Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?

[Anonymous]

I would not in a million years pick those towels up. Yes, I would order new towels if I ran out of clean ones and those towels were still sitting on the floor where he tossed them.

report back to us how long it takes for him to pick up the towels, fold and put them away. i bet he does it five minutes before his parents show.

[Anonymous]

Only children who has not yet been properly taught put clean, freshly washed dryer items on the floor to make way for their own clothes.

[Anonymous]

I love how petty some of you are and I am 100% here for it.

[Anonymous]

He seems like a clueless person and since he does his laundry, likely he isn't a completely lost cause and can be reformed. Ask his mom's opinion on this incident and for a solution because you don't want to parent him while you have your own kids needing parenting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leave them and see how it takes for him to fold them.

Leave them and when your inlaws arrive, explain that your DH put their towels "right here on the floor, so help yourselves".

+111111

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean I’d be annoyed, but not angry. So yes I think you’re overreacting.

Why didn’t you fold all of the towels? Is your excuse going to be because you were going something nice for HIS parents?

Now I get selectively removing items from the dryer so I’m not blaming you for that. But an argument could be made that you both made mistakes. And what’s the big deal anyway? That you need to rewash them? Ok, so?

So, she's got an infant, an older child, and her ILs are visiting and her husband deliberately threw something on the floor so she'd have to do it again. That's plain mean.

THEY have an infant and an older child.

How do you know it was deliberate? I could totally see my husband absentmindedly putting the items on the floor, especially if he was tired from having a newborn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not in a million years pick those towels up. Yes, I would order new towels if I ran out of clean ones and those towels were still sitting on the floor where he tossed them.

report back to us how long it takes for him to pick up the towels, fold and put them away. i bet he does it five minutes before his parents show.

There was an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond like this but with stinky cheese.

[Anonymous]

This is common behavior for people who grow up with house cleaners doing such chores. They have no idea how to do such chores. I'm surprised he is doing laundry himself, not leaving it for you to do it with yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I need a gut check on whether it’s reasonable for me to be extremely annoyed by something DH did this morning or whether I’m overreacting. I did a load of towels on Friday afternoon so that we would have clean towels for my in-laws, who are visiting this weekend. Once the load was dry, I pulled out towels for the in-laws but had not gotten around to folding the rest of the towels yet.

DH decided to do his own laundry this morning. I just went into the laundry room and found a big pile of clean towels on the floor. It appears that DH removed the towels from the dryer so that he could change over his laundry, but instead of folding the towels, putting them in a laundry basket, or even just putting them on top of the dryer, he put them ON THE FLOOR - right in the middle of the walk way - and left them there.

I’m more than annoyed about this. I’m actually angry. I’m also a few months postpartum with our second child, so I realize that sleep deprivation may be affecting my reaction.

DH can’t take criticism so I know that when I bring this up, DH will go on the offensive and blame me for not having unloaded the dryer sooner. As a result, I’m waiting until tonight to bring this up. In the meantime, what do you all think? Is my reaction reasonable?

Leave towels there on the floor and ask him to bring the towels from the dryer.

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[Anonymous]

He can rewash them after he finishes doing his other laundry.

[Anonymous]

An honest advice, don't make a river out of a drop of water while you two are dealing with a toddler, a baby and visiting family. Neither of you need a fight or a dose of resentment. Take a deep breath and let it go.

[Anonymous]

Can you just ask him to handle the towels for his parents? I assume part of your annoyance comes from having to rewash them. So what if you just very calmly .. didn't?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This would annoy me… Especially when he knew the towels were clean and don’t belong on the floor

The least he could have done was toss them on top of the w/d.

Your husband is a slob. Sorry OP.

In a hurry, my DH would have either dumped it on top of the w/d, or the dining table, or the sofa...if he did not find a laundry basket. So, yes, go ahead and yell.

Here is the thing though. In my household, despite my repeated lessons, my family does laundry in an "average" manner. I, on the other hand, like to sort very well, use different products for each load, have different water temp, different spin speed etc. I also take care with the drying, folding etc. I run the fuzz remover in fuzzy fabrics, lay the sweater flat and shape them...so, when my family does laundry, our entire family start to dress like poor people. So, I do the laundry, and DH cooks. I am hoping that in your family there is a similar division of labor.

But still, which moron dumps clean laundry on the floor? Why not use a fresh trash bag if you are out of laundry basket?

Also, you are supposed to be well taken care of for at least the first 40 days postpartum in most cultures. So, you need to drop the ball and have a list of chores written down for your DH, your ILs. If you need to hire someone to do this...please do that.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry about perfect hosting, they know you are postpartum with an infant and a toddler. Instead welcome them sincerely and let them pitch in any way they are willing to do. Happy family is better than perfect HGTV home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean I’d be annoyed, but not angry. So yes I think you’re overreacting.

Why didn’t you fold all of the towels? Is your excuse going to be because you were going something nice for HIS parents?

Now I get selectively removing items from the dryer so I’m not blaming you for that. But an argument could be made that you both made mistakes. And what’s the big deal anyway? That you need to rewash them? Ok, so?

No. I don't think OP was overreacting. UNLESS the DH is mentally or physically disabled.

Most people will agree that he did not have to fold the laundry...but no one will agree that the place to put unfolded clean laundry is on the floor.