 and you were 35

Uh, Einstein, that's still prejudice. But you don't really care. You're just a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not stereotyping people based on age. It's criticizing the REAITY of what this country has become under the Boomers' watch.

Oh yes it is stereotyping people based on age. Just like some people argue that the country has gone down hill because of all of those infernal immigrants. You're either not too bright or you're really slipping at being a troll. Well, I guess being incompetent as a troll would go along with not being too bright.

[Anonymous]

Wow, infernal immigrants is not stereotyping???

Let me guess, you are descended from native Americans, right? Which is why you are entitled to the riches of this country while others are not?

Since immigration is the cause of what's wrong with this country.... what have you and the Boomers done to fix the immigration problems in this country?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, infernal immigrants is not stereotyping???

Let me guess, you are descended from native Americans, right? Which is why you are entitled to the riches of this country while others are not?

Since immigration is the cause of what's wrong with this country.... what have you and the Boomers done to fix the immigration problems in this country?

Oh, have you no eye for sarcasm? Or are you still trolling? Yeah, you must still be trolling because you are grasping at straws here.
Okay, in case you're not deliberately trolling, and you're just a crazy hysterical person, earth to pp, the reference to "infernal immigrants" was a sarcastic reference to bigotry. It's an analogy.

[Anonymous]

Oh, I wrote too quickly. I just reread what I wrote and it is clear that it's an analogy. You got me, troll! So I'll give you that. I thought there was someone on DCUM stupid enough not to read that correctly. Still, it's pretty poor trolling on your part. Why don't you head back over to the SAHM/WOHM threads and get some more practice? I think it's pretty easy to tick people off over there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 56 and my husband is 57, baby boomers both of us. Both our sets of parents divorced when we were young and re-married, some multiple times. We have had six step-parents and 15 step siblings between us. No one paid much attention to us growing up. We went through college with lots of jobs, loans, and a little help from our grandparents. When we had our own children, our parents did not help out of baby-sit. They were too busy with their own messed up lives. When our parents got old, we ended up partially supporting some of them because they had been financially irresponsible. Thank goodness they had social security and in some cases small pensions. Because they were all divorced, they didn't look out for or take care of each other, so we had to take care of each of our parents separately. If they had stayed married then maybe the healthier one could have at least helped take care of the less healthy one.

Our children, millenials born in the mid and late 1980s, were raised in a stable home with two parents. We paid all their tuition and room and board for college, although we expected them to earn their own spending money through summer and occasionally term-time jobs. We helped them move to college and helped them move many times (something our parents never did for us: I was given a bus ticket and put on the bus with my suitcase). I signed lease guarantees for my children, something my parents never would have done for me. (I asked once when I was young and they said no.) I helped my children with their resumes and coached them through job hunting, something no parent ever did for me. I have also saved enough money for my own retirement so they will not need to financially contribute when I get old and sick.

Which generation had it bad?

I am 53yo and could have written most of this post, except that my parents did not divorce. They did, however, push most of the burden of self-support on us as soon as they could. They did pretty much nothing for me after I was about 14-15yo.

OTOH, I'm supporting my kids in ways I myself was never supported, not in my wildest dreams.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP again. Try substituting "women" or "blacks" or "gays" or "immigrants" for some of these comments about baby boomers and see how they sound. This is prejudice pure and simple. I didn't realize it was so permissible against older people.

Oh, please. We hated you when we were 15 and you were 35

Troll.

I distinctly remember tshirts that said "Die, Yuppie Scum!" That was aimed at Boomers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thread about the Worst Generation over on Family Relationships made me realize just how many GenX'ers and Millenials hate Boomers and wonder exactly why? Is this just a case of younger generations thinking they have the answers and resenting their parents' ways or is there more going on here? I realize the Boomer generation has made a lot of mistakes but I don't believe we are the entitled, selfish folks were are made out to be? What do others think?

Using the word "hate" in this context is a self-absorbed exaggeration (a trait by SOME boomers like OP?).

What perhaps is happening is that younger generations are coming to realize that, while boomers and seniors own most of the assets in this country, they are the ones receiving the most subsidies too, from SS to Medicare, which won't be there decades from now for the rest of us, because they'll go bankrupt. But don't ask AARP to point out where in the Constitution it says that someone has the innate right to receive a pension for more years than he/ she has actually been working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because we now have as adults the first generation not actually raised by their own parents but in daycare and we get to see how they feel about that, and them.

Yes, the millenials are the first "day care generation" poor executive function, little empathy, almost sociopathic compared to WWII generation. Its their kids who are really fucked…them and who ever hires them. well, at least for the first few days of their job when the actually show up .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nah, it's just a few bitter people who can't stand their parents and instead of accepting that their families suck they want to make it a generation-wide problem.

Btw, the poster is incredibly easy to taunt.

I don't think it's just a few bitter people.

Consider what the boomers have consumed, versus what they've produced.

Bill Gates and Steve Jobs were boomers. You'd be typing your messages on carbon paper and mailing them to the newspaper without BB innovations.

Well, if Bill Gates was giving his fortune to shore up Medicare or something, I'd feel differently. Instead he's spending it in Africa.

There are exceptions to every observation, that's why they're general observations. I didn't say Boomers didn't produce anything. I just said they have consumed more. In contrast to the Greatest Generation, which was thrifty, Boomers consumed, consumed, consumed. And so now, many of them cannot retire, which means there's less upward mobility in jobs for younger generations.

Who wants to retire and why should we? We are the first generation to go the gym, we started the jogging phase, we demanded equal sports for girls. We look, at 65, like our our parents did when they were 35 and we love what we do . We will likely live to be 95m ost of us so get used to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because we now have as adults the first generation not actually raised by their own parents but in daycare and we get to see how they feel about that, and them.

I'm just going to save this comment and start posting it everywhere I see this BS.

1. The childcare studies and parenting studies show that working parents actually spend more time, not less time, interacting with their children. They are doing more actual parenting than nonworking parents of previous generations.

2. Kids in childcare don't demonstrate any serious increases in behavior problems over the long term.

keep telling yourself that….its bullshit .