| When dating someone in their 30s or early 40s, and the sex in the relationship is great. Is there a way of knowing if the woman will maintain her drive as she ages? This is my biggest concern as a man. |
| Shouldn't you care about the woman as a person? Instead of just a hole? |
| Yes. The way to determine this is to first determine whether the man will continue to make her feel desirable and continue his interest in her as a human. Determine whether he will stay fit, take on half the mental load in their relationship, and see her as a human being and enjoy growing together with her. |
| Your biggest concern. |
| THAT'S your biggest concern? Please tell us your name so we can put you on a list of men to never date or marry. Way to care about someone as a human being. You would be better off buying a blow up doll that fakes orgasms. |
Exactly right. |
Also, initiate and lead in the bedroom and out at least half the time. |
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I'm a man, so I've never maintained or lost my libido as a woman. I think it is a good question but, having divorced a woman who lost all sexual interest in me and having dated women who were highly sexual but told me they had lost all sexual interest in their ex husbands, I can tell you that a woman's sexual desire is often very context specific.
The phase of life matters a lot. So does the relationship. It can come and go. Several super horny women told me they went many years without sex or masturbation. It's frustrating to them too. |
Correct. Every woman however will go through menopause and will not be like in their 20s no matter what you do. |
Don’t get married and you’ll be fine. Dating is for fun and sex, marriage is for raising kids. As soon as a woman is locked in she feels like a captive and will start to resent you no matter what you do. Kids multiply that. There’s no amount of house work, money earning, organizing, dating, gifts, etc that will make it easier to have sex with her than the woman standing in the line next to you at Starbucks. The 95% of things you do right don’t matter. Only the 5% she can find issue with matters - and she hates you for it. So, define your goals with relationships. If being attracted to a partner, having a fun and sexy relationship is what you want - Dating is the way to go. If you want to have and raise children and are mostly done with sex - marriage is the right path. |
can she masturbate herself to orgasm? and talk about it? that is the number one sign that a women will maintain her drive, that she can give herself an orgasm with no shame. |
| Are you concerned she will retain her libido but your potency will wane and you will be unable to satisfy her desires and have to resort to Viagra? It could come soon if you develop a condition requiring some medications. |
| Please stop feeding the trolls. The number of these types of trash posts is increasing as the rwnjs try to disrupt this site. |
why aren’t you worried about your libido? |
| Nope. I was a very high libido woman until I hit menopause and then my libido fell off a cliff. If you would have asked me in my late 40's when I wanted sex every night whether I thought things would change, I would have said no. I was so wrong and have been seeing doctors and trying everything to get it back. |