Is 250k a bad salary now for a man?

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We make exactly the same salary, to the dollar ($128,851). DW/55, DH 54. Married almost 32 years and salaries have never been a concern.

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Anonymous wrote:LOl! if women are making that much then it is ok to expect more otherwise no need to find a loser that can't make her own money and expect you to earn for her.

I dunno if he could keep the house clean and have dinner ready, that would be pretty awesome. If he actually lived up to his end of the bargain and took care of all the household stuff, that would be pretty great.

Exactly. Men who make $120k would never be able to meet the expectations of high standard household maintenance and parenting. Women who make $250k are a very different breed with high standards in everything .
So the low paying meh would rather complain at these women being “gold diggers” or just marry women who make under $120k.

Huh. I’ve never equated high standards with money. I have extremely high standards… for behavior and respect, in particular.

I know wealthier people who can’t meet my standards.

That’s not my experience. People who make that much money also have higher standards for everything else in life. Eg to and self care routine, vacations types (quality site seeing vs cheap cruises or gastro tours), cleaner houses, kids upbringing. In most cases higher earning capacity is related to higher organizational skills. I dated a bunch of men who made much less than me and I was also bored around them. Very limited interests, life experience etc

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Anonymous wrote:A $250K salary is more than the majority of Americans make. It’s a great salary, but you know this. All of the PPs know this. I wish everyone would stop cosplaying as multi-millionaires on DCUM.

+1000

Part of me hopes AI wrecks “Big Law” so these fools finally get a dose of reality. We make $280k combined at 49 and 54 and feel very comfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:LOl! if women are making that much then it is ok to expect more otherwise no need to find a loser that can't make her own money and expect you to earn for her.

I dunno if he could keep the house clean and have dinner ready, that would be pretty awesome. If he actually lived up to his end of the bargain and took care of all the household stuff, that would be pretty great.

Exactly. Men who make $120k would never be able to meet the expectations of high standard household maintenance and parenting. Women who make $250k are a very different breed with high standards in everything .
So the low paying meh would rather complain at these women being “gold diggers” or just marry women who make under $120k.

Huh. I’ve never equated high standards with money. I have extremely high standards… for behavior and respect, in particular.

I know wealthier people who can’t meet my standards.

That’s not my experience. People who make that much money also have higher standards for everything else in life. Eg to and self care routine, vacations types (quality site seeing vs cheap cruises or gastro tours), cleaner houses, kids upbringing. In most cases higher earning capacity is related to higher organizational skills. I dated a bunch of men who made much less than me and I was also bored around them. Very limited interests, life experience etc

It’s called being happy with what you have and not needing to constantly get the next fix. The way you describe that as some sort of negative is really weird.

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Anonymous wrote:LOl! if women are making that much then it is ok to expect more otherwise no need to find a loser that can't make her own money and expect you to earn for her.

I dunno if he could keep the house clean and have dinner ready, that would be pretty awesome. If he actually lived up to his end of the bargain and took care of all the household stuff, that would be pretty great.

Exactly. Men who make $120k would never be able to meet the expectations of high standard household maintenance and parenting. Women who make $250k are a very different breed with high standards in everything .
So the low paying meh would rather complain at these women being “gold diggers” or just marry women who make under $120k.

Huh. I’ve never equated high standards with money. I have extremely high standards… for behavior and respect, in particular.

I know wealthier people who can’t meet my standards.

That’s not my experience. People who make that much money also have higher standards for everything else in life. Eg to and self care routine, vacations types (quality site seeing vs cheap cruises or gastro tours), cleaner houses, kids upbringing. In most cases higher earning capacity is related to higher organizational skills. I dated a bunch of men who made much less than me and I was also bored around them. Very limited interests, life experience etc

I’m sorry you have such a limited worldview.

I decided to go into a service profession because I believe the true value in a person’s work is what they can give back to community. I could have waltzed into a higher paying job, but that wouldn’t have aligned with my values. I’m not motivated by money. I fail to see how a “quality” vacation is any better than a roadtrip down 95. The destination doesn’t make the trip one of “quality,” rather, the people around me do that.

And kid upbringing? Money doesn’t make you a better parent than others. Perhaps you can outsource more? And if so, how is that better parenting when it’s often something you can do yourself?

But perhaps you’d be bored around me. We don’t sound like we’d have similar interests.

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Anonymous wrote:LOl! if women are making that much then it is ok to expect more otherwise no need to find a loser that can't make her own money and expect you to earn for her.

I dunno if he could keep the house clean and have dinner ready, that would be pretty awesome. If he actually lived up to his end of the bargain and took care of all the household stuff, that would be pretty great.

Exactly. Men who make $120k would never be able to meet the expectations of high standard household maintenance and parenting. Women who make $250k are a very different breed with high standards in everything .
So the low paying meh would rather complain at these women being “gold diggers” or just marry women who make under $120k.

Huh. I’ve never equated high standards with money. I have extremely high standards… for behavior and respect, in particular.

I know wealthier people who can’t meet my standards.

That’s not my experience. People who make that much money also have higher standards for everything else in life. Eg to and self care routine, vacations types (quality site seeing vs cheap cruises or gastro tours), cleaner houses, kids upbringing. In most cases higher earning capacity is related to higher organizational skills. I dated a bunch of men who made much less than me and I was also bored around them. Very limited interests, life experience etc

I’m sorry you have such a limited worldview.

I decided to go into a service profession because I believe the true value in a person’s work is what they can give back to community. I could have waltzed into a higher paying job, but that wouldn’t have aligned with my values. I’m not motivated by money. I fail to see how a “quality” vacation is any better than a roadtrip down 95. The destination doesn’t make the trip one of “quality,” rather, the people around me do that.

And kid upbringing? Money doesn’t make you a better parent than others. Perhaps you can outsource more? And if so, how is that better parenting when it’s often something you can do yourself?

But perhaps you’d be bored around me. We don’t sound like we’d have similar interests.

Sorry not sorry that I prefer to see world cultural treasures and the nature and geological wonders. I doubt you spend your time studying Rafael painting technique vs Leonardo. I kinda enjoy being able just to hop on a plane to see exhibits that I always wanted to see, or to see a show. Of course when you invest the money in your kids they grow more social, less plugged into their screens, want to invent and achieve something, speak multiple languages. My 19 yo speaks 3 languages at native level, won in their college tech challenge (installing a portable communications system to address college wifi system gaps), and just got an internship at a tech company. That is all thanks to tutors they had, and excellent school they went to. That started from me buying a house in that neighborhood and earning good money to begin with.

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Anonymous wrote:A $250K salary is more than the majority of Americans make. It’s a great salary, but you know this. All of the PPs know this. I wish everyone would stop cosplaying as multi-millionaires on DCUM.

+1000

Part of me hopes AI wrecks “Big Law” so these fools finally get a dose of reality. We make $280k combined at 49 and 54 and feel very comfortable.

I would think so.

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Anonymous wrote:LOl! if women are making that much then it is ok to expect more otherwise no need to find a loser that can't make her own money and expect you to earn for her.

I dunno if he could keep the house clean and have dinner ready, that would be pretty awesome. If he actually lived up to his end of the bargain and took care of all the household stuff, that would be pretty great.

Exactly. Men who make $120k would never be able to meet the expectations of high standard household maintenance and parenting. Women who make $250k are a very different breed with high standards in everything .
So the low paying meh would rather complain at these women being “gold diggers” or just marry women who make under $120k.

Huh. I’ve never equated high standards with money. I have extremely high standards… for behavior and respect, in particular.

I know wealthier people who can’t meet my standards.

That’s not my experience. People who make that much money also have higher standards for everything else in life. Eg to and self care routine, vacations types (quality site seeing vs cheap cruises or gastro tours), cleaner houses, kids upbringing. In most cases higher earning capacity is related to higher organizational skills. I dated a bunch of men who made much less than me and I was also bored around them. Very limited interests, life experience etc

I’m sorry you have such a limited worldview.

I decided to go into a service profession because I believe the true value in a person’s work is what they can give back to community. I could have waltzed into a higher paying job, but that wouldn’t have aligned with my values. I’m not motivated by money. I fail to see how a “quality” vacation is any better than a roadtrip down 95. The destination doesn’t make the trip one of “quality,” rather, the people around me do that.

And kid upbringing? Money doesn’t make you a better parent than others. Perhaps you can outsource more? And if so, how is that better parenting when it’s often something you can do yourself?

But perhaps you’d be bored around me. We don’t sound like we’d have similar interests.

Sorry not sorry that I prefer to see world cultural treasures and the nature and geological wonders. I doubt you spend your time studying Rafael painting technique vs Leonardo. I kinda enjoy being able just to hop on a plane to see exhibits that I always wanted to see, or to see a show. Of course when you invest the money in your kids they grow more social, less plugged into their screens, want to invent and achieve something, speak multiple languages. My 19 yo speaks 3 languages at native level, won in their college tech challenge (installing a portable communications system to address college wifi system gaps), and just got an internship at a tech company. That is all thanks to tutors they had, and excellent school they went to. That started from me buying a house in that neighborhood and earning good money to begin with.

And none of that… none of that… makes you a better parent than others. You may be a good parent who has the financial resources to make a path easier for your child. Okay. What about the parent (like me) who got their child on an equally successful path, but without the resources?

And none of that makes you superior. So you know the difference between two painting techniques. Do you know the needs at your local food pantry?

But I suppose the real issue is that you come across as NEEDING to feel better than others. That must be exhausting, and I wonder if you’d have a more complete world view if you let that go.

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Anonymous wrote:LOl! if women are making that much then it is ok to expect more otherwise no need to find a loser that can't make her own money and expect you to earn for her.

I dunno if he could keep the house clean and have dinner ready, that would be pretty awesome. If he actually lived up to his end of the bargain and took care of all the household stuff, that would be pretty great.

Exactly. Men who make $120k would never be able to meet the expectations of high standard household maintenance and parenting. Women who make $250k are a very different breed with high standards in everything .
So the low paying meh would rather complain at these women being “gold diggers” or just marry women who make under $120k.

Huh. I’ve never equated high standards with money. I have extremely high standards… for behavior and respect, in particular.

I know wealthier people who can’t meet my standards.

That’s not my experience. People who make that much money also have higher standards for everything else in life. Eg to and self care routine, vacations types (quality site seeing vs cheap cruises or gastro tours), cleaner houses, kids upbringing. In most cases higher earning capacity is related to higher organizational skills. I dated a bunch of men who made much less than me and I was also bored around them. Very limited interests, life experience etc

I’m sorry you have such a limited worldview.

I decided to go into a service profession because I believe the true value in a person’s work is what they can give back to community. I could have waltzed into a higher paying job, but that wouldn’t have aligned with my values. I’m not motivated by money. I fail to see how a “quality” vacation is any better than a roadtrip down 95. The destination doesn’t make the trip one of “quality,” rather, the people around me do that.

And kid upbringing? Money doesn’t make you a better parent than others. Perhaps you can outsource more? And if so, how is that better parenting when it’s often something you can do yourself?

But perhaps you’d be bored around me. We don’t sound like we’d have similar interests.

Sorry not sorry that I prefer to see world cultural treasures and the nature and geological wonders. I doubt you spend your time studying Rafael painting technique vs Leonardo. I kinda enjoy being able just to hop on a plane to see exhibits that I always wanted to see, or to see a show. Of course when you invest the money in your kids they grow more social, less plugged into their screens, want to invent and achieve something, speak multiple languages. My 19 yo speaks 3 languages at native level, won in their college tech challenge (installing a portable communications system to address college wifi system gaps), and just got an internship at a tech company. That is all thanks to tutors they had, and excellent school they went to. That started from me buying a house in that neighborhood and earning good money to begin with.

Money can’t buy class. You have a lot one, but none of the other.

[Anonymous]

My husband makes about $200k and I can’t imagine finding a better spouse, partner, and dad for our kids. He takes on half (maybe over half) of the household work and mental load, coaches kids’ sports, and is generally involved and present. Based on friends’ experiences, I’m not sure high earning men are involved in the same way.

I make 7 figures but, as a mom, can’t escape being involved.

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Anonymous wrote:LOl! if women are making that much then it is ok to expect more otherwise no need to find a loser that can't make her own money and expect you to earn for her.

I dunno if he could keep the house clean and have dinner ready, that would be pretty awesome. If he actually lived up to his end of the bargain and took care of all the household stuff, that would be pretty great.

Exactly. Men who make $120k would never be able to meet the expectations of high standard household maintenance and parenting. Women who make $250k are a very different breed with high standards in everything .
So the low paying meh would rather complain at these women being “gold diggers” or just marry women who make under $120k.

Huh. I’ve never equated high standards with money. I have extremely high standards… for behavior and respect, in particular.

I know wealthier people who can’t meet my standards.

That’s not my experience. People who make that much money also have higher standards for everything else in life. Eg to and self care routine, vacations types (quality site seeing vs cheap cruises or gastro tours), cleaner houses, kids upbringing. In most cases higher earning capacity is related to higher organizational skills. I dated a bunch of men who made much less than me and I was also bored around them. Very limited interests, life experience etc

I’m sorry you have such a limited worldview.

I decided to go into a service profession because I believe the true value in a person’s work is what they can give back to community. I could have waltzed into a higher paying job, but that wouldn’t have aligned with my values. I’m not motivated by money. I fail to see how a “quality” vacation is any better than a roadtrip down 95. The destination doesn’t make the trip one of “quality,” rather, the people around me do that.

And kid upbringing? Money doesn’t make you a better parent than others. Perhaps you can outsource more? And if so, how is that better parenting when it’s often something you can do yourself?

But perhaps you’d be bored around me. We don’t sound like we’d have similar interests.

Sorry not sorry that I prefer to see world cultural treasures and the nature and geological wonders. I doubt you spend your time studying Rafael painting technique vs Leonardo. I kinda enjoy being able just to hop on a plane to see exhibits that I always wanted to see, or to see a show. Of course when you invest the money in your kids they grow more social, less plugged into their screens, want to invent and achieve something, speak multiple languages. My 19 yo speaks 3 languages at native level, won in their college tech challenge (installing a portable communications system to address college wifi system gaps), and just got an internship at a tech company. That is all thanks to tutors they had, and excellent school they went to. That started from me buying a house in that neighborhood and earning good money to begin with.

And none of that… none of that… makes you a better parent than others. You may be a good parent who has the financial resources to make a path easier for your child. Okay. What about the parent (like me) who got their child on an equally successful path, but without the resources?

And none of that makes you superior. So you know the difference between two painting techniques. Do you know the needs at your local food pantry?

But I suppose the real issue is that you come across as NEEDING to feel better than others. That must be exhausting, and I wonder if you’d have a more complete world view if you let that go.

What are you taking about ? Money absolutely allow to be a better and more involved parent to your kids. Money buy you time to read to your kids in the evening, take them to sports, cook healthy meals, talk to their teachers, travel with kids and teach them languages.
If you go to the most impoverished neighborhoods parents don’t have time for their kids because they work low wages 24/7.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know how you could even be attracted to someone who gets a “salary.” Gives me the ick.

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Anonymous wrote:LOl! if women are making that much then it is ok to expect more otherwise no need to find a loser that can't make her own money and expect you to earn for her.

I dunno if he could keep the house clean and have dinner ready, that would be pretty awesome. If he actually lived up to his end of the bargain and took care of all the household stuff, that would be pretty great.

Exactly. Men who make $120k would never be able to meet the expectations of high standard household maintenance and parenting. Women who make $250k are a very different breed with high standards in everything .
So the low paying meh would rather complain at these women being “gold diggers” or just marry women who make under $120k.

Huh. I’ve never equated high standards with money. I have extremely high standards… for behavior and respect, in particular.

I know wealthier people who can’t meet my standards.

That’s not my experience. People who make that much money also have higher standards for everything else in life. Eg to and self care routine, vacations types (quality site seeing vs cheap cruises or gastro tours), cleaner houses, kids upbringing. In most cases higher earning capacity is related to higher organizational skills. I dated a bunch of men who made much less than me and I was also bored around them. Very limited interests, life experience etc

I’m sorry you have such a limited worldview.

I decided to go into a service profession because I believe the true value in a person’s work is what they can give back to community. I could have waltzed into a higher paying job, but that wouldn’t have aligned with my values. I’m not motivated by money. I fail to see how a “quality” vacation is any better than a roadtrip down 95. The destination doesn’t make the trip one of “quality,” rather, the people around me do that.

And kid upbringing? Money doesn’t make you a better parent than others. Perhaps you can outsource more? And if so, how is that better parenting when it’s often something you can do yourself?

But perhaps you’d be bored around me. We don’t sound like we’d have similar interests.

Sorry not sorry that I prefer to see world cultural treasures and the nature and geological wonders. I doubt you spend your time studying Rafael painting technique vs Leonardo. I kinda enjoy being able just to hop on a plane to see exhibits that I always wanted to see, or to see a show. Of course when you invest the money in your kids they grow more social, less plugged into their screens, want to invent and achieve something, speak multiple languages. My 19 yo speaks 3 languages at native level, won in their college tech challenge (installing a portable communications system to address college wifi system gaps), and just got an internship at a tech company. That is all thanks to tutors they had, and excellent school they went to. That started from me buying a house in that neighborhood and earning good money to begin with.

And none of that… none of that… makes you a better parent than others. You may be a good parent who has the financial resources to make a path easier for your child. Okay. What about the parent (like me) who got their child on an equally successful path, but without the resources?

And none of that makes you superior. So you know the difference between two painting techniques. Do you know the needs at your local food pantry?

But I suppose the real issue is that you come across as NEEDING to feel better than others. That must be exhausting, and I wonder if you’d have a more complete world view if you let that go.

What are you taking about ? Money absolutely allow to be a better and more involved parent to your kids. Money buy you time to read to your kids in the evening, take them to sports, cook healthy meals, talk to their teachers, travel with kids and teach them languages.
If you go to the most impoverished neighborhoods parents don’t have time for their kids because they work low wages 24/7.

You are so, so woefully out of touch with the real world. Shockingly so. Please tell me you’re joking.

Money doesn’t buy me time to read to my children. That costs me nothing at all. And what makes you think you need to be wealthy to talk to teachers? To teach your children languages?

I’ll say it: I am a teacher. I’ve taught the children of the wealthy and the children of the less fortunate. I’ve met wealthy parents who ignore their children, letting others and social media do the work of parenting for them. I’ve met less fortunate parents who are some of the strongest, most balanced role models one can have.

So let’s stop with your farce here. Money doesn’t make you a better parent. All it does is make you a parent with money. That’s not as impressive as you want it to be.

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Anonymous wrote:LOl! if women are making that much then it is ok to expect more otherwise no need to find a loser that can't make her own money and expect you to earn for her.

Most women are making this much which is why OP made the post.

Trolling, right? Most women make far less than this. I’m in my 20th year of my career and I make $100K. Multiple masters degrees, too.

And is he respectful and honest? That’s all that matters to me. His $250K salary doesn’t matter at all.

No. Just because you chose to invest in a low-paying career doesn’t mean the rest of us did the same.

Hmm, wonder what percentage of women of childbearing age (under 30) make this much.

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Anonymous wrote:LOl! if women are making that much then it is ok to expect more otherwise no need to find a loser that can't make her own money and expect you to earn for her.

I dunno if he could keep the house clean and have dinner ready, that would be pretty awesome. If he actually lived up to his end of the bargain and took care of all the household stuff, that would be pretty great.

Exactly. Men who make $120k would never be able to meet the expectations of high standard household maintenance and parenting. Women who make $250k are a very different breed with high standards in everything .
So the low paying meh would rather complain at these women being “gold diggers” or just marry women who make under $120k.

Huh. I’ve never equated high standards with money. I have extremely high standards… for behavior and respect, in particular.

I know wealthier people who can’t meet my standards.

That’s not my experience. People who make that much money also have higher standards for everything else in life. Eg to and self care routine, vacations types (quality site seeing vs cheap cruises or gastro tours), cleaner houses, kids upbringing. In most cases higher earning capacity is related to higher organizational skills. I dated a bunch of men who made much less than me and I was also bored around them. Very limited interests, life experience etc

I’m sorry you have such a limited worldview.

I decided to go into a service profession because I believe the true value in a person’s work is what they can give back to community. I could have waltzed into a higher paying job, but that wouldn’t have aligned with my values. I’m not motivated by money. I fail to see how a “quality” vacation is any better than a roadtrip down 95. The destination doesn’t make the trip one of “quality,” rather, the people around me do that.

And kid upbringing? Money doesn’t make you a better parent than others. Perhaps you can outsource more? And if so, how is that better parenting when it’s often something you can do yourself?

But perhaps you’d be bored around me. We don’t sound like we’d have similar interests.

Sorry not sorry that I prefer to see world cultural treasures and the nature and geological wonders. I doubt you spend your time studying Rafael painting technique vs Leonardo. I kinda enjoy being able just to hop on a plane to see exhibits that I always wanted to see, or to see a show. Of course when you invest the money in your kids they grow more social, less plugged into their screens, want to invent and achieve something, speak multiple languages. My 19 yo speaks 3 languages at native level, won in their college tech challenge (installing a portable communications system to address college wifi system gaps), and just got an internship at a tech company. That is all thanks to tutors they had, and excellent school they went to. That started from me buying a house in that neighborhood and earning good money to begin with.

And none of that… none of that… makes you a better parent than others. You may be a good parent who has the financial resources to make a path easier for your child. Okay. What about the parent (like me) who got their child on an equally successful path, but without the resources?

And none of that makes you superior. So you know the difference between two painting techniques. Do you know the needs at your local food pantry?

But I suppose the real issue is that you come across as NEEDING to feel better than others. That must be exhausting, and I wonder if you’d have a more complete world view if you let that go.

What are you taking about ? Money absolutely allow to be a better and more involved parent to your kids. Money buy you time to read to your kids in the evening, take them to sports, cook healthy meals, talk to their teachers, travel with kids and teach them languages.
If you go to the most impoverished neighborhoods parents don’t have time for their kids because they work low wages 24/7.

You are so, so woefully out of touch with the real world. Shockingly so. Please tell me you’re joking.

Money doesn’t buy me time to read to my children. That costs me nothing at all. And what makes you think you need to be wealthy to talk to teachers? To teach your children languages?

I’ll say it: I am a teacher. I’ve taught the children of the wealthy and the children of the less fortunate. I’ve met wealthy parents who ignore their children, letting others and social media do the work of parenting for them. I’ve met less fortunate parents who are some of the strongest, most balanced role models one can have.

So let’s stop with your farce here. Money doesn’t make you a better parent. All it does is make you a parent with money. That’s not as impressive as you want it to be.

I admire the jobs that teachers do for us. But statistics show that best reading and math scores are in affluent school districts. And yes, nutrition, attendance of cultural events as a family, joint travels simply don’t exist in many African American families (where kids are traditionally raised by single moms who work low paid jobs) and other deprived districts. It’s unfortunate that you as a teacher refuse to accept the reality that higher income indeed results in higher education levels. The examples you provided about rich parents exist, but not a statistical norm.

I presume you were also against affirmative action ?

Thankfully colleges recognize educational difficulties that kids from poor areas are facing in this country and take into account socioeconomic factors

https://hechingerreport.org/after-affirmative-action-takeaways-and-puzzles-from-college-admissions-data/