Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?

[Anonymous]

I need a gut check on whether it’s reasonable for me to be extremely annoyed by something DH did this morning or whether I’m overreacting. I did a load of towels on Friday afternoon so that we would have clean towels for my in-laws, who are visiting this weekend. Once the load was dry, I pulled out towels for the in-laws but had not gotten around to folding the rest of the towels yet.

DH decided to do his own laundry this morning. I just went into the laundry room and found a big pile of clean towels on the floor. It appears that DH removed the towels from the dryer so that he could change over his laundry, but instead of folding the towels, putting them in a laundry basket, or even just putting them on top of the dryer, he put them ON THE FLOOR - right in the middle of the walk way - and left them there.

I’m more than annoyed about this. I’m actually angry. I’m also a few months postpartum with our second child, so I realize that sleep deprivation may be affecting my reaction.

DH can’t take criticism so I know that when I bring this up, DH will go on the offensive and blame me for not having unloaded the dryer sooner. As a result, I’m waiting until tonight to bring this up. In the meantime, what do you all think? Is my reaction reasonable?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, that's just obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

In the time it took you to write this you could have just folded the towels.

[Anonymous]

I doubt this is the first ahole thing he’s done. Tell us the rest.

[Anonymous]

Totally justified. This scenario is the closest I ever came to murdering my xDH.

[Anonymous]

This would annoy me… Especially when he knew the towels were clean and don’t belong on the floor

The least he could have done was toss them on top of the w/d.

Your husband is a slob. Sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

That seems deliberate.

[Anonymous]

Leave them and see how it takes for him to fold them.

[Anonymous]

I mean I’d be annoyed, but not angry. So yes I think you’re overreacting.

Why didn’t you fold all of the towels? Is your excuse going to be because you were going something nice for HIS parents?

Now I get selectively removing items from the dryer so I’m not blaming you for that. But an argument could be made that you both made mistakes. And what’s the big deal anyway? That you need to rewash them? Ok, so?

[Anonymous]

I’d start preparing for a divorce because if this is how you treat each other (both way) you’ll be getting one sooner or later.

[Anonymous]

I would be very annoyed by this. It's ridiculous. But fortunately I didn't marry someone who would do something like this. When my clothes are in the dryer and DH has washed some of his and needs to transfer them to the dryer, he folds mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean I’d be annoyed, but not angry. So yes I think you’re overreacting.

Why didn’t you fold all of the towels? Is your excuse going to be because you were going something nice for HIS parents?

Now I get selectively removing items from the dryer so I’m not blaming you for that. But an argument could be made that you both made mistakes. And what’s the big deal anyway? That you need to rewash them? Ok, so?

So, she's got an infant, an older child, and her ILs are visiting and her husband deliberately threw something on the floor so she'd have to do it again. That's plain mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need a gut check on whether it’s reasonable for me to be extremely annoyed by something DH did this morning or whether I’m overreacting. I did a load of towels on Friday afternoon so that we would have clean towels for my in-laws, who are visiting this weekend. Once the load was dry, I pulled out towels for the in-laws but had not gotten around to folding the rest of the towels yet.

DH decided to do his own laundry this morning. I just went into the laundry room and found a big pile of clean towels on the floor. It appears that DH removed the towels from the dryer so that he could change over his laundry, but instead of folding the towels, putting them in a laundry basket, or even just putting them on top of the dryer, he put them ON THE FLOOR - right in the middle of the walk way - and left them there.

I’m more than annoyed about this. I’m actually angry. I’m also a few months postpartum with our second child, so I realize that sleep deprivation may be affecting my reaction.

DH can’t take criticism so I know that when I bring this up, DH will go on the offensive and blame me for not having unloaded the dryer sooner. As a result, I’m waiting until tonight to bring this up. In the meantime, what do you all think? Is my reaction reasonable?

Leave towels there on the floor and ask him to bring the towels from the dryer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave them and see how it takes for him to fold them.

Leave them and when your inlaws arrive, explain that your DH put their towels "right here on the floor, so help yourselves".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leave them and see how it takes for him to fold them.

Leave them and when your inlaws arrive, explain that your DH put their towels "right here on the floor, so help yourselves".