I'm a divorced man and this post captures the thinking of many women I've dated, although most say it out loud. I feel that way myself. And it's not like I could say one was "the best." I had a few amazing emotional and sexual experiences. |
| The horniest people I know are divorced women in their 40s and it’s not even close. |
This illustrates that men's sex drive is stronger. The fact that the women have to be divorced shows that their drive depends on new relationship energy. Unlike with men, the drive is not strong enough to be sustainable in a long term relationship. (This is obviously a generality - there are women who maintain a strong drive throughout long relationships. It's just not as common as with men.) |
So what's a solution here? Never marry? Invite thirds for variety for your wife, and be a c..ck ? |
Make due with less sex, understanding that often it's not a reflection on your personal worth and that less sex is the price you pay for the non-sexual benefits of a long term relationship. I realize that kind of sucks. But it's better than thinking that a wife's sexual desire for you is purely a function of your attractiveness, abilities in bed, and/or contributions as a husband. That notion leads to resentment when you notice that some truly shitty people are having more sex than you. |
I’ve known a man who was inviting thirds for wife. They also had FMF threesomes but he liked MFM more because his wife was pleasured |
Have you tried not sucking in bed? I'm a super horny 40-something divorcee and my ex-husband couldn't convince me to roll over because he absolutely sucked in bed. I told him so too and also told him in detail what I need. Yet he kept pretending he had no idea how to fix our dead bedroom because he really just wanted to stick his prick in, get himself off, and then go back to sleep like the selfish POS he is. The answer to most questions about why women don't want sex with men is that most of you suck in bed. But you'd rather read and write rambling pseudoscientific treatises on female sexuality than hear the basic truth that you're a selfish shitty lay and you wouldn't want to have sex with yourself either. |
Admitting your skills are lacking and then learning how to please a woman won't kill you. The lies you men tell yourself are just embarrassing. |
Learn your way around a clitoris and get it through your head that you wouldn't want sex either if you never got to come. |