Yes I did marry my husband for money.

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Anonymous wrote:I married for love. But I don't think I could have fallen in love with a completely poor man or with a rich one either. I grew up very, very poor. Yet I managed to get myself into a good career and have a nice life. By 1% standards I'm middle class. By the standards of my native community I'm a 1%er. Although I socialize with the well-off, I secretly think less of people who aren't self-made. Similarly, when I see people from the old neighborhood who have no ambition and just accept their lot in life - well, I think less of them too. I guess I just can't respect anyone who was born on third and thinks he hit a triple; and neither can I respect someone who takes no for an answer and then blames everyone else in society for his lot in life. I could not love a man I didn't respect.

So I fell in love with and married a man who is just like me. Self-made. Not super well-off but we live in a way that a lot of people on here and from my neighborhood would call privileged. Although I'm not a fan of inherited wealth, I certainly would never cast aspersions on anyone for not yoking themselves to a poor man either. It's one thing to be poor when you are 20 and can work. Quite another to be that way when you are 50 and can't. Since your spouse can either double or half your income and that effect lasts all your life, it makes sense to love wisely.

What does this mean? You're not a 'fan' of anyone who inherited money? Even if they work hard despite that?

It's her attempt not to feel intimidated by people who grew up with wealth.

New poster here. I'm not a fan of inherited wealth, either. Too many rich kids are "the king's idiot son." They don't have much to recommend them in either intelligence or looks or accomplishments, but they are born to wealth and status and think it is their due. They feel like they are better than other people and that they deserve the things that they have. They frequently have little in the way of interesting experiences, either. They're boring people.

I've met a few rich kids that I've liked, but most of them are pretty useless people.

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Anonymous wrote:Friend married for money but her Dh was disowned. He has money but not as much as she expected. She is miserable now.

Serves her right for acting like a prostitute.

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It just sounds like a lonely life. My husband is my best friend and I absolutely love spending time with him. I can't imagine being married to guy that I thought was just "eh."

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Anonymous wrote:It just sounds like a lonely life. My husband is my best friend and I absolutely love spending time with him. I can't imagine being married to guy that I thought was just "eh."

You are lucky!!

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Married 25 years.....if I had to do it again, I'd marry for money, baby.

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Anonymous wrote:I could say a lot of things, but honestly, I just feel sad for you. Yes, money is nice.. but if you married for that alone, you're missing out on a lot. I would much rather be poor and in love than rich and without.

No, you wouldn't. I've experienced both, with the latter for $$$, and it's not fun being broke and poor.

If you had read my other responses, you would know that I have experienced both also.. My husband and I have been in both places. We are able to far better appreciate the better times because of the bad ones.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married for love. But I don't think I could have fallen in love with a completely poor man or with a rich one either. I grew up very, very poor. Yet I managed to get myself into a good career and have a nice life. By 1% standards I'm middle class. By the standards of my native community I'm a 1%er. Although I socialize with the well-off, I secretly think less of people who aren't self-made. Similarly, when I see people from the old neighborhood who have no ambition and just accept their lot in life - well, I think less of them too. I guess I just can't respect anyone who was born on third and thinks he hit a triple; and neither can I respect someone who takes no for an answer and then blames everyone else in society for his lot in life. I could not love a man I didn't respect.

So I fell in love with and married a man who is just like me. Self-made. Not super well-off but we live in a way that a lot of people on here and from my neighborhood would call privileged. Although I'm not a fan of inherited wealth, I certainly would never cast aspersions on anyone for not yoking themselves to a poor man either. It's one thing to be poor when you are 20 and can work. Quite another to be that way when you are 50 and can't. Since your spouse can either double or half your income and that effect lasts all your life, it makes sense to love wisely.

What does this mean? You're not a 'fan' of anyone who inherited money? Even if they work hard despite that?

It's her attempt not to feel intimidated by people who grew up with wealth.

PP here. You mean like my grandfather? He could be gruff but wasn't particularly intimidating.