? for the mom w/ a toddler with down's. why are you using a handicapped tag?
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I can respond to this. My husband has a heart condition that will act up sometimes. When it acts up, he has to sit down ASAP or he will pass out. He has a handicap sticker because unlike the mall or walmart or a shopping place, he can't just sit down in the middle of a parking lot. He'll walk around the store, but you bet your bottom dollar that he will scan the store and as he's walking, he can tell you where every single chair, or place to sit is located around him. He is always on the lookout for that place "just in case" and you'll even see him sometimes waiting in the main aisle of the store while I run down the aisle to get that item. To you, it looks like he's just leaning on the cart waiting for his wife to run down the aisle and get something, but to him, it's a problem to make it down there sometimes. And he'll not let you know because he's embarrassed by his condition (it took me years to get him to get the handicap sticker) and wants to appear "normal." Also, his walking around the store has become a MAJOR accomplishment and he wants to continue walking while he can. So, you are a bitch for looking at him wondering how he can walk down the aisles of a store, yet "somehow the walk from the parking lot to the store is too much." He has nothign to prove to you! |
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I almost strangled a security cop this past winter when I went shopping at an outdoor mall with my dad and mom. My dad has Parkinsons on his left side and a "dead foot" (has severe nerve damage and cannot feel anything in his foot) on the right side. Walking can be difficult, tiresome and dangerous if he should trip (he's 6'5" so a long way to fall). Even though he took frequent breaks to sit outside or in a coffee shop, by the time we got down to the other end from where the car was, he was tired, exhausted and rather unsteady on his feet. (He hadn't been able to do much activity for awhile but was strong enough and really wanted to go on this annual shopping trip with us). My mom and I left him on a bench and walked back to the other side of the mall (about a 10 min walk) to our car. Well, the idiot security guard read the handicap permit wrong and read the date wrong and wrote us a ticket for an expired placard (it was expiring Nov of 2012 and he read it as Nov 2011). The security guy argued with us for about 30 min saying we'd have to bring my dad back on Monday (it was a Saturday and we lived an hour away) because th ey were too busy to handle it now, or my dad would have to walk the 15 min (the security office is further away) to prove that he was with us. It didn't matter that we could show him he just read the date wrong. Finally when the manager came out and my mom told him that if they made my dad walk all the way there, and he fell, she would sue them, did they decide to tear up the ticket. The security guard even tried to argue with the manager about this.
Sorry, I know off the topic, but this thread brought up those memories and how POd I was at the guy. |
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| Oh, and to that PP about people walking around fine. ..my dad loves walking around BJs and the grocery store because the cart steadies him. |
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This thread makes me sad, and so do the dirty looks my 25 year old brother gets when he parks in a handicapped space. People always assume he is fine- no one would know he had a burst spinal cord vertebrae (from being hit by a car) and will have serious balance/paralysis issues the rest of his life.
It really doesn't matter how well he gets around the store people, and it sure as hell isn't your place to judge whether or not someone has a valid medical condition just by looking at them. |
Anonymous
This thread makes me sad too. 
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"This thread makes me sad too."
+1000 |
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I had a roommate who, while serving in the military, broke her back. She was in varying levels of near constant pain and couldnt walk, sit or stand for long periods of time. She was only in her early 20's and has nothing to look forward to but the creeping loss of mobility and she will eventually end up in a wheelchair.
But she looked fine. With the aid of a cart, and taking her time, she could walk around the grocery store just fine. I don't know how many times she came home in tears because some asshole made a comment about how *she looked fine* and *should be ashamed of herself*. |
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I think the above comments are true for many people with physical disabilities, and the temperature (too hot or cold) outside compared to indoors can also make quite a difference. |
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This is such a judgmental and sad geographical area - as if handicapped or health threatened people actually owe others an explanation? No way! Are people that lonely and nosy to think they are due anthers health records? For real? The nosy ones are the ones that need help. As if when you tried to explain a condition, the nosy would actually have the brains or where with all to understand the medical diagnosis? Yeah right. Nosy people are not bright, in my experience. |
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| anther=another |
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DCUM has border patrol now? 
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Yes. No annoying people. Get out. Leave. No one likes you. 
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PS It sure would be awesome if you could roll your eyes every once in a while.
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| As someone with a handicapped DH + tags, please please know it is not easy to get and doctors DO NOT take the request lightly. My DH waited as long as he could (probably way too long) and now we get the dirty looks and I just give them right back. |
Anonymous
Good for you, PP!! You go! Seriously. |