How did you meet your AP?

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Not the PP, but as a betrayed spouse I don’t believe any of us get what we deserve. Karma is the dream of good deeds being rewarded and retribution for evil deeds perpetrated against others. Most of us never see anything that remotely resembles Karma.

Do you truly understand the concept of Karma? You are throwing around a term with profound religious significance as if it were meaningless.

Karma is the manifestation of countless lifetimes in a soul's present moment. The idea that it is a "scorecard" that you could understand and measure is far from its true meaning. You want to see those who have harmed you punished, which in and of itself is detrimental to your Karma. You cannot see the totality of someone's life, so you cannot (and should not) try to punish them based on your limited view of what you have seen them do.

And for those readers who think that I am making too big a fuss over the use of a common term, try to have an understanding of how the term fits into the faith of others before you use it. And if not, then STFU about concepts you do not comprehend.

I just tried to explain the PP point, but thanks for the lesson in linguistics. We can totally punish people for their bad behavior and should, but instead of karma we can call it just desserts. Anyone cheating that is not in an open relationship or in legal separation is a low life pos, AP included.

Some would argue that anyone passing this level of judgment on another's life is also something akin to 'a low life pos', so, you know, maybe mind first the plank in your own eye, fellow sinner whose shit also stinks.

I am not judge or jury, but have strong opinions on this subject from personal experience. I get more than my fair share of payback for my sins, but would never cheat when I could leave or ask for an open marriage. I also get to pay the price for my cheating spouse, so I have planks everywhere. I am flawed like everyone else, but the amount of shame you transfer to a betrayed spouse with purposeful decisions and hate through the false justifications, because you can’t communicate is lower than I would allow myself. Couldn’t even revenge cheat at my lowest point, so I’m fairly confident in my character/integrity.

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Anonymous wrote:I had about 15 APs over a 4 year period although some were just one-time sex. Especially those who lived in other states including a hook-up and my HS reunion. I met about half on AshleyMadison and the rest on conventional dating sites or a forum for cheaters that was very active back then but is gone now. Half of them were married and the rest were either single or had some kind of boyfriend. None of them lasted more than a year until the last one and I was with her 9 years.

Wow, 9 years what happened?

Lost her to cancer at an early age.

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Wow, PP. She wasn’t even married. And even if she were, it’s not deserving of death by cancer, let alone at a young age.

You were married, and adultery is a deadly sin.

According to your imaginary ruler. Those rules were created by men so they would have an excuse to kill women who dared to sleep with another man. The fact is that adultery is so common as to be part of normal human behavior. It is not without harm, but your crazy thinking is inhumane and unjust.

Common doesn’t make it right, but your celebration of your indiscretions and minimizing the harm of your actions says a lot about you.