Sorority Rush: THIS ISN’T DUBAI; IT’S TUSCALOOSA Whose daddy is paying for all this?

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10/01/2025 07:42

Subject: Sorority Rush: THIS ISN’T DUBAI; IT’S TUSCALOOSA Whose daddy is paying for all this?

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Anonymous wrote:I also was in a sorority at a top 10 private school. I loved it. All of it. I am now a biglaw partner.

Don’t make women have to choose. Don’t make assumptions. Don’t pigeon hole them.

Would you tell us more about what was great about the experience? I think a lot of us on this board don't have experience with sorority life and are basing our fears off of assumptions.

I moved very far away and went to a university where I knew no one. Back then no social media. I maybe talked to my parents 1-2x a month. I visited home for Xmas break only. And then only after freshman summer.

After rushing, I found a group of socially minded, active student leaders - women active in many campus organizations with leadership roles. Seniors who had jobs in banking, consulting, and were headed to law school and grad school. Very accomplished people who helped underclassmen join clubs, find internship opportunities, and advised on professors and classes. Things my 1st gen parents couldn't help with.

We had "date parties" with fraternities and fundraisers for St. Jude's - when I look at my photos, we weren't scantily clad - if anything, we were covered in LL Bean flannels and barn coats. From head to toe. Yes, it was a different time, but those close friendships endure today (I still text/talk with my closest friends from my "sorority" a few times a week!! and we don't live in the same city). It's a bond that you form at age 18-20, which can be so formative and enduring. You are learning who you are. And who you want to be.

Many of those women are very successful and accomplished businesspeople (in private equity, consulting, banking, law, PR, communications, academia, and more). Some have retired. But the friendships and our memories in that house are more than drinking (which was a minuscule part of it) - it's dancing in your PJs in a house of 60 girls, eating together, face masks, watching soap operas, and Friends in the TV room. While every "sister" wasn't a best friend, the house was welcoming and felt like my home away from home. Where I could just be me. No makeup.
If you come from a big family, I'd describe it as being with a lot of female cousins all the time.

I ended up with a leadership opportunity in Greek life at university. All in all, it was one of the best experiences of my life. And showed me how to maintain female friends for decades. It had very little to do with the "boys" or fraternities, except for freshman year parties, and then date parties every month or so in sophomore/junior year. By senior year, we hung with the seniors and had leadership roles. Didn't attend most of the parties with the frats.

I mean, good for you and all -- but you were at a "top 10 private" and the women who you attended college with were presumably, shall we say, smarter and more driven than most. I wouldn't generalize about sorority life on the basis of someone's experience at a top 10 private school.