Dating game changer: only date men who chase you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not prey. I don't need someone chasing me. I don't play games. Clearly you haven't learned much from a failed marriage given you are starting out in a very unhealthy way.

I don't think OP is talking about playing games. She talks about displaying an interest, being proactive, pursuing the woman, impressing her. I don't think it is unhealthy relationship.

What happens when he catches you? I can’t help but notice the posters who say they want the man to pursue them and then complain that their husband doesn’t do all things he did when he was chasing. Of course, both of you made it a game. And he caught the mouse. Game over.

When he catches you, you make a life together and have babies and a wonderful decades long marriage.

You don’t post on DCUM whining about your deadbeat husband because 1) you’re happy and 2) deadbeat men rarely pursue.

Don’t worry, you’re only miserable because no high value man has bothered to pursue you. There’s always hope.

Is this how “high value” woman speak to other women when they have a difference of opinion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I used to chase unavailable men and tried to convince them to pick me and choose me.

Now I’m only given attention and assessing men who are clearly interested and pursuing me! I have two men on rotation that are taking me out. A third one asked me out next weekend.

Pick and choose are synonyms so this is redundant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think taking the lazy approach and just sitting back and taking the guy that chases you leads to pretty unhealthy relationships. You should also want to be with the person, not just date them because they spent the most money on you, texted you the most, said the most validating things to you. Those things can be a veneer - just because someone goes all out and is all about you for the first bit so you decide he is the one doesn't mean he actually has qualities that make him a good partner. Being a passenger in your own life and not making active decisions leads to poor relationships.

No one said anything about picking the guy who spent the most money or texted the most.

You keep projecting. It’s sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm okay I guess desperate men are going even after leftovers. OP you are not a catch. Keep that in mind. You are in the post divorce honey moon phase lol.

Wow. That was mean, uncalled for, and has no basis in reality. OP is a human being and has all the worth in the world.

Please try to do better as a human being.