Catholic instead of Public

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you with kids in big co-ed Catholic schools—how do you see them as different from public schools? Assuming both have large student bodies and offer the same kinds of activities, and your child is doing great academically either way… why choose the private (and pricey) route if you're not specifically seeking a religious focus? What do you feel you get from it?


My local public school sucks, and my son needs a safe and rigorous environment to succeed. He wants to see girls, so that put DeMatha and Gonzaga out of the running. I don’t have the cash for Bullis or Maret, so SJC was a nice sweet spot, and I got ample aid.


St John's is very similar to public. More strict. But similar in all other ways.

Wow I’m looking at it for my daughter are fights regular?


Pp idea of public is from the 50s. They don’t understand the locked bathrooms, fights, kids constantly on phones, and ginormous class size.


It really depends on the public school. My child is at a DC selective public school and experiences none of that.
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Anonymous wrote:Catholic school parent here. I just love how some posters say it’s a matter of priorities and isn’t it great when parents value education. As if most parents of kids in public don’t value it. So inaccurate and condescending.


This. I would never send my child to a Catholic school because we're not Catholic. We didn't even consider it--it wasn't even an option for us.


I considered it for my child. I grew up Catholic and love the Catholic Social Teachings. When my kid came out as gay, I decided it was a bad idea. Keep that aspect in mind.
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Anonymous wrote:Catholic schools in the DMV are a waste of money

Awesome! If you believe that, then your kids won't take up spaces at Catholic schools that so many others want. Please stay in the public school and enjoy!

Yes, they enjoyed and had a great education for free in MCPS. We were able to save lot of money to send one kid to Carnegie Mellon 2 years ago and the other one is going to Michigan next fall.
Our only mistake was to try private school for a few years.
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Anonymous wrote:Catholic schools in the DMV are a waste of money

Awesome! If you believe that, then your kids won't take up spaces at Catholic schools that so many others want. Please stay in the public school and enjoy!

Yes, they enjoyed and had a great education for free in MCPS. We were able to save lot of money to send one kid to Carnegie Mellon 2 years ago and the other one is going to Michigan next fall.
Our only mistake was to try private school for a few years.


Great that there are so many good choices in this area, don’t you agree?
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Anonymous wrote:Catholic schools in the DMV are a waste of money

Awesome! If you believe that, then your kids won't take up spaces at Catholic schools that so many others want. Please stay in the public school and enjoy!

Yes, they enjoyed and had a great education for free in MCPS. We were able to save lot of money to send one kid to Carnegie Mellon 2 years ago and the other one is going to Michigan next fall.
Our only mistake was to try private school for a few years.


Great that there are so many good choices in this area, don’t you agree?

Agree
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Anonymous wrote:Catholic school parent here. I just love how some posters say it’s a matter of priorities and isn’t it great when parents value education. As if most parents of kids in public don’t value it. So inaccurate and condescending.


This. I would never send my child to a Catholic school because we're not Catholic. We didn't even consider it--it wasn't even an option for us.


I felt like this until we spent a couple years in our very well regarded Great Schools 10/10 elementary school. We are currently applying out.
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Anonymous wrote:For those of you with kids in big co-ed Catholic schools—how do you see them as different from public schools? Assuming both have large student bodies and offer the same kinds of activities, and your child is doing great academically either way… why choose the private (and pricey) route if you're not specifically seeking a religious focus? What do you feel you get from it?



Most succinct way to sum it up: big, co-ed Catholic schools remind me of what my public high school was in the 1980s/early 1990s. Discipline is enforced; disrespectful, disruptive or violent behavior is not tolerated; the school doesn't insert trendy political/sexual stuff into the environment (although there is a religion class and of course there are the Christian principles that are part of the school messaging, which we are fine with); etc. The vibe is actually "nicer" and more friendly than what I remember from my public school days and what we experienced in FCPS when our kids were there.
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Anonymous wrote:Catholic school parent here. I just love how some posters say it’s a matter of priorities and isn’t it great when parents value education. As if most parents of kids in public don’t value it. So inaccurate and condescending.


This. I would never send my child to a Catholic school because we're not Catholic. We didn't even consider it--it wasn't even an option for us.


I considered it for my child. I grew up Catholic and love the Catholic Social Teachings. When my kid came out as gay, I decided it was a bad idea. Keep that aspect in mind.


It has to happen that gay kids are in or come out in Catholic middle or high schools. I’m curious how the admin/teachers/students respond
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Anonymous wrote:For those of you with kids in big co-ed Catholic schools—how do you see them as different from public schools? Assuming both have large student bodies and offer the same kinds of activities, and your child is doing great academically either way… why choose the private (and pricey) route if you're not specifically seeking a religious focus? What do you feel you get from it?


My local public school sucks, and my son needs a safe and rigorous environment to succeed. He wants to see girls, so that put DeMatha and Gonzaga out of the running. I don’t have the cash for Bullis or Maret, so SJC was a nice sweet spot, and I got ample aid.


St John's is very similar to public. More strict. But similar in all other ways.

Wow I’m looking at it for my daughter are fights regular?


Pp idea of public is from the 50s. They don’t understand the locked bathrooms, fights, kids constantly on phones, and ginormous class size.


It really depends on the public school. My child is at a DC selective public school and experiences none of that.


I think unfortunately it’s a lot more the former than your experience.
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Catholic school parent here. I just love how some posters say it’s a matter of priorities and isn’t it great when parents value education. As if most parents of kids in public don’t value it. So inaccurate and condescending.


This. I would never send my child to a Catholic school because we're not Catholic. We didn't even consider it--it wasn't even an option for us.


I considered it for my child. I grew up Catholic and love the Catholic Social Teachings. When my kid came out as gay, I decided it was a bad idea. Keep that aspect in mind.


It has to happen that gay kids are in or come out in Catholic middle or high schools. I’m curious how the admin/teachers/students respond


Yes it happens. Gay and trans kids accepted in our highly regarded Catholic HS in the DMV. It is not unusual at all. The only difference is the sheer numbers. Public schools tend to breed more of the contagion mainly because the concept of LGBTQ is strongly celebrated at public schools. Not necessarily the case at Catholic schools, where there is more "acceptance" rather than "celebration."
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Catholic school parent here. I just love how some posters say it’s a matter of priorities and isn’t it great when parents value education. As if most parents of kids in public don’t value it. So inaccurate and condescending.


This. I would never send my child to a Catholic school because we're not Catholic. We didn't even consider it--it wasn't even an option for us.


I considered it for my child. I grew up Catholic and love the Catholic Social Teachings. When my kid came out as gay, I decided it was a bad idea. Keep that aspect in mind.


It has to happen that gay kids are in or come out in Catholic middle or high schools. I’m curious how the admin/teachers/students respond


Yes it happens. Gay and trans kids accepted in our highly regarded Catholic HS in the DMV. It is not unusual at all. The only difference is the sheer numbers. Public schools tend to breed more of the contagion mainly because the concept of LGBTQ is strongly celebrated at public schools. Not necessarily the case at Catholic schools, where there is more "acceptance" rather than "celebration."


No acceptance in your house apparently.
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Catholic school parent here. I just love how some posters say it’s a matter of priorities and isn’t it great when parents value education. As if most parents of kids in public don’t value it. So inaccurate and condescending.


This. I would never send my child to a Catholic school because we're not Catholic. We didn't even consider it--it wasn't even an option for us.


I considered it for my child. I grew up Catholic and love the Catholic Social Teachings. When my kid came out as gay, I decided it was a bad idea. Keep that aspect in mind.


It has to happen that gay kids are in or come out in Catholic middle or high schools. I’m curious how the admin/teachers/students respond


Yes it happens. Gay and trans kids accepted in our highly regarded Catholic HS in the DMV. It is not unusual at all. The only difference is the sheer numbers. Public schools tend to breed more of the contagion mainly because the concept of LGBTQ is strongly celebrated at public schools. Not necessarily the case at Catholic schools, where there is more "acceptance" rather than "celebration."


No acceptance in your house apparently.


Honestly? We're grateful we aren't in that position. My daughter is very accepting of her classmates who have chosen that path. I am old school and truly believe a lot of these kids are just troubled and will figure things out as they mature.
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Catholic school parent here. I just love how some posters say it’s a matter of priorities and isn’t it great when parents value education. As if most parents of kids in public don’t value it. So inaccurate and condescending.


This. I would never send my child to a Catholic school because we're not Catholic. We didn't even consider it--it wasn't even an option for us.


I considered it for my child. I grew up Catholic and love the Catholic Social Teachings. When my kid came out as gay, I decided it was a bad idea. Keep that aspect in mind.


It has to happen that gay kids are in or come out in Catholic middle or high schools. I’m curious how the admin/teachers/students respond


Yes it happens. Gay and trans kids accepted in our highly regarded Catholic HS in the DMV. It is not unusual at all. The only difference is the sheer numbers. Public schools tend to breed more of the contagion mainly because the concept of LGBTQ is strongly celebrated at public schools. Not necessarily the case at Catholic schools, where there is more "acceptance" rather than "celebration."


It’s nice to hear that Catholic schools are accepting. Please don’t use the word contagion though, it’s really damaging to kids who are gay or trans. They didnt catch anything, it’s who they are.

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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Catholic school parent here. I just love how some posters say it’s a matter of priorities and isn’t it great when parents value education. As if most parents of kids in public don’t value it. So inaccurate and condescending.


This. I would never send my child to a Catholic school because we're not Catholic. We didn't even consider it--it wasn't even an option for us.


I considered it for my child. I grew up Catholic and love the Catholic Social Teachings. When my kid came out as gay, I decided it was a bad idea. Keep that aspect in mind.


It has to happen that gay kids are in or come out in Catholic middle or high schools. I’m curious how the admin/teachers/students respond


Yes it happens. Gay and trans kids accepted in our highly regarded Catholic HS in the DMV. It is not unusual at all. The only difference is the sheer numbers. Public schools tend to breed more of the contagion mainly because the concept of LGBTQ is strongly celebrated at public schools. Not necessarily the case at Catholic schools, where there is more "acceptance" rather than "celebration."


It’s nice to hear that Catholic schools are accepting. Please don’t use the word contagion though, it’s really damaging to kids who are gay or trans. They didnt catch anything, it’s who they are.



Not necessarily to the bolded. There have been many situations where kids did it because it was the in thing, and gradually lost interest. This is what I mean by contagion. I agree in some cases, it is indeed who they are. We can change the term if you like something like proliferation. It's a trend for many who take on that persona, not necessarily a gender dysphoria.
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those of you with kids in big co-ed Catholic schools—how do you see them as different from public schools? Assuming both have large student bodies and offer the same kinds of activities, and your child is doing great academically either way… why choose the private (and pricey) route if you're not specifically seeking a religious focus? What do you feel you get from it?


My local public school sucks, and my son needs a safe and rigorous environment to succeed. He wants to see girls, so that put DeMatha and Gonzaga out of the running. I don’t have the cash for Bullis or Maret, so SJC was a nice sweet spot, and I got ample aid.


St John's is very similar to public. More strict. But similar in all other ways.

Wow I’m looking at it for my daughter are fights regular?


Pp idea of public is from the 50s. They don’t understand the locked bathrooms, fights, kids constantly on phones, and ginormous class size.


It really depends on the public school. My child is at a DC selective public school and experiences none of that.


Right, selective and magnet public schools are much better than Catholic schools. Basically in both cases you have engaged parents, students vetted by ability, and ability to kick students out/back to general public.
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