Fake Feminist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Her daughters are 24 and 20 and not young. Older one has a low paying job after a college degree and her mother expects me to cover some of the frivolous expenses for her daughter and I said NO.

So why are you not dating your financial peer?
She and her daughters definitely Italy have something to offer men like you. Otherwise, you would not be putting up with this. Stop whining. She is the best you can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call her out on her bs she can't have her cake and eat it too.

Neither can OP. His ugly a$$ cannot do better than her, and she knows it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not anti-feminist and (I’ll look for the link) where someone explains the non measurable items women contribute to when thinking about 50/50.

From women make $.67 to your dollar, cost of birth control, the safety issues women face dating and bringing you around her daughter, grocery shopping, eating at her home, the cost of her clothing/makeup/staying fit, the amount of unequal care they offer, on and on and on. Dating is very expensive for women financially, emotionally, etc.

Are you saying she wouldn’t buy clothing and makeup and stay fit if she wasn’t dating? Men, here is a red flag for you.

And what exactly are the safety costs around her daughter? If you are not comfortable, do not bring a guy home.

DP. Are you saying that a person shpuldn't ask for rent contributions from a roomate/friend living in their apartment because they would have bought the apartment even if they did not have roomates?

It does not matter if she would buy clothing and make up if they were not dating. The person she is dating is benefitting from her buying these things. He should offer to pay for some of them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ex-wife, the product of waspy boarding schools and a cushy upbringing, became a vocal "anti-white-patriarchy" progressive who believes women got and still get a raw deal.

Her raw deal included making $100k with summers off while contributing ZERO to mortgage, utilities, car payments / insurance, phone costs, college savings, vacation flights, hotels, college savings, tech equipment, kids' gear, and 95% of restaurant dinners. Yep, I made more -- but < $250k.

Maybe she is an outlier, but I'm not so sure.

Why did you marry her?

Because she presented herself as strong independent woman. During courtship, I felt obliged to pay for meals and trips. But silly me, it never occurred to me that she wouldn't step up to "partner" status once married. A strong, feminist adult dependent

BS. You were desperate for her to marry you or dumb. No reasonable person dates someone long enough to marry and then expect the switch would switch once they are married.

You deceived the poor woman into marrying you and showed her who you truly are after you got married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not anti-feminist and (I’ll look for the link) where someone explains the non measurable items women contribute to when thinking about 50/50.

From women make $.67 to your dollar, cost of birth control, the safety issues women face dating and bringing you around her daughter, grocery shopping, eating at her home, the cost of her clothing/makeup/staying fit, the amount of unequal care they offer, on and on and on. Dating is very expensive for women financially, emotionally, etc.

I was just quoted $1500 for an IUd insertion. Not to mention the side effects, extreme pain, removal, etc.

Men really underestimate the BS we go through so they can get laid.

So, you don’t want sex for yourself?

Weird. I had an IUD inserted so I could have a piece of mind when I have sex.

And your lover gets peace of mind too from your IUD. Yet you are the only one bearing the burden of the costs and the risk. That is stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am dating my recent gf of 6 months and she is 42. Overall, talks a big game that she is a feminist and women's rights etc but never go 50-50 on anything. I am very liberal and progressive and agree with most of the things she says about women etc but don't understand why her walk is different than her talk. I like her and have no problem spending $s as I make a lot more than her but she sometime acts like an entitled person and wants man to take care of her like in traditional setting. Not only her, but she is also teaching her young daughter to not go 50-50 on anything with her bf and counts a small thing such as driving to see him for 50 miles as enough contribution that he should take care of all the expenses for the weekend such as hotel, food, going out for drinks, etc. Is she really a feminist if her beliefs and values are in such a way that she can't even afford her own self?

You're dating someone with a child. Where is the father?

[Anonymous]

OP is in his 40s and still hasn’t realized that women always want men who will protect and provide. Even the women who also want to have a job and support rights for women.

Anyway, the girlfriend does sound like an idiot but so does he frankly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds a bit similar cases when women go on and on about 50/50 with babies, but the moment the father dares to have an opinion or method different from her's it all of a sudden about a "mother's special intuition" and the "special mother bond" and on and on, which, in practice, means she will make all of the important decisions and her judgment and emotions trumps her husband's. Really, women just want what they want.

and then they get bitter after the divorce. They never truly cared to be in a family where the DHs opinion is also mattered for kids. I have seen my brother who is much better father after divorce and kids love his calmness and active involvement. No wonder he has 75% of kids physical custody now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am dating my recent gf of 6 months and she is 42. Overall, talks a big game that she is a feminist and women's rights etc but never go 50-50 on anything. I am very liberal and progressive and agree with most of the things she says about women etc but don't understand why her walk is different than her talk. I like her and have no problem spending $s as I make a lot more than her but she sometime acts like an entitled person and wants man to take care of her like in traditional setting. Not only her, but she is also teaching her young daughter to not go 50-50 on anything with her bf and counts a small thing such as driving to see him for 50 miles as enough contribution that he should take care of all the expenses for the weekend such as hotel, food, going out for drinks, etc. Is she really a feminist if her beliefs and values are in such a way that she can't even afford her own self?

No. Neither are you for that matter.

It's ok if OP is not a feminist because he is not claiming to be one. Issue is that his GF is a hypocrite and just takes advantage to whatever she could get and cherry pick everything for her benefits. She has to be a good human first before her values and fight for feminism come into play.

Try to find a single feminist, just one, that is not a hypocrite.

This depends entirely on how you define feminism. Some simply take it to mean what's best fort the woman in any given situation conflict and advocate as such. Through that lens, the positions aren't really hypocritical.

Then they just want to be single because relationship has no place for ego unless you get a SIMP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not anti-feminist and (I’ll look for the link) where someone explains the non measurable items women contribute to when thinking about 50/50.

From women make $.67 to your dollar, cost of birth control, the safety issues women face dating and bringing you around her daughter, grocery shopping, eating at her home, the cost of her clothing/makeup/staying fit, the amount of unequal care they offer, on and on and on. Dating is very expensive for women financially, emotionally, etc.

Are you saying she wouldn’t buy clothing and makeup and stay fit if she wasn’t dating? Men, here is a red flag for you.

And what exactly are the safety costs around her daughter? If you are not comfortable, do not bring a guy home.

DP. Are you saying that a person shpuldn't ask for rent contributions from a roomate/friend living in their apartment because they would have bought the apartment even if they did not have roomates?

It does not matter if she would buy clothing and make up if they were not dating. The person she is dating is benefitting from her buying these things. He should offer to pay for some of them.

benefitting how? By sex? they are both getting it? What else is she bringing to the table? I agree that OP would dump her if he can do better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Call her out on her bs she can't have her cake and eat it too.

Neither can OP. His ugly a$$ cannot do better than her, and she knows it.

LOl! Do you know how OP looks or you are also one of the fake feminist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not anti-feminist and (I’ll look for the link) where someone explains the non measurable items women contribute to when thinking about 50/50.

From women make $.67 to your dollar, cost of birth control, the safety issues women face dating and bringing you around her daughter, grocery shopping, eating at her home, the cost of her clothing/makeup/staying fit, the amount of unequal care they offer, on and on and on. Dating is very expensive for women financially, emotionally, etc.

I was just quoted $1500 for an IUd insertion. Not to mention the side effects, extreme pain, removal, etc.

Men really underestimate the BS we go through so they can get laid.

So, you don’t want sex for yourself?

Weird. I had an IUD inserted so I could have a piece of mind when I have sex.

And your lover gets peace of mind too from your IUD. Yet you are the only one bearing the burden of the costs and the risk. That is stupid.

sure, find someone that has got vasectomy done. Expense for IUD is all on woman like man getting a bigger truck or car is for his own comfort and nothing to do with woman though she likes to be passenger princess in it. Your choice your cost.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call her out on her bs she can't have her cake and eat it too.

Neither can OP. His ugly a$$ cannot do better than her, and she knows it.

LOl! Do you know how OP looks or you are also one of the fake feminist?

Nope. I have common sense. Why else would he put up with this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call her out on her bs she can't have her cake and eat it too.

Neither can OP. His ugly a$$ cannot do better than her, and she knows it.

LOl! Do you know how OP looks or you are also one of the fake feminist?

Nope. I have common sense. Why else would he put up with this?

He hasn't put up for that long and 6 months or so is normal for you to know someone and see their true colors.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am dating my recent gf of 6 months and she is 42. Overall, talks a big game that she is a feminist and women's rights etc but never go 50-50 on anything. I am very liberal and progressive and agree with most of the things she says about women etc but don't understand why her walk is different than her talk. I like her and have no problem spending $s as I make a lot more than her but she sometime acts like an entitled person and wants man to take care of her like in traditional setting. Not only her, but she is also teaching her young daughter to not go 50-50 on anything with her bf and counts a small thing such as driving to see him for 50 miles as enough contribution that he should take care of all the expenses for the weekend such as hotel, food, going out for drinks, etc. Is she really a feminist if her beliefs and values are in such a way that she can't even afford her own self?

You're dating someone with a child. Where is the father?

Op here. Her kids are older and in college or recently out of it. Kids father is around and have a good relationship with the daughters but my gf likes to get extra involved and run quickly to help her grown kids and expects me to support unnecessary demands which I refuse. She constantly tracks their location and gets very obsessive with what they are doing. On top of her expecting financial support, she gets very pushy with her demands and looks like it is time for me to break-up with her. This is not what I expected in my relationship with her and I am going to end it before I get more resentful or it becomes toxic.