Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?

[Anonymous]

I’m mostly appalled that your husband was made to do his own laundry in the first place, what kind of slacker wife are you?

[Anonymous]

Need an update, OP. Are the towels still on the floor?

[Anonymous]

So you're post partum, and instead of helping you with communal laundry, he throws it on the floor.

No. Not ok. He's being an AH. You shouldn't even be doing laundry for your ILs, it should be him.

[Anonymous]

This seems like an overreaction, the towels on the floor can easily be folded and put away. It was probably annoying to him that when he went to put his wash in the dryer that there was still a load in it that was known to be there, and only selectively removed. When you are washing clothes and they are finished washing, they need to be put in the dryer immediately so they don’t get moldy. I’m sure all your husband was doing was trying to quickly put his wet clothes in the dryer so he removed the towels on the floor.

[Anonymous]

So why didn’t the wife remove the towels from the dryer that were to be folded later and put them in a basket or on top of the dryer? Seems like she is getting annoyed with the husband for something she should have done.

[Anonymous]

OP here with an update! After the towels sat on the floor the entire day yesterday, I (calmly, in a non-confrontational manner) asked DH what was up with the towels. According to DH, he DID put the towels on top of the dryer, but they all fell off onto the floor. I find it a little hard to believe that an entire load of laundry fell off the top of the dryer, but DH does have a tendency to overload it which causes it to shake more than usual - so I guess it’s possible. In any event, DH was aware that all the towels were on the floor all day yesterday and did nothing about it until I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them.

For the posters asking why the towels weren’t moved to a laundry basket - DH recently took over the laundry basket that we use for clean towels. He is now using two of our laundry baskets for his clean laundry. I guess it’s time to order more laundry baskets!

[Anonymous]

If you calmly said to him "hey, the towels needed to be clean for company. Can you please make sure anything you take out of the dryer gets folded or put in a basket?" how would he respond? If he responds poorly to clearly, kindly delivered feedback, yes, that's a problem.

My husband does bonehead annoying stuff, too (as do I), and he made me especially crazy during postpartum. But I LIKE him, and I don't want to make him feel bad. I'd rather us quickly resolve whatever issue we're having, regardless of whose fault it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update! After the towels sat on the floor the entire day yesterday, I (calmly, in a non-confrontational manner) asked DH what was up with the towels. According to DH, he DID put the towels on top of the dryer, but they all fell off onto the floor. I find it a little hard to believe that an entire load of laundry fell off the top of the dryer, but DH does have a tendency to overload it which causes it to shake more than usual - so I guess it’s possible. In any event, DH was aware that all the towels were on the floor all day yesterday and did nothing about it until I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them.

For the posters asking why the towels weren’t moved to a laundry basket - DH recently took over the laundry basket that we use for clean towels. He is now using two of our laundry baskets for his clean laundry. I guess it’s time to order more laundry baskets!

I was some what excited about the update until, "I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them." Why would he pick them up just so YOU can re-wash them? Why wasn't he rewashing them? Why force him to pick them up? It's strange...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m mostly appalled that your husband was made to do his own laundry in the first place, what kind of slacker wife are you?

That's basically what my MIL would say to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update! After the towels sat on the floor the entire day yesterday, I (calmly, in a non-confrontational manner) asked DH what was up with the towels. According to DH, he DID put the towels on top of the dryer, but they all fell off onto the floor. I find it a little hard to believe that an entire load of laundry fell off the top of the dryer, but DH does have a tendency to overload it which causes it to shake more than usual - so I guess it’s possible. In any event, DH was aware that all the towels were on the floor all day yesterday and did nothing about it until I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them.

For the posters asking why the towels weren’t moved to a laundry basket - DH recently took over the laundry basket that we use for clean towels. He is now using two of our laundry baskets for his clean laundry. I guess it’s time to order more laundry baskets!

Girl. Your man is a liar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update! After the towels sat on the floor the entire day yesterday, I (calmly, in a non-confrontational manner) asked DH what was up with the towels. According to DH, he DID put the towels on top of the dryer, but they all fell off onto the floor. I find it a little hard to believe that an entire load of laundry fell off the top of the dryer, but DH does have a tendency to overload it which causes it to shake more than usual - so I guess it’s possible. In any event, DH was aware that all the towels were on the floor all day yesterday and did nothing about it until I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them.

For the posters asking why the towels weren’t moved to a laundry basket - DH recently took over the laundry basket that we use for clean towels. He is now using two of our laundry baskets for his clean laundry. I guess it’s time to order more laundry baskets!

Girl. Your man is a liar.

It was obviously a very localized earthquake and he is still traumatized by he surprise of it all so he will need time off from chores to regroup. Let’s be more understanding. He could have died!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave them and see how it takes for him to fold them.

+1

The towels are for his parents, he should have been the one washing them anyway. Leave the towels there and when his parents come if they ask you for towels you can tell them that their son left them on the floor for them.

Sorry you married a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is common behavior for people who grow up with house cleaners doing such chores. They have no idea how to do such chores. I'm surprised he is doing laundry himself, not leaving it for you to do it with yours.

That's ridiculous. I grew up with maids and didn't do my own laundry until college but I've never left clean towels on the floor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leave them and see how it takes for him to fold them.

+1

The towels are for his parents, he should have been the one washing them anyway. Leave the towels there and when his parents come if they ask you for towels you can tell them that their son left them on the floor for them.

Sorry you married a loser.

FWIW, these were run-of-the-mill family towels, as OP had already pulled out the original towels for the in-laws. And hey, in my marriage we do things for each other and guests that are technically not our responsibility. My parents are coming? DH goes out and gets them the drinks they like. His parents are coming? I vacuum the guest room and buy fresh flowers for them. That's how it works in healthy (LMAO, b/c our relationship isn't healthy) relationship.

All signs point to a passive-aggressive d-wad of a husband and a wife who is rolling over and allowing him to say he put them on top of the washer and they "fell" off ... um, sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is common behavior for people who grow up with house cleaners doing such chores. They have no idea how to do such chores. I'm surprised he is doing laundry himself, not leaving it for you to do it with yours.

That's ridiculous. I grew up with maids and didn't do my own laundry until college but I've never left clean towels on the floor.

I didn't grow up with maids, but any adult and most children over the age of 7 knows the basement floor is not the place for laundry!!!