Too many doctor's appointments?

[Anonymous]

Eye opening - H used to take DCs to many (not all) doctor's appointments in the past, but since he moved away for work, I have to do all doctor's appointments. They're not little anymore, and it's more serious stuff - sports injuries, dermatologists, therapy etc. or simple things like dental cleaning. I can't send a nanny with them - it's not fair and it's also not recommendable because I need to know about instructions and make decisions in some instances. My boss complained that I have too many doctor's appointments. I think that's rude and bizarre. She's a someone who used to have a SAHD (kids are now in college). What do you think about this?

[Anonymous]

Its very rude and inappropriate.
Granted a supervisor told me I look to healthy to have cancer and need accommodations...I mean so you could work with worse people...

[Anonymous]

Really complained or just made a comment? Maybe you should take a sick day or pto on occasion to knock out multiple appointments in one day.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's bizarre to point out that you're taking too much time off for appts, but I don't have the type of job where taking an hour or two off or taking the morning/afternoon off has no impact on my work/my coworkers. So someone who takes a lot of time off is definitely disruptive to the work flow (but thankfully we don't work 5 days a week so have the flexibility to get stuff done other days).

[Anonymous]

You lost me at nanny. You probably also lost me at "husband used to take daughter to all dr's appointments."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's bizarre to point out that you're taking too much time off for appts, but I don't have the type of job where taking an hour or two off or taking the morning/afternoon off has no impact on my work/my coworkers. So someone who takes a lot of time off is definitely disruptive to the work flow (but thankfully we don't work 5 days a week so have the flexibility to get stuff done other days).

It doesn't have an impact in my position wither. She was complaining because I had not replied to a non-urgent email. I was in a dr appointment that required me to communicate with the dr and staff and which took 1.5 hours (plus going back and forth). The email wasn't urgent or important. She just wanted to prove a point, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You lost me at nanny. You probably also lost me at "husband used to take daughter to all dr's appointments."

Why? It's to illustrate that I need to take them. There is no backup for me. DH isn't here, and I don't have a nanny. They're teenagers. I won;t hire an occasional sitter for a doctor's appointment, that's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Try to schedule as many appointments as possible on one day and you take off work for the day and that will be MUCH less disruptive to your job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really complained or just made a comment? Maybe you should take a sick day or pto on occasion to knock out multiple appointments in one day.

I live in an area where you take doctor's appointments when you can get them. Most people have long wait lists if they accept insurance (or even if they don't). So that's not realistic. Also, it's not like I have 2 appointments per week or so. It's once every 2 weeks I guess, I didn't count them. Maybe less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try to schedule as many appointments as possible on one day and you take off work for the day and that will be MUCH less disruptive to your job.

I don't know how this works where you live but my GP requires me to book my annual physical a year in advance. If I can't go, I have to wait another year or for a cancellation. Specialists have a 6-8 week wait, even sometimes for established patients. Even vision tests require 6 weeks wait at the optometrist. I can't just pick and choose. A kid has a sports injury - I should wait until something accumulates? This will never work out.

[Anonymous]

How many doctors appointments do your teens have? I have a kid with disabilities and we don't have that many. My teens also go to routine dental and orthodontist appointments by themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try to schedule as many appointments as possible on one day and you take off work for the day and that will be MUCH less disruptive to your job.

How is it less disruptive to disappear an entire day than just 2 hours 3 times or so? That would leave at least 6 hours left to do a lot of the work, or all of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really complained or just made a comment? Maybe you should take a sick day or pto on occasion to knock out multiple appointments in one day.

I live in an area where you take doctor's appointments when you can get them. Most people have long wait lists if they accept insurance (or even if they don't). So that's not realistic. Also, it's not like I have 2 appointments per week or so. It's once every 2 weeks I guess, I didn't count them. Maybe less.

Why do you have appointments every two weeks?

I have two kids. They each have a well visit at the pediatrician once a year, dentist appointments twice a year that they go to without me, one has a psychiatrist every three months. Then the random urgent care appointment for strep, maybe twice a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really complained or just made a comment? Maybe you should take a sick day or pto on occasion to knock out multiple appointments in one day.

I live in an area where you take doctor's appointments when you can get them. Most people have long wait lists if they accept insurance (or even if they don't). So that's not realistic. Also, it's not like I have 2 appointments per week or so. It's once every 2 weeks I guess, I didn't count them. Maybe less.

Why do you have appointments every two weeks?

I have two kids. They each have a well visit at the pediatrician once a year, dentist appointments twice a year that they go to without me, one has a psychiatrist every three months. Then the random urgent care appointment for strep, maybe twice a year.

Sports injury, dermatologist, dentist, IDK. Maybe it's less than every two weeks, I am not keeping track. Sometimes There's no appointment for weeks, sometimes it's more. I don't know where she gets the idea that I have too many doctor's appointments. I think she was embarrassed that she complained about not having responded to an irrelevant email and that was the only way she could turn this back on me and assign blame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many doctors appointments do your teens have? I have a kid with disabilities and we don't have that many. My teens also go to routine dental and orthodontist appointments by themselves.

How sad...