39 and pregnant

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of mediocre OBs who get freaked out easily. This is why I switched to MFM during my pregnancy at 38. The MFM was way more chill, calm and experienced. My OB had wanted to deliver at 34weeks after one high BP reading. I went to 38.5 weeks under the MFM’s care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my babies at 36 and 42, so I've heard the messaging myself. Honestly waiting does raise the risk of stillbirth especially in older moms, and I think educating moms on the ARRIVE study is front of mind for providers especially if that doctor did just deliver a stillborn baby to a mom who didn't want to induce.

But since this is your 4th I would be shocked if you needed to be induced to avoid that outcome -- most later babies come earlier and you have a "proven pelvis" unlike FTMs over 40. If you've indicated that you want to have an off the grid home birth with a psychic and a life coach attending, then your provider is trying to steer you back. If you've indicated that you're going to be following medical advice then they need to knock it off or you need to switch to a new practice.

Exactly. How did your previous pregnancy go? That’s how doctors also assess the need for an induction or not.

[Anonymous]

I had my 2nd at 39 and most of her friends mom's are older than me. It's really very very common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my 2nd at 39 and most of her friends mom's are older than me. It's really very very common.

OP was kind of burying the lede here making it sound like this was just about judgement for being older and pregnant. I had my twins at 40 and it was NBD, I get it. What she really wanted was support on going against medical advice to avoid induction and go to or past her due date because she didn't like the doctors bringing up evidence of negative outcomes of making that choice in older moms.

Anyway, unless she is hellbent on pushing this to 42+ weeks whatever happened should have happened by now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of mediocre OBs who get freaked out easily. This is why I switched to MFM during my pregnancy at 38. The MFM was way more chill, calm and experienced. My OB had wanted to deliver at 34weeks after one high BP reading. I went to 38.5 weeks under the MFM’s care.

Ok fool

[Anonymous]

OP now there are 6 less vaccines bringing a human into the world in the US right now is selfish and irresponsible