Birthday party no shows

[Anonymous]

Just a tip, you can flag an email as NOT SPAM and with this 10 second effort you will receive all the birthday invitations in your inbox.

Tbh not coming after RSVPing "yes" is a strong predictor of certain type of personality and all sorts of related behaviors. Unless it was later followed by some sort of explanation and apology, it is a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you need to stop with the invite the whole class nonsense. Invite the kids your kid is friends with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If they don’t open it or respond, they aren’t interested. It’s an invitation not a summons.

OP here. I am not talking about people who don’t respond. I am talking about people who RSVP yes and then I pay for their kid and they don’t show up.

I’m totally fine with people not responding or RSVPing no. I’m even ok with people texting me at the very last minute to say they can’t come. I had a person say they were sick and I let a sibling join. I’m annoyed at the person who just didn’t show up and I am out $50. It is the principle more than the actual cost but the cost is annoying also.

From the OP (I'm quoting you here):

"There are people who don’t open evites or don’t RSVP."

So yeah, you're complaining about everyone.

Op here. I’m not complaining about everyone. I was complaining about people who RSVP yes and then don’t show up.

We stopped doing all class parties. These are friends of my child. When my child was in preschool or kindergarten, there were always some people who never opened the invitation or didn’t RSVP. Those are just no’s in my book. If it was an actual friend, I would follow up with parents.

As an adult, I don’t hang out with flaky people. I have to tolerate some of these parents because my child is friends with their child.

I’m with you OP. I don’t get how people can defend the position that it’s just peachy to confirm that they’ll be somewhere and no show without any communication.

Well, no one is saying that, so there you go.

I've been in this exact boat but I just choose not to be bothered by it. The fact that OP posted on here and followed up multiple times makes it clear she has too much time on her hands. I guess with your seven-figure income you can afford to complain on DCUM. Enjoy your misery party, I guess? Or just get over it and understand that there will always be people like this. I'm not one of them but I also don't let them take up my mental real estate because I have 97,168 more important things to do.

[Anonymous]

FYI - "strange choices people made" was how they acted days prior/day of event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they don’t open it or respond, they aren’t interested. It’s an invitation not a summons.

OP here. I am not talking about people who don’t respond. I am talking about people who RSVP yes and then I pay for their kid and they don’t show up.

I’m totally fine with people not responding or RSVPing no. I’m even ok with people texting me at the very last minute to say they can’t come. I had a person say they were sick and I let a sibling join. I’m annoyed at the person who just didn’t show up and I am out $50. It is the principle more than the actual cost but the cost is annoying also.

From the OP (I'm quoting you here):

"There are people who don’t open evites or don’t RSVP."

So yeah, you're complaining about everyone.

Op here. I’m not complaining about everyone. I was complaining about people who RSVP yes and then don’t show up.

We stopped doing all class parties. These are friends of my child. When my child was in preschool or kindergarten, there were always some people who never opened the invitation or didn’t RSVP. Those are just no’s in my book. If it was an actual friend, I would follow up with parents.

As an adult, I don’t hang out with flaky people. I have to tolerate some of these parents because my child is friends with their child.

I’m with you OP. I don’t get how people can defend the position that it’s just peachy to confirm that they’ll be somewhere and no show without any communication.

Well, no one is saying that, so there you go.

I've been in this exact boat but I just choose not to be bothered by it. The fact that OP posted on here and followed up multiple times makes it clear she has too much time on her hands. I guess with your seven-figure income you can afford to complain on DCUM. Enjoy your misery party, I guess? Or just get over it and understand that there will always be people like this. I'm not one of them but I also don't let them take up my mental real estate because I have 97,168 more important things to do.

Op here. DH has no idea who the person was who no showed. He doesn’t care if people have poor manners. He wouldn’t know who came or didn’t come. He won’t know the total bill for the party.

I, on the other hand, still think this person is very rude.

[Anonymous]

No response = I text them personally, did you get the invite, can you come

No show = no longer friends. I have enough friends, don't need any rude ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they don’t open it or respond, they aren’t interested. It’s an invitation not a summons.

OP here. I am not talking about people who don’t respond. I am talking about people who RSVP yes and then I pay for their kid and they don’t show up.

I’m totally fine with people not responding or RSVPing no. I’m even ok with people texting me at the very last minute to say they can’t come. I had a person say they were sick and I let a sibling join. I’m annoyed at the person who just didn’t show up and I am out $50. It is the principle more than the actual cost but the cost is annoying also.

From the OP (I'm quoting you here):

"There are people who don’t open evites or don’t RSVP."

So yeah, you're complaining about everyone.

Op here. I’m not complaining about everyone. I was complaining about people who RSVP yes and then don’t show up.

We stopped doing all class parties. These are friends of my child. When my child was in preschool or kindergarten, there were always some people who never opened the invitation or didn’t RSVP. Those are just no’s in my book. If it was an actual friend, I would follow up with parents.

As an adult, I don’t hang out with flaky people. I have to tolerate some of these parents because my child is friends with their child.

I’m with you OP. I don’t get how people can defend the position that it’s just peachy to confirm that they’ll be somewhere and no show without any communication.

Well, no one is saying that, so there you go.

I've been in this exact boat but I just choose not to be bothered by it. The fact that OP posted on here and followed up multiple times makes it clear she has too much time on her hands. I guess with your seven-figure income you can afford to complain on DCUM. Enjoy your misery party, I guess? Or just get over it and understand that there will always be people like this. I'm not one of them but I also don't let them take up my mental real estate because I have 97,168 more important things to do.

Op here. DH has no idea who the person was who no showed. He doesn’t care if people have poor manners. He wouldn’t know who came or didn’t come. He won’t know the total bill for the party.

I, on the other hand, still think this person is very rude.

I mean, congratulations on having a checked-out husband? Did he even know it was your kid's birthday?