Yes I did marry my husband for money.

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Anonymous wrote:I live in LA and plan to marry for money as well. That's just what we do here. It's just as easy to marry a rich man as it is to marry a poor one.

Speak for yourself and your air-head friends. The rest of us LA women work damn hard and marry men we love and respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married for love. But I don't think I could have fallen in love with a completely poor man or with a rich one either. I grew up very, very poor. Yet I managed to get myself into a good career and have a nice life. By 1% standards I'm middle class. By the standards of my native community I'm a 1%er. Although I socialize with the well-off, I secretly think less of people who aren't self-made. Similarly, when I see people from the old neighborhood who have no ambition and just accept their lot in life - well, I think less of them too. I guess I just can't respect anyone who was born on third and thinks he hit a triple; and neither can I respect someone who takes no for an answer and then blames everyone else in society for his lot in life. I could not love a man I didn't respect.

So I fell in love with and married a man who is just like me. Self-made. Not super well-off but we live in a way that a lot of people on here and from my neighborhood would call privileged. Although I'm not a fan of inherited wealth, I certainly would never cast aspersions on anyone for not yoking themselves to a poor man either. It's one thing to be poor when you are 20 and can work. Quite another to be that way when you are 50 and can't. Since your spouse can either double or half your income and that effect lasts all your life, it makes sense to love wisely.

What does this mean? You're not a 'fan' of anyone who inherited money? Even if they work hard despite that?

It's her attempt not to feel intimidated by people who grew up with wealth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I could say a lot of things, but honestly, I just feel sad for you. Yes, money is nice.. but if you married for that alone, you're missing out on a lot. I would much rather be poor and in love than rich and without.

No, you wouldn't. I've experienced both, with the latter for $$$, and it's not fun being broke and poor.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could say a lot of things, but honestly, I just feel sad for you. Yes, money is nice.. but if you married for that alone, you're missing out on a lot. I would much rather be poor and in love than rich and without.

No, you wouldn't. I've experienced both, with the latter for $$$, and it's not fun being broke and poor.

It's much, much worse to be broke, poor sick, and OLD.

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Anonymous wrote:Haha, poor OP.

I married for love. Met my DH when we were in our early 20s and poor. Then the 1990s came and he worked for UUNet that went IPO, he then moved to a private company that got bought out by Cisco, more $$$.

I have smokin hot DH who is young and rich and I love him!

Is there a point to this post other than to advertise your own mean-spirited smugness?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:``My dearest sister, now be serious. I want to talk very seriously. Let me know every thing that I am to know, without delay. Will you tell me how long you have loved him?''

``It has been coming on so gradually, that I hardly know when it began. But I believe I must date it from my first seeing his beautiful grounds at Pemberley.''

Yes, that happened to me, too. He was marreid, so I had to marry the next one. 30 years and counting. Love grows.

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Anonymous wrote:I Although I socialize with the well-off, I secretly think less of people who aren't self-made. Similarly, when I see people from the old neighborhood who have no ambition and just accept their lot in life - well, I think less of them too. I guess I just can't respect anyone who was born on third and thinks he hit a triple; and neither can I respect someone who takes no for an answer and then blames everyone else in society for his lot in life. I could not love a man I didn't respect.

So I fell in love with and married a man who is just like me. Self-made. Not super well-off but we live in a way that a lot of people on here and from my neighborhood would call privileged. Although I'm not a fan of inherited wealth, I certainly would never cast aspersions on anyone for not yoking themselves to a poor man either. It's one thing to be poor when you are 20 and can work. Quite another to be that way when you are 50 and can't. Since your spouse can either double or half your income and that effect lasts all your life, it makes sense to love wisely.

Not a fan of inherited wealth? But socialize with those that are not self made.
The poor who stay poor get no sympathy, the rich who inherit are ok?

Am I the only one who sees a double standard?
Have we really become this materialistic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married for love. But I don't think I could have fallen in love with a completely poor man or with a rich one either. I grew up very, very poor. Yet I managed to get myself into a good career and have a nice life. By 1% standards I'm middle class. By the standards of my native community I'm a 1%er. Although I socialize with the well-off, I secretly think less of people who aren't self-made. Similarly, when I see people from the old neighborhood who have no ambition and just accept their lot in life - well, I think less of them too. I guess I just can't respect anyone who was born on third and thinks he hit a triple; and neither can I respect someone who takes no for an answer and then blames everyone else in society for his lot in life. I could not love a man I didn't respect.

So I fell in love with and married a man who is just like me. Self-made. Not super well-off but we live in a way that a lot of people on here and from my neighborhood would call privileged. Although I'm not a fan of inherited wealth, I certainly would never cast aspersions on anyone for not yoking themselves to a poor man either. It's one thing to be poor when you are 20 and can work. Quite another to be that way when you are 50 and can't. Since your spouse can either double or half your income and that effect lasts all your life, it makes sense to love wisely.

What does this mean? You're not a 'fan' of anyone who inherited money? Even if they work hard despite that?

It's her attempt not to feel intimidated by people who grew up with wealth.

I disagree and get her point. It's like working for a woman who slept her way up vs the one who trailblazed. I just can't relate to the former. I'd more drawn to the latter as a friend.

[Anonymous]

Friend married for money but her Dh was disowned. He has money but not as much as she expected. She is miserable now.

[Anonymous]

I don't really fault women for doing it, but don't you girls think you are selling yourself short? Why can't you marry for money AND love? Why can't you make your own money? Don't you want an equal partner in life?

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A man is not a plan, but works for some. Just sell your soul to someone revolting

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I grew up extremely poor and struggled most of my life but I still would never marry for money alone. Money comes and goes but having a partner that truly loves you is a lifetime of happiness. Being poor sucks but it teaches you valuable life lessons. I know I will never be poor again because I will work my ass off to provide for my family and do whatever it takes to give them whatever they need. But needs are different from wants which many forget. You shouldn't need a Gucci bag to feel good about yourself or to fit into the crowd you socialize with. You shouldnt need diamond earrings to feel valued by your husband. You can want these things because they are pretty and make you feel a certain way but those are not things to strive for. Having a healthy loving relationship with you partner, family and friends are more important then material Possessions. People forget want unconditional love is nowadays and marry for convenience or lust, that is why some many relationships fail. I say marry for that unconditional love and remember that relationships in general are about Sacrifice to a certain degree. Money can never make you truly happy, only an illusion of happiness that last a minute.

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I married someone who looked "good on paper". I thought I loved him. We had fun, he was funny, people liked us as a couple, he had a good job, he adored me, tells me I'm beautiful. Problem is ---he changed. He became career obsessed, competitive (not in a good way) with everyone, selfish, lost interest in kids, and then had a downturn in his career which has made him insecure and angry. Unfortunately, I've lost interest in him, too. Is it because he is not making the kind of money both he and I thought he would be making? Yes, in some ways.....I resent he took the risks to start a business and leave a secure job.. I resent the ugly things he said to me during stressful times, I resent that the kids are just objects to him.. I resent my decision to marry a man that I had some doubts about ( he was not my "soulmate" ), but I was easily swayed but what looked like the potential "good life" ( read:money) with him.....I admit it!
Now we have a terrible sex life ( I can't even fake it - I'm so resentful) and he resents me most for that.

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I know a man who lost his girlfriend because she was from a wealthy family and he clearly was not. Her family put a stop to it. I was not surprised when I heard the story.
10 years later he was a very successful businessman. Married someone else.
A might come from money and look wealthy, but that does not mean he will be able to use that wealth to satisfy his trophy wife from poverty.
Oj simpsons wife married for money. Guys with money will be jerks, they know you love their more than them. That is why they treat you like that.
Just marry your equal. You will be so happy. You really do have to be miserable to believe money will make you happy.
The kennedy wife killed herself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha, poor OP.

I married for love. Met my DH when we were in our early 20s and poor. Then the 1990s came and he worked for UUNet that went IPO, he then moved to a private company that got bought out by Cisco, more $$$.

I have smokin hot DH who is young and rich and I love him!

He can't be that young if he was in his early twenties in the 1980's.