Moms with husbands who travel for work- what age are two kids manageable by yourself?

[Anonymous]

My husband left for a month long work trip when my kids were 5mo and 2yrs. I was working full time and in the office three days a week. No family or close friends locally.

You just do it. Honestly, the weeknights are easier than the weekends and the toddler years are easier than the tween years here. Back then, by 7:30, the rest of the night was mine. They're 10 and 12 now and the night isn't my own until 9pm - and I'm running them around in the evenings as well.

[Anonymous]

Why are so many women on DCUM unable to care for their kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi DCurbanmoms! My husband is considering a job in another city which would have him away for approx 3/4 nights every fortnight (like Mon-Thursday or Friday every second week).
I currently have two kids aged 3 months and 2.9 years. I'm wondering at what ages these two kids would be manageable on my own with that type of travel schedule for my husband? not now but sometime in the future.
The older one would be in daycare/kindy/school 4 or 5 days a week. The younger one would be in daycare/kindy 2/3 days a week while I was working 2 days a week. There would be no family help but I could probably afford a babysitter sometimes.
Thanks for your thoughts

You can't manage two children by yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are so many women on DCUM unable to care for their kids?

Lazy. Hopeless. Useless. Entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi DCurbanmoms! My husband is considering a job in another city which would have him away for approx 3/4 nights every fortnight (like Mon-Thursday or Friday every second week).
I currently have two kids aged 3 months and 2.9 years. I'm wondering at what ages these two kids would be manageable on my own with that type of travel schedule for my husband? not now but sometime in the future.
The older one would be in daycare/kindy/school 4 or 5 days a week. The younger one would be in daycare/kindy 2/3 days a week while I was working 2 days a week. There would be no family help but I could probably afford a babysitter sometimes.
Thanks for your thoughts

You can't manage two children by yourself?

Of course she can. She wonders if she wants to. 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband left for a month long work trip when my kids were 5mo and 2yrs. I was working full time and in the office three days a week. No family or close friends locally.

You just do it. Honestly, the weeknights are easier than the weekends and the toddler years are easier than the tween years here. Back then, by 7:30, the rest of the night was mine. They're 10 and 12 now and the night isn't my own until 9pm - and I'm running them around in the evenings as well.

This was my experience as well. I found it much easier when the kids were younger when my DH traveled. As they got older they had more activities and commitments which created more schedule challenges. When they were little I could dictate the evening routine and had some quiet time after they went to bed.

[Anonymous]

I mean, you just do it and get on with it. My husband has always travelled a ton and we’ve always managed. What’s the alternative?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, you just do it and get on with it. My husband has always travelled a ton and we’ve always managed. What’s the alternative?

I am pretty sure in this hypothetical the alternative is the husband not traveling for work.

I get that not everyone has a choice but OP has a choice.

[Anonymous]

My husband traveled from day 1. You just figure it out and manage.