Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are right to be concerned. My libido would also decrease if I were married to a man who said that was his biggest concern about marriage. Without seeming to understand that a decrease in libido is sometimes tied to his own efforts, or lack thereof.

I have been with my husband for 20 years at this point (and spouse and I have a very active sex life) and, same. This reeks to me of a guy who whines about not being able to have sex for six weeks after you have a baby (or have to avoid sex due to placental issues) or who will leave you if you get cancer and can't have sex.

How can you see THAT guy coming before you marry him???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, almost everyone's hormones fall off a cliff at some point.

If yours don't, you need a sex doll, not an actual woman. Or, you need to date / marry a desperate poor young woman.

If your hormones fall off, you still have an obligation to meet your husband half way and fulfill your marital duties. It is your responsibility to figure it out instead of leaving your husband hanging. For one partner to unilaterally declare the marriage celibate is cruel.

Meeting your husband half way does not make you a sex doll; it makes you a loving and caring partner. Compromise is part of marriage, it is common sense.

Maybe it's just a phrasing thing, but the idea of my wife "fulfilling her marital duties" makes my skin crawl. I want to keep having sex, but I want her to be an enthusiastic participant. If she's not, it's - at *best* - an unnecessarily complicated form of masturbation. I know I've heard wives around here say that "wanting her to want it" is expecting too much; but that's exactly what I want.

That was my point. If wife doesn’t feel like having sex, it is her responsibility to figure out the cause of lack of desire and fix it. So she can enthusiastically have sex. If you don’t see it as your responsibility then you will never put in the effort to fix your issues. And that is cruel to your husband

[Anonymous]

Tell us how to fix it. I’ve consulted with several doctors and tried a variety of methods. There is no viagra for women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, almost everyone's hormones fall off a cliff at some point.

If yours don't, you need a sex doll, not an actual woman. Or, you need to date / marry a desperate poor young woman.

If your hormones fall off, you still have an obligation to meet your husband half way and fulfill your marital duties. It is your responsibility to figure it out instead of leaving your husband hanging. For one partner to unilaterally declare the marriage celibate is cruel.

Meeting your husband half way does not make you a sex doll; it makes you a loving and caring partner. Compromise is part of marriage, it is common sense.

Sounds like we have a strong supporter of marital rape! Interesting flex.

Willfully meeting your husband half way is called compromise, which is part of any marriage. And this goes for husbands too. Nobody is forcing anyone to do anything

Except it’s so hard to fake the enthusiasm and desire. And the male partner can tell. Even if you “go through the motions” it’s just not the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, almost everyone's hormones fall off a cliff at some point.

If yours don't, you need a sex doll, not an actual woman. Or, you need to date / marry a desperate poor young woman.

If your hormones fall off, you still have an obligation to meet your husband half way and fulfill your marital duties. It is your responsibility to figure it out instead of leaving your husband hanging. For one partner to unilaterally declare the marriage celibate is cruel.

Meeting your husband half way does not make you a sex doll; it makes you a loving and caring partner. Compromise is part of marriage, it is common sense.

Maybe it's just a phrasing thing, but the idea of my wife "fulfilling her marital duties" makes my skin crawl. I want to keep having sex, but I want her to be an enthusiastic participant. If she's not, it's - at *best* - an unnecessarily complicated form of masturbation. I know I've heard wives around here say that "wanting her to want it" is expecting too much; but that's exactly what I want.

That was my point. If wife doesn’t feel like having sex, it is her responsibility to figure out the cause of lack of desire and fix it. So she can enthusiastically have sex. If you don’t see it as your responsibility then you will never put in the effort to fix your issues. And that is cruel to your husband

And if the cause of lack of desire is that the husband is a lazy piece of crap who does nothing around the house, and leaves all childcare, cooking and cleaning to her, is he going to step up? Or is he just going to keep demanding sex and potentially tell her to get on drugs so he can f*** her? It's like you've never spoken to a real wife before.

[Anonymous]

I could not figure out how to “want it” Andy more. I couldn’t make the desire happen. No matter what I did. I tried pornography and drinking wine etc etc. I finally realized I should just let my spouse go and find someone newer and younger. What can I say.

[Anonymous]

** anymore

And when I said to find someone younger and new I meant for him. Not me. I think women just age out of sexual desire and men do not. It’s how we are designed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:** anymore

And when I said to find someone younger and new I meant for him. Not me. I think women just age out of sexual desire and men do not. It’s how we are designed.

Sounds like this was written by a man. It's giving "hello fellow women" vibes.

[Anonymous]

If you haven't realized that the sex is most intense at the beginning, I am not sure what to tell you.

[Anonymous]

In this forum, women are sex machines, and dudes have testo issues. It's never them.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When dating someone in their 30s or early 40s, and the sex in the relationship is great. Is there a way of knowing if the woman will maintain her drive as she ages? This is my biggest concern as a man.

Well, you already failed my 'biggest concern' which is to be a decent person. You mean to tell me that you plan on not aging or changing at all? How do you expect another person not to change? I hope she runs away because you are not a decent, kind person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, almost everyone's hormones fall off a cliff at some point.

If yours don't, you need a sex doll, not an actual woman. Or, you need to date / marry a desperate poor young woman.

If your hormones fall off, you still have an obligation to meet your husband half way and fulfill your marital duties. It is your responsibility to figure it out instead of leaving your husband hanging. For one partner to unilaterally declare the marriage celibate is cruel.

Meeting your husband half way does not make you a sex doll; it makes you a loving and caring partner. Compromise is part of marriage, it is common sense.

HA! No it is not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell us how to fix it. I’ve consulted with several doctors and tried a variety of methods. There is no viagra for women.

Hire a pool boy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When dating someone in their 30s or early 40s, and the sex in the relationship is great. Is there a way of knowing if the woman will maintain her drive as she ages? This is my biggest concern as a man.

You have to hold back something she still wants, not something she got title to all of on the wedding day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, almost everyone's hormones fall off a cliff at some point.

If yours don't, you need a sex doll, not an actual woman. Or, you need to date / marry a desperate poor young woman.

If your hormones fall off, you still have an obligation to meet your husband half way and fulfill your marital duties. It is your responsibility to figure it out instead of leaving your husband hanging. For one partner to unilaterally declare the marriage celibate is cruel.

Meeting your husband half way does not make you a sex doll; it makes you a loving and caring partner. Compromise is part of marriage, it is common sense.

Maybe it's just a phrasing thing, but the idea of my wife "fulfilling her marital duties" makes my skin crawl. I want to keep having sex, but I want her to be an enthusiastic participant. If she's not, it's - at *best* - an unnecessarily complicated form of masturbation. I know I've heard wives around here say that "wanting her to want it" is expecting too much; but that's exactly what I want.

That was my point. If wife doesn’t feel like having sex, it is her responsibility to figure out the cause of lack of desire and fix it. So she can enthusiastically have sex. If you don’t see it as your responsibility then you will never put in the effort to fix your issues. And that is cruel to your husband

And if the cause of lack of desire is that the husband is a lazy piece of crap who does nothing around the house, and leaves all childcare, cooking and cleaning to her, is he going to step up? Or is he just going to keep demanding sex and potentially tell her to get on drugs so he can f*** her? It's like you've never spoken to a real wife before.

In that case he is wrong and he needs to fix himself