Elementary drop off and working parents

Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:My one staff works from home three days a week and her husband works from home two days a week. They dont work from home on same day. Problem solved.

Another women a single mom I work with our office is literally next door to townhomes. She literally lives like 100 feet from office. She walks kids to bus and at work a few seconds later, she then takes a 15 minute break around 3pm to go to bus stop outside office and walks kids home, sets up snacks and back at work. Her kids a bit older 8 and 10.

I had another single mom working for me with a young child when I worked in Bethesda who livedin Reston. Our office was literally next door to a preK to 8th grade Catholic school. She drove to work her daughter, she she drop off at school, she sometimes have lunch with her and did afterschool, she pick her up and drive home together.

My old town we had a nice retired lady who lived across from elementary school. She used to let parents drop off kids as early at 630am, she watch them, even could make breakfast and her house was like 50 feet school entrance at start of school she walk them across the street. She do it at end of day too if you wanted.

My wife ended up on bedrest with third kid for three months. I went to hire her but for two kids morning and night plus I had to bring kid there did not work. I found a nice retired German women on a low income who was a widow in local paper. I hired her to walk kids to school, pick up kids from school, go supermarket for wife and prepare breakfast and lunch and since she was only there 830am to 330 pm on school days easy for her and we provided meals for her too. She was like $600 a week cash. But for that price she did not do much else. And she brought her dog too. She was poorer than I though as we also let her take home leftovers for dinner. She was very happy getting three meals a day plus $600 a week cash for a job at 70. And I gave her $1,000 bonus when it ended. Was only three months but was nice to help. She literally just kept wife company while kids in school or read a book 3-4 hours a day.

But I dont see how it is works problem. My two sisters became teachers to avoid this problem. And a lot of nurses work other shifts to avoid this. Plus my old school alot of Dads who were Cops, Fireman, worked at Airport did drop up and pick up.


Not one person here is saying it's work's problem.

Plenty of us had this easily figured out when telework was allowed. Now many of us are banned from telework and work doesn't like the hours we're working to try to make it work.


Interesting re: your sisters. I’m a teacher and I certainly deal with this issue. My school starts earlier than my kids’ school and I’m required to stay after, so I need childcare on both ends of the school day. And I work a second job during the summer, so I still need to rely on camp openings. Many teachers are in the same position I am when it comes to childcare.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In our district school (elementary) starts at 8:20 (doors open/bus arrives at 8:00) so I put dc on bus at 7:40 and get to work by 8:05. Dh is not involved at all in the morning routine; he starts work at 6. But then he is able to meet the bus. So I guess our answer is to stagger schedules.


This would be my ideal schedule, our ES doesn't start until 930, with 9am bus pickup. So beforecare it is, we stagger schedules but meetings may start at 9 or 930 so doesn't work to not start the commute until then.


That is crazy late. Is this some sort of Montessori with lots of rich SAHMs/"retired" dads?

Our kid's school starts at 8:30am. Drop him off at the drive-thru at 815am and he hangs out with other kids in the gym. Can drop off as early as 730am if you pay for before-care.

930am is just really weird.


No it's MCPS- sorry it's actually 9:25, I just rounded up. But I agree it's really late.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In our district school (elementary) starts at 8:20 (doors open/bus arrives at 8:00) so I put dc on bus at 7:40 and get to work by 8:05. Dh is not involved at all in the morning routine; he starts work at 6. But then he is able to meet the bus. So I guess our answer is to stagger schedules.


This would be my ideal schedule, our ES doesn't start until 930, with 9am bus pickup. So beforecare it is, we stagger schedules but meetings may start at 9 or 930 so doesn't work to not start the commute until then.


That is crazy late. Is this some sort of Montessori with lots of rich SAHMs/"retired" dads?

Our kid's school starts at 8:30am. Drop him off at the drive-thru at 815am and he hangs out with other kids in the gym. Can drop off as early as 730am if you pay for before-care.

930am is just really weird.


No it's MCPS- sorry it's actually 9:25, I just rounded up. But I agree it's really late.


What time does your school day end?

My kid is in DCPS, school goes from 8:35 - 3:25 each day. Can drop off as early as 8:15am without triggering aftercare.

If your kid ends the day at 3:25pm, they are getting ~1 hour LESS instruction than my kid each day. That is huge.
Anonymous
My kids catholic school starts at 8a and it’s a huge relief to be able to drop her then. Plus there’s beforecare
If you need it.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In our district school (elementary) starts at 8:20 (doors open/bus arrives at 8:00) so I put dc on bus at 7:40 and get to work by 8:05. Dh is not involved at all in the morning routine; he starts work at 6. But then he is able to meet the bus. So I guess our answer is to stagger schedules.


This would be my ideal schedule, our ES doesn't start until 930, with 9am bus pickup. So beforecare it is, we stagger schedules but meetings may start at 9 or 930 so doesn't work to not start the commute until then.


That is crazy late. Is this some sort of Montessori with lots of rich SAHMs/"retired" dads?

Our kid's school starts at 8:30am. Drop him off at the drive-thru at 815am and he hangs out with other kids in the gym. Can drop off as early as 730am if you pay for before-care.

930am is just really weird.


No it's MCPS- sorry it's actually 9:25, I just rounded up. But I agree it's really late.


What time does your school day end?

My kid is in DCPS, school goes from 8:35 - 3:25 each day. Can drop off as early as 8:15am without triggering aftercare.

If your kid ends the day at 3:25pm, they are getting ~1 hour LESS instruction than my kid each day. That is huge.


3:50
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I wish we had a bus — its almost 3/4 of a mile which is too far for a 2nd grader alone, and a bus would pickup much earlier; her classmates bus comes at 815!


Drive to the closest bus stop. My son once took a camp bus that did not really get him any closer to our house but took 30 mins that allowed me to finish my work day. I met him at the last stop
Anonymous
It seems a little late to be learning this harsh reality, but when both parents have jobs with long hours and can’t work remotely, childcare is always an issue. That’s why many parents have completely reoriented their jobs around kids. This isn’t school’s fault.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Our local elementary schools start at 9am.

We tried before care, but it was almost empty and kid found it depressing. Too young and too far to walk to school on own (no bus).

How are working parents handling this? Do they get to work around 930/945? Have a crazy short commute so 845 drop off and get to work by 9? Hiring nannies or local grandparents for mornings?

My career has definitely suffered by being the morning drop off; somedays I dont get until 10 which hurts.


How does it hurt? If it’s just you feeling guilty, then don’t feel bad. You are a parent first before you are an employee. This is your circumstance now. Some one else has a different circumstance. Working parents are a fact of life. And this timing will change at some point for you.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In our district school (elementary) starts at 8:20 (doors open/bus arrives at 8:00) so I put dc on bus at 7:40 and get to work by 8:05. Dh is not involved at all in the morning routine; he starts work at 6. But then he is able to meet the bus. So I guess our answer is to stagger schedules.


This would be my ideal schedule, our ES doesn't start until 930, with 9am bus pickup. So beforecare it is, we stagger schedules but meetings may start at 9 or 930 so doesn't work to not start the commute until then.


That is crazy late. Is this some sort of Montessori with lots of rich SAHMs/"retired" dads?

Our kid's school starts at 8:30am. Drop him off at the drive-thru at 815am and he hangs out with other kids in the gym. Can drop off as early as 730am if you pay for before-care.

930am is just really weird.


In FCPS, half the ES schools start at 8:30 and the other half start at 9:30, for bus reasons. This was a factor when we chose where to live, because 9:30 is untenable.

To your snarky comment, private schools in my area start at 8:00, or earlier for certain specials, because parent convenience carries more weight.
Anonymous
Our DCPS beforecare has more kids in it since Federal RTO.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In our district school (elementary) starts at 8:20 (doors open/bus arrives at 8:00) so I put dc on bus at 7:40 and get to work by 8:05. Dh is not involved at all in the morning routine; he starts work at 6. But then he is able to meet the bus. So I guess our answer is to stagger schedules.


This would be my ideal schedule, our ES doesn't start until 930, with 9am bus pickup. So beforecare it is, we stagger schedules but meetings may start at 9 or 930 so doesn't work to not start the commute until then.


That is crazy late. Is this some sort of Montessori with lots of rich SAHMs/"retired" dads?

Our kid's school starts at 8:30am. Drop him off at the drive-thru at 815am and he hangs out with other kids in the gym. Can drop off as early as 730am if you pay for before-care.

930am is just really weird.


In FCPS, half the ES schools start at 8:30 and the other half start at 9:30, for bus reasons. This was a factor when we chose where to live, because 9:30 is untenable.

To your snarky comment, private schools in my area start at 8:00, or earlier for certain specials, because parent convenience carries more weight.


DP but also in FCPS and it was a total brain fail on my part to not consider ES start times when we bought a house, but we didn't even have kids at that point and I was just looking for a solid ES. Totally overlooked the split start times. Anyway, I have no problem dropping off my kids at beforecare, doing that allows me to get home for dinner.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In our district school (elementary) starts at 8:20 (doors open/bus arrives at 8:00) so I put dc on bus at 7:40 and get to work by 8:05. Dh is not involved at all in the morning routine; he starts work at 6. But then he is able to meet the bus. So I guess our answer is to stagger schedules.


This would be my ideal schedule, our ES doesn't start until 930, with 9am bus pickup. So beforecare it is, we stagger schedules but meetings may start at 9 or 930 so doesn't work to not start the commute until then.


That is crazy late. Is this some sort of Montessori with lots of rich SAHMs/"retired" dads?

Our kid's school starts at 8:30am. Drop him off at the drive-thru at 815am and he hangs out with other kids in the gym. Can drop off as early as 730am if you pay for before-care.

930am is just really weird.


In FCPS, half the ES schools start at 8:30 and the other half start at 9:30, for bus reasons. This was a factor when we chose where to live, because 9:30 is untenable.

To your snarky comment, private schools in my area start at 8:00, or earlier for certain specials, because parent convenience carries more weight.


DP but also in FCPS and it was a total brain fail on my part to not consider ES start times when we bought a house, but we didn't even have kids at that point and I was just looking for a solid ES. Totally overlooked the split start times. Anyway, I have no problem dropping off my kids at beforecare, doing that allows me to get home for dinner.


They can also rezone and change start times.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How much is before care? We only need 30 minutes of aftercare 3x a week and it's $400 a month for the county aftercare. Just another reason parents are broke.
But it’s extremely reliable. If it’s in your kid’s school you don’t have to worry about someone else transporting them. It’s all there in the same building. Use as much or as little as needed from week to week. It’s your spot. The make seemingly lifetime friends with the other playmates there. They work late and early and used to include snow days and teacher workdays. We never needed to search on care.com. The before care and after care was a given. Yes, it’s money out, but it was perfect coverage in the long run. Just pay it for elementary and keep the kids safe. Middle school starts a different era.


+1

OP, are you posting from 2022? Have you never paid for child care? In-school before and after care is still way cheaper than daycare!


I am not complaining about the cost of before care. Im saying there are very few students, and its a depressing scene. Kids warehoused in a multipurpose room for 2 hours at tables. They cant use playground, because staff need to stay onsite as kids trickle in all morning (vs aftercare where kids all arrive at same time and can be managed more easily).


What does your daughter do at home during this time now? Can't she bring a book or something else to do? Participation in beforecare at our school has ticked back up again but before RTO it was pretty light for a while. But we sent DS anyway because we both need to work 8.5 hrs so if I didn't get in until 10am I'd be at work until 6:30pm and that just doesn't work for our family. We prioritized the evening over the morning. Are you part-time or also having to make this tradeoff?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wish we had a bus — its almost 3/4 of a mile which is too far for a 2nd grader alone, and a bus would pickup much earlier; her classmates bus comes at 815!


Drive to the closest bus stop. My son once took a camp bus that did not really get him any closer to our house but took 30 mins that allowed me to finish my work day. I met him at the last stop


Buses are expensive, our accounting is very strict that people must take their assigned bus stop only. I remember when my kids were younger and we lived elsewhere. They once were almost refused to be allowed on the bus even though it was their stop.
Anonymous
*county is strict
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