Too many doctor's appointments?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eye opening - H used to take DCs to many (not all) doctor's appointments in the past, but since he moved away for work, I have to do all doctor's appointments. They're not little anymore, and it's more serious stuff - sports injuries, dermatologists, therapy etc. or simple things like dental cleaning. I can't send a nanny with them - it's not fair and it's also not recommendable because I need to know about instructions and make decisions in some instances. My boss complained that I have too many doctor's appointments. I think that's rude and bizarre. She's a someone who used to have a SAHD (kids are now in college). What do you think about this?

She wouldn't have said that to a man. I have had many women bosses and noticed that they were nicer to me compared to other female colleagues.

I've actually had male bosses say things to the effect of "can't you get your husband to do that". It actually makes me smile. DH and I are pretty 50/50 when it comes to this.

[Anonymous]

Some people abuse it.

My policy is if you are sick take off.

If your kid is sick AND you are the primary care taker take off.

They I get people with Routine Dentist Appointments or Routine Physicals for kids or routine vaccines ask to take off. I had to tell one point blank. You only come to the office two days a week 8 hours a day. You are remote three days and home on weekends.
There are 168 hours in a week and CVS is 24/7 and you are scheduling a routine kid vaccine in the 16 hours a week you are here?

She looked at me like I was nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really complained or just made a comment? Maybe you should take a sick day or pto on occasion to knock out multiple appointments in one day.

I live in an area where you take doctor's appointments when you can get them. Most people have long wait lists if they accept insurance (or even if they don't). So that's not realistic. Also, it's not like I have 2 appointments per week or so. It's once every 2 weeks I guess, I didn't count them. Maybe less.

Why do you have appointments every two weeks?

I have two kids. They each have a well visit at the pediatrician once a year, dentist appointments twice a year that they go to without me, one has a psychiatrist every three months. Then the random urgent care appointment for strep, maybe twice a year.

What you just named is 14 potential kids' appointments per year. And that's assuming there are no unique concerns that arise, or more than 2 kids in the family. For instance, I recently had 2 allergist visits for a child who has developed seasonal allergies -- an intake and a testing appointment. One of my children needed a sleep study one year because he has signs of sleep apnea -- that was 3 appointments. For a couple of years, one of my children saw a therapist monthly when he was having some social and learning issues at school. Not to even mention getting braces -- those appointments are very frequent, like every month or so for up to a couple of years.
Let's assume OP is your typical middle-aged woman like me, so she'd also have for herself dentist x 2, well visit x 1-2 (because sometimes the primary care doesn't have a lab so there's a separate vist for lab work), obgyn x 1, mammogram x 1-2 (at least... I have call backs every year due to dense breasts and some years need a biopsy), dermatologist x 1-2 (I have to go twice due to a pre-cancerous removal some years ago), let's say 1-2 other visits for sickness or other concerns that arise/ specialists that are needed. So around 10 more visits for herself. That's 24 visits per year, or about every 2 weeks. More if she has more than 2 kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really complained or just made a comment? Maybe you should take a sick day or pto on occasion to knock out multiple appointments in one day.

I live in an area where you take doctor's appointments when you can get them. Most people have long wait lists if they accept insurance (or even if they don't). So that's not realistic. Also, it's not like I have 2 appointments per week or so. It's once every 2 weeks I guess, I didn't count them. Maybe less.

Why do you have appointments every two weeks?

I have two kids. They each have a well visit at the pediatrician once a year, dentist appointments twice a year that they go to without me, one has a psychiatrist every three months. Then the random urgent care appointment for strep, maybe twice a year.

What you just named is 14 potential kids' appointments per year. And that's assuming there are no unique concerns that arise, or more than 2 kids in the family. For instance, I recently had 2 allergist visits for a child who has developed seasonal allergies -- an intake and a testing appointment. One of my children needed a sleep study one year because he has signs of sleep apnea -- that was 3 appointments. For a couple of years, one of my children saw a therapist monthly when he was having some social and learning issues at school. Not to even mention getting braces -- those appointments are very frequent, like every month or so for up to a couple of years.
Let's assume OP is your typical middle-aged woman like me, so she'd also have for herself dentist x 2, well visit x 1-2 (because sometimes the primary care doesn't have a lab so there's a separate vist for lab work), obgyn x 1, mammogram x 1-2 (at least... I have call backs every year due to dense breasts and some years need a biopsy), dermatologist x 1-2 (I have to go twice due to a pre-cancerous removal some years ago), let's say 1-2 other visits for sickness or other concerns that arise/ specialists that are needed. So around 10 more visits for herself. That's 24 visits per year, or about every 2 weeks. More if she has more than 2 kids.

PP here - I work with a lot of men who have SAH wives, and it drives me crazy how people thing this type of stuff is no big deal for dual income families. It's a lot. And there should be more flexibility, or at a minimum no pushback against an employee taking their earned sick leave to tend to these things.

[Anonymous]

Rude comment. I only have one child and I think it's alot of apppointments but what can I do. Dentist and Derm and Primary and yearly GYN care visit. Not to mention random sick visits and every 6 month ear cleaning at the ENT (my kid is waxy). Add in my appointments and it's a Bonanza. What dr. visits are folks sending their teens to cause my teen has a full drivers license but no dr. will see her without a parent or guardian present. I wish they would...it would make it easier for me. You folks with more than one...hats off to you for making it work..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rude comment. I only have one child and I think it's alot of apppointments but what can I do. Dentist and Derm and Primary and yearly GYN care visit. Not to mention random sick visits and every 6 month ear cleaning at the ENT (my kid is waxy). Add in my appointments and it's a Bonanza. What dr. visits are folks sending their teens to cause my teen has a full drivers license but no dr. will see her without a parent or guardian present. I wish they would...it would make it easier for me. You folks with more than one...hats off to you for making it work..

this is why you have vacation day and personal days Sick days are for being sick not running errands.

Physcials are you serious. My doctor opens at 8am and I schedule a year in advance on a Friday at 8am as I know may be remote or slow in office and will go in late

and only use dentists and orthodonists open on weekends or have a late night. I myself had bad alergies and went every week for 52 weeks once. My guy had a late night and a 1/2 day Sat. My boss did not even know.

I have three kids. The youngest just turned 18. I say I took 1-2 days off for kids appointments between all three. Kid sick is a different thing.

I have people who work for me who do 3-5 a year and I have to speak to them to stop We litterally have a health care app where you can pick doctors by hours.

One staff lived 50 miles away from work would pick lunchtime appointments by his house claming he needed a full day. It is a scam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rude comment. I only have one child and I think it's alot of apppointments but what can I do. Dentist and Derm and Primary and yearly GYN care visit. Not to mention random sick visits and every 6 month ear cleaning at the ENT (my kid is waxy). Add in my appointments and it's a Bonanza. What dr. visits are folks sending their teens to cause my teen has a full drivers license but no dr. will see her without a parent or guardian present. I wish they would...it would make it easier for me. You folks with more than one...hats off to you for making it work..

this is why you have vacation day and personal days Sick days are for being sick not running errands.

Physcials are you serious. My doctor opens at 8am and I schedule a year in advance on a Friday at 8am as I know may be remote or slow in office and will go in late

and only use dentists and orthodonists open on weekends or have a late night. I myself had bad alergies and went every week for 52 weeks once. My guy had a late night and a 1/2 day Sat. My boss did not even know.

I have three kids. The youngest just turned 18. I say I took 1-2 days off for kids appointments between all three. Kid sick is a different thing.

I have people who work for me who do 3-5 a year and I have to speak to them to stop We litterally have a health care app where you can pick doctors by hours.

One staff lived 50 miles away from work would pick lunchtime appointments by his house claming he needed a full day. It is a scam.

Right. It doesn't really cross my mind to use a sick day for a routine visit. Annual leave, yes. More likely an 8am appt (some of our drs open at 7:30) and then an hour late for work, which I make up that day by working late or similar.

[Anonymous]

I always did my best to try to schedule appointments during school breaks. Obviously it's not always possible, but even a few can help alleviate pressure during the busy times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rude comment. I only have one child and I think it's alot of apppointments but what can I do. Dentist and Derm and Primary and yearly GYN care visit. Not to mention random sick visits and every 6 month ear cleaning at the ENT (my kid is waxy). Add in my appointments and it's a Bonanza. What dr. visits are folks sending their teens to cause my teen has a full drivers license but no dr. will see her without a parent or guardian present. I wish they would...it would make it easier for me. You folks with more than one...hats off to you for making it work..

this is why you have vacation day and personal days Sick days are for being sick not running errands.

Physcials are you serious. My doctor opens at 8am and I schedule a year in advance on a Friday at 8am as I know may be remote or slow in office and will go in late

and only use dentists and orthodonists open on weekends or have a late night. I myself had bad alergies and went every week for 52 weeks once. My guy had a late night and a 1/2 day Sat. My boss did not even know.

I have three kids. The youngest just turned 18. I say I took 1-2 days off for kids appointments between all three. Kid sick is a different thing.

I have people who work for me who do 3-5 a year and I have to speak to them to stop We litterally have a health care app where you can pick doctors by hours.

One staff lived 50 miles away from work would pick lunchtime appointments by his house claming he needed a full day. It is a scam.

Right. It doesn't really cross my mind to use a sick day for a routine visit. Annual leave, yes. More likely an 8am appt (some of our drs open at 7:30) and then an hour late for work, which I make up that day by working late or similar.

You are a complete idiot if you are wasting precious annual leave on medical appointments instead of using sick leave (assuming you accrue separate banks for each). Our sick leave slips even have a box for attending medical appointments/examination. One thing I’ve learned in these times is that employers generally give no effs about their employees (and I actually have a boss who is great) so I’ll be damned if I’m going to do sh!t like scheduling medical appointments on weekends or at 7 pm, or basing my selection of medical providers on their after hours options, in order to suit my employer. I’m going to take the sick leave I’ve earned for legitimate medical appointments for myself and my kids. Sorry not sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eye opening - H used to take DCs to many (not all) doctor's appointments in the past, but since he moved away for work, I have to do all doctor's appointments. They're not little anymore, and it's more serious stuff - sports injuries, dermatologists, therapy etc. or simple things like dental cleaning. I can't send a nanny with them - it's not fair and it's also not recommendable because I need to know about instructions and make decisions in some instances. My boss complained that I have too many doctor's appointments. I think that's rude and bizarre. She's a someone who used to have a SAHD (kids are now in college). What do you think about this?

She wouldn't have said that to a man. I have had many women bosses and noticed that they were nicer to me compared to other female colleagues.

A man wouldn't miss work to take their teenager to all thse doctors appointments, so there would be no meed for the boss to say anything.

Heck, most men wouldn't even think to sign their kids up for their teeth cleaninfs, let alone dermatoligist, pt, gyno or any other specialists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really complained or just made a comment? Maybe you should take a sick day or pto on occasion to knock out multiple appointments in one day.

I live in an area where you take doctor's appointments when you can get them. Most people have long wait lists if they accept insurance (or even if they don't). So that's not realistic. Also, it's not like I have 2 appointments per week or so. It's once every 2 weeks I guess, I didn't count them. Maybe less.

Why do you have appointments every two weeks?

I have two kids. They each have a well visit at the pediatrician once a year, dentist appointments twice a year that they go to without me, one has a psychiatrist every three months. Then the random urgent care appointment for strep, maybe twice a year.

What you just named is 14 potential kids' appointments per year. And that's assuming there are no unique concerns that arise, or more than 2 kids in the family. For instance, I recently had 2 allergist visits for a child who has developed seasonal allergies -- an intake and a testing appointment. One of my children needed a sleep study one year because he has signs of sleep apnea -- that was 3 appointments. For a couple of years, one of my children saw a therapist monthly when he was having some social and learning issues at school. Not to even mention getting braces -- those appointments are very frequent, like every month or so for up to a couple of years.
Let's assume OP is your typical middle-aged woman like me, so she'd also have for herself dentist x 2, well visit x 1-2 (because sometimes the primary care doesn't have a lab so there's a separate vist for lab work), obgyn x 1, mammogram x 1-2 (at least... I have call backs every year due to dense breasts and some years need a biopsy), dermatologist x 1-2 (I have to go twice due to a pre-cancerous removal some years ago), let's say 1-2 other visits for sickness or other concerns that arise/ specialists that are needed. So around 10 more visits for herself. That's 24 visits per year, or about every 2 weeks. More if she has more than 2 kids.

Get your kid invisiline, not braces. Invisiline is only a couple appointments.

[Anonymous]

Schedule annual checkups, dermatologist visits and dentist appointments for the same day for the kids. I do my own annual physical, gyn and dental in a single day. I try to schedule my other 6-month dental with any other miscellaneous med appointments. I find it’s easier for me, and less disruptive at work, to take off a full day and get multiple appointments taken care of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be worried that my boss noticed. The job market isn't great right now.

There’s also a chance that your boss thinks you’re lying about all the doctors appointments and are actually interviewing instead. That happened to me at my first job. Legitimately terrible company in retrospect, but it did happen and I had to bring in a doctor’s note.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be worried that my boss noticed. The job market isn't great right now.

OP, take note of this. Your attitude and not even tracking the time are not good. Do you want to keep this job?

[Anonymous]

I try for the first or last appointment of the day and take leave a half day at a time. I can get two appointments in for those half days. The ortho appointments took the most time. Pretty much every month for a good two years