Do you ever fantasize about living completely alone?

[Anonymous]

When do I not fantasize about that?

[Anonymous]

Things were great until he hit middle age. Even being handsome can’t hide the baldness and growing gut once you approach 50. Women his age weren’t interested because they saw him as the Peter Pan he was, and younger women just saw him as old and gross despite his money and adventurous lifestyle.

Dear reader, I went bald around 25 and was never thin. I look like who I am: a married father of four adult children who works as a tax attorney. I love my wife and kids and would never give them up.

Sometimes, I wish I had known a life where women called me (for something other than tax advice), and I could drop into the monthly office partner meeting with a tan telling everyone about my sailing tour around St. Martin's.

Your reply to my post was wonderful. Thank you for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t get my wrong…I love my family more than anything. But I just often feel so frustrated that I am responsible for all these people all the time.

I am the default parent. I do everything. I dont know exactly how it got this way but overtime it has and it just feels overwhelming.

All the meals-I fantasize about having simple meals that I don’t have to prepare or think about just for myself. I think about not having to clean up after anyone but myself.

I’m sure i’d be lonely at some point but honestly I fantasize about this a lot. I’m just so tired.

It will be easier if you just quit your job and be a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I imagine seeing my loving partner and beautiful children during normal business hours, after 6 PM I head to my own glorious peaceful, orderly and quiet place. Once or twice a week I invite someone over for raw passionate sex and then they and all traces of them just disappear, I don’t even have to walk them to the front door. If my other dial-a-dates aren’t doing it for me I let my spouse stay over one or two nights a week.

This is HILARIOUS. Thank you! And see you there, in our dreams!

[Anonymous]

I imagine seeing my loving partner and beautiful children during normal business hours, after 6 PM I head to my own glorious peaceful, orderly and quiet place. Once or twice a week I invite someone over for raw passionate sex and then they and all traces of them just disappear, I don’t even have to walk them to the front door. If my other dial-a-dates aren’t doing it for me I let my spouse stay over one or two nights a week.

Can your spouse date other women when he is not on deck for you? If so, this sounds perfect.

[Anonymous]

Not exactly. I like living with my husband and kids, it feels more cozy, they make me smile and laugh, we enjoy each other. But I'm an introvert, and between work and life, it is basically impossible for me to get the amount of alone time my brain craves.

Instead of dreaming of living alone, I dream of quitting work and having a ton of free time to myself every day, then hanging out in the afternoon/evening. I guess that will happen when I retire, but it sure feels like a waste of... something... to not get that now when I'm younger.