Do men have stronger sex drives than women?

[Anonymous]

If you think that, you've obviously never been with recently divorced women in their 40s. Oh how I've loved them all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, at different times in life. No, in others.

This is the most accurate answer from my experience.

And at a certain age, lots of men trade their sex drive for the ready opportunity to have a woman mother and nurse them, instead.

I will absolutely 100% not deny being grateful that I was ready for sex all the time in my 20s and early 30s with my then boyfriend who was, now that I look back at it, completely on the spectrum. I just didn't know what that looked like. But he would travel overnight Friday after his classes to the state where I lived just to have sex with me on a floor futon over 48 hours before heading back overnight Sunday for Monday classes.

Then we got married and we had a special needs kid and then two more.

Now (in our 60s) he's got someone else for that. She also packs his clothes, makes all their travel arrangements, heats up trays of things from catering places, does his laundry, drives him to work and home, supervises the housekeeping, personally cuts his hair and probably trims him in other places, laughs at his jokes and doesn't get upset when he only ever wants to watch the last ten minutes of any action movie "because that's when all the stuff happens" ... he's rich.

That's why I fully believe this. Women are more strategic when it comes to sex. Sex for intimacy and security.

We women bleed all the time and have to do childbirth and maybe breast-feed and stuff, but lots of men are slaves to their physical drives that I do not envy AT ALL.

I don't think women would have invented things like P*** or W**

Is he younger than you? What she got that he didn't get from you, or it is just the timing of falling apart when in love?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you think that, you've obviously never been with recently divorced women in their 40s. Oh how I've loved them all.

Why recently divorced is so important here and not the age? I am 44M and been with women who are in 40s and 30s. One out of five, I find someone in 40s that have high sex drive to enjoy doing sex earlier in the relationship or all the time. Most of the time, I see women doing all kinds of things to attract during the earlier part of the relationship but then it slowly fades away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think that, you've obviously never been with recently divorced women in their 40s. Oh how I've loved them all.

Why recently divorced is so important here and not the age? I am 44M and been with women who are in 40s and 30s. One out of five, I find someone in 40s that have high sex drive to enjoy doing sex earlier in the relationship or all the time. Most of the time, I see women doing all kinds of things to attract during the earlier part of the relationship but then it slowly fades away.

Have you considered that you suck in bed? It's hard to remain motivated about sex with a lousy lay. That probably explains why woman after woman loses interest in keeping your attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think that, you've obviously never been with recently divorced women in their 40s. Oh how I've loved them all.

Why recently divorced is so important here and not the age? I am 44M and been with women who are in 40s and 30s. One out of five, I find someone in 40s that have high sex drive to enjoy doing sex earlier in the relationship or all the time. Most of the time, I see women doing all kinds of things to attract during the earlier part of the relationship but then it slowly fades away.

Have you considered that you suck in bed? It's hard to remain motivated about sex with a lousy lay. That probably explains why woman after woman loses interest in keeping your attention.

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It could be but then why they stay in relationship or marriage? Also, it is very common knowledge that a lot of women use sex to attract men but then it goes downhill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think that, you've obviously never been with recently divorced women in their 40s. Oh how I've loved them all.

Why recently divorced is so important here and not the age? I am 44M and been with women who are in 40s and 30s. One out of five, I find someone in 40s that have high sex drive to enjoy doing sex earlier in the relationship or all the time. Most of the time, I see women doing all kinds of things to attract during the earlier part of the relationship but then it slowly fades away.

Have you considered that you suck in bed? It's hard to remain motivated about sex with a lousy lay. That probably explains why woman after woman loses interest in keeping your attention.

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It could be but then why they stay in relationship or marriage? Also, it is very common knowledge that a lot of women use sex to attract men but then it goes downhill.

A better question is why you're the common denominator yet you haven't considered the most obvious explanation: you're the problem. That's that delusional male ego.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this true in your relationship, or not so much? How old are you?

Yes, but in a completely different way than women. For most of us men, we want to have sex all the time. Both when we are feeling romantic, but also just when we wake up or go to sleep or in the middle of the day. I'm not being funny, so let me explain. We have the same need for intimacy as women, and what sex to connect and for enjoyment. But we also look at sex separately from that as well. We also want it just to relieve a genuine need that most of us have. It's not that we are looking at you as objects, but even if it is just to orgasm before bed or when we wake up to start our day. Sometimes out of the blue in the middle of the day. As a result, some women become offended and feel like they are objects. But that isn't the truth. We love the woman we are married to or dating, but we also trust her to provide us with this carnal release for this need that comes over many of us. When a woman recognized that fact, and allows it free of guilt, then she is providing a level of love and selflessness that many women don't understand. And I'll tell you something else, men with awesome wives like this seldom ever cheat.
This is the truth about us men. We love and admire you...but we also need to use you as our release.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this true in your relationship, or not so much? How old are you?

Yes, but in a completely different way than women. For most of us men, we want to have sex all the time. Both when we are feeling romantic, but also just when we wake up or go to sleep or in the middle of the day. I'm not being funny, so let me explain. We have the same need for intimacy as women, and what sex to connect and for enjoyment. But we also look at sex separately from that as well. We also want it just to relieve a genuine need that most of us have. It's not that we are looking at you as objects, but even if it is just to orgasm before bed or when we wake up to start our day. Sometimes out of the blue in the middle of the day. As a result, some women become offended and feel like they are objects. But that isn't the truth. We love the woman we are married to or dating, but we also trust her to provide us with this carnal release for this need that comes over many of us. When a woman recognized that fact, and allows it free of guilt, then she is providing a level of love and selflessness that many women don't understand. And I'll tell you something else, men with awesome wives like this seldom ever cheat.
This is the truth about us men. We love and admire you...but we also need to use you as our release.

Yeah, as many women can attest, men with wives who provide "carnal release" do cheat because cheating is about the person's low character and their propensity for dishonesty. Nice try putting it on women though. It's also telling that you view sex as something women should do for you instead of something that you have the obligation to make mutually enjoyable because it should be a shared experience of release. Hope you stay single.

[Anonymous]

Biology, women's sex drive is to get pregnant when practical and safe, and men's sex drive is to impregnate when practical and safe.


One of those has conditions that are much, much harder to meet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this true in your relationship, or not so much? How old are you?

Yes, but in a completely different way than women. For most of us men, we want to have sex all the time. Both when we are feeling romantic, but also just when we wake up or go to sleep or in the middle of the day. I'm not being funny, so let me explain. We have the same need for intimacy as women, and what sex to connect and for enjoyment. But we also look at sex separately from that as well. We also want it just to relieve a genuine need that most of us have. It's not that we are looking at you as objects, but even if it is just to orgasm before bed or when we wake up to start our day. Sometimes out of the blue in the middle of the day. As a result, some women become offended and feel like they are objects. But that isn't the truth. We love the woman we are married to or dating, but we also trust her to provide us with this carnal release for this need that comes over many of us. When a woman recognized that fact, and allows it free of guilt, then she is providing a level of love and selflessness that many women don't understand. And I'll tell you something else, men with awesome wives like this seldom ever cheat.
This is the truth about us men. We love and admire you...but we also need to use you as our release.

I'm glad that you "seldom" ever cheat, but that doesn't line up with reality. Sex addicts are more likely to cheat. If you need "release" in the middle of your work day, your wife doesn't seem like enough. Because it sounds like a compulsion.

Men cheat on supermodels and porn starts. Maybe the chance is slightly slimmed if you have sex daily, but it doesn't really matter. Men will cheat if they want to cheat. Including men who get it often at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this true in your relationship, or not so much? How old are you?

Yes, but in a completely different way than women. For most of us men, we want to have sex all the time. Both when we are feeling romantic, but also just when we wake up or go to sleep or in the middle of the day. I'm not being funny, so let me explain. We have the same need for intimacy as women, and what sex to connect and for enjoyment. But we also look at sex separately from that as well. We also want it just to relieve a genuine need that most of us have. It's not that we are looking at you as objects, but even if it is just to orgasm before bed or when we wake up to start our day. Sometimes out of the blue in the middle of the day. As a result, some women become offended and feel like they are objects. But that isn't the truth. We love the woman we are married to or dating, but we also trust her to provide us with this carnal release for this need that comes over many of us. When a woman recognized that fact, and allows it free of guilt, then she is providing a level of love and selflessness that many women don't understand. And I'll tell you something else, men with awesome wives like this seldom ever cheat.
This is the truth about us men. We love and admire you...but we also need to use you as our release.

Yeah, as many women can attest, men with wives who provide "carnal release" do cheat because cheating is about the person's low character and their propensity for dishonesty. Nice try putting it on women though. It's also telling that you view sex as something women should do for you instead of something that you have the obligation to make mutually enjoyable because it should be a shared experience of release. Hope you stay single.

It's 100% a guy who's bad in bed. Notice how every sex related thing is something for him, but nothing for her?

"We also want it just to relieve a genuine need that most of us have."
"but we also trust her to provide us"
"then she is providing a level of love and selflessness"
"We love and admire you...but we also need to use you as our release."

Major rapey vibes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think that, you've obviously never been with recently divorced women in their 40s. Oh how I've loved them all.

Why recently divorced is so important here and not the age? I am 44M and been with women who are in 40s and 30s. One out of five, I find someone in 40s that have high sex drive to enjoy doing sex earlier in the relationship or all the time. Most of the time, I see women doing all kinds of things to attract during the earlier part of the relationship but then it slowly fades away.

Have you considered that you suck in bed? It's hard to remain motivated about sex with a lousy lay. That probably explains why woman after woman loses interest in keeping your attention.

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It could be but then why they stay in relationship or marriage? Also, it is very common knowledge that a lot of women use sex to attract men but then it goes downhill.

A better question is why you're the common denominator yet you haven't considered the most obvious explanation: you're the problem. That's that delusional male ego.

why is he the problem? PP said that he had mix sexual experience with women in their 40s so not sure where you are reading that it is his experience with all of them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this true in your relationship, or not so much? How old are you?

Yes, but in a completely different way than women. For most of us men, we want to have sex all the time. Both when we are feeling romantic, but also just when we wake up or go to sleep or in the middle of the day. I'm not being funny, so let me explain. We have the same need for intimacy as women, and what sex to connect and for enjoyment. But we also look at sex separately from that as well. We also want it just to relieve a genuine need that most of us have. It's not that we are looking at you as objects, but even if it is just to orgasm before bed or when we wake up to start our day. Sometimes out of the blue in the middle of the day. As a result, some women become offended and feel like they are objects. But that isn't the truth. We love the woman we are married to or dating, but we also trust her to provide us with this carnal release for this need that comes over many of us. When a woman recognized that fact, and allows it free of guilt, then she is providing a level of love and selflessness that many women don't understand. And I'll tell you something else, men with awesome wives like this seldom ever cheat.
This is the truth about us men. We love and admire you...but we also need to use you as our release.

I have seen more often that women use sex to manipulate and then wonder why relationships don't work. I am sure men are at fault too for a lot of things in the relationship but there is so much that could be recovered with sex and finding connection through it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this true in your relationship, or not so much? How old are you?

Yes, but in a completely different way than women. For most of us men, we want to have sex all the time. Both when we are feeling romantic, but also just when we wake up or go to sleep or in the middle of the day. I'm not being funny, so let me explain. We have the same need for intimacy as women, and what sex to connect and for enjoyment. But we also look at sex separately from that as well. We also want it just to relieve a genuine need that most of us have. It's not that we are looking at you as objects, but even if it is just to orgasm before bed or when we wake up to start our day. Sometimes out of the blue in the middle of the day. As a result, some women become offended and feel like they are objects. But that isn't the truth. We love the woman we are married to or dating, but we also trust her to provide us with this carnal release for this need that comes over many of us. When a woman recognized that fact, and allows it free of guilt, then she is providing a level of love and selflessness that many women don't understand. And I'll tell you something else, men with awesome wives like this seldom ever cheat.
This is the truth about us men. We love and admire you...but we also need to use you as our release.

I’m a woman and I get it and I love this about men… maybe because I’m actually the same? Sex is sometimes just a fun physical activity and sometimes a deep, intimate experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think that, you've obviously never been with recently divorced women in their 40s. Oh how I've loved them all.

Why recently divorced is so important here and not the age? I am 44M and been with women who are in 40s and 30s. One out of five, I find someone in 40s that have high sex drive to enjoy doing sex earlier in the relationship or all the time. Most of the time, I see women doing all kinds of things to attract during the earlier part of the relationship but then it slowly fades away.

Have you considered that you suck in bed? It's hard to remain motivated about sex with a lousy lay. That probably explains why woman after woman loses interest in keeping your attention.

\

It could be but then why they stay in relationship or marriage? Also, it is very common knowledge that a lot of women use sex to attract men but then it goes downhill.

A better question is why you're the common denominator yet you haven't considered the most obvious explanation: you're the problem. That's that delusional male ego.

Divorced woman in my 40s. I can explain why my sex drive is higher now. In my 20s it was inhibited by prohibitions from my family. Not to have sex before marriage, date only those who want marriage etc.
In my 30s while married I was exhausted by 9-5 job and childcare.
Only as an empty nester in my 40s I found this window of opportunity to explore sexuality. I had 2 partners in my 20s; 1 partner (husband ) in my 30s-early 40s. In mid-late 40s I had 7 partners and enjoy variety more than anything else . Men are all different in bed