Frustrated with DH over names
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Anonymous
Taking these two from your list, one suggestion is Lillibeth, nn Beth. Then you get the Beth that he likes and the Lilli- that you like, but not the nickname Lily (which you don't like). |
Anonymous
NP. My husband and I chose our children’s names together. We do not interfere with the pet names/names of affection we each call our children. To my mind, OP is also being controlling and ridiculous. They need 1 name and whichever they pick, a few weeks after birth, they will think it’s the perfect name for their perfect child. |
Anonymous
| But if they each hate the version of the name the other one wants to use, Beth or Elizabeth, you're going to be hearing that name for the rest of your life from the other parent and disliking it. I'd just go with a different name that you both can tolerate tbh. |
Anonymous
A nickname is not the same as a pet name. People can use whatever pet name they want. If they name their kid Anna and the DH wants to call her Anna-Banana then have at it. But OP is talking about nicknames that are basically just the name you call a kid. It's their name. My kid has a nickname that is the main name she is known by. And if my DH just assigned that name to her, bypassing the actual name we gave her, without amy consideration for whether I like it, that's selfish. It's not a "pet name" or a "name of affection." It's her name. |
Anonymous
Believe or not some people don't care about this at all. I know shocking, right? But, yes if it bothers op so much than she should move on and find a name they both agree on ( nn's included) |
Anonymous
uh, no. You have other issues that I can't get into. But, let's use the name Charlotte. If my dh wanted to call her Charlie and I wanted to call her Charlotte I honestly do not see any problem. I don't think the kid will be confused at all because it is all their name. I think if you agree on a name which is tough enough for Op than you should not be so controlling. Who knows? Charlotte could like her full name and ask her Dad not to call her Charlie Or it could be a sweet thing between them. |
Anonymous
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It sounds like you both like Madeline but you don’t like a addy as a nickname. How about Caroline? It sounds similar but avoids the nickname concern.
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Anonymous
You will be called a Meghan Markle stan. Stay away from Lilibeth! Probably will sue too |
Anonymous
| I’m concerned that you mentioned IVF/donor sperm at all. Why are you dropping this tidbit? Are you somehow insinuating that the baby is less his so that you should get more naming rights? |
Anonymous
As the person who made this suggestion, I had and have no idea what you are talking about. Did Meghan Markle name their child this? I don't follow the royal family and I only know who she is because I saw her in Suits, and later heard she married one of the royals. But, that's ridiculous. First, you realize that in America, the vast majority of people do not follow the British royal family. And even those that do, may not have any idea that there is another famous child of that name. Second, what is there to sue over? You cannot trademark a name unless you're a large corporation. If you really think that's a problem, you need to pay less attention to the royal family. |
Anonymous
It's fine if it's a sweet thing between DH and DD. But if DH is going to tell his family and neighbors "her name is Charlie," a name OP does not even like, that's different. OP is talking about nicknames that the family will use as her actual name and others outside the family may use as well. Not like "oh yeah DH calls her Charlie, it's their thing." |
Anonymous
I'm concerned about you're ability to read. OP said right before that sentence she is trying extra hard to not pull rank like others she knows because she is being sensitive to their situation. JFC. I know many girlfriends that used the whole im doing all the hard work I get to name the kid excuse. OP is at least trying |
Anonymous
The opposite-- OP is sensitive to the idea that her DH wants to feel connected to the name because he may feel weird about having used donor sperm, which is why she is bending over backwards to try and accommodate his highly rigid approach to names and us trying to convince herself to like some of the names he has suggested (since he's vetoing all the names she suggests). |
Anonymous
The opposite actually. If we didn't have the journey we have had I would probably pull the labor card at some point or make some 60/40 rule or something crazy at this point but I want DH to feel connected and he does for other reasons but I want him to be as involved as possible in all the decisions because this is a delicate situation. |
Anonymous
I also had no idea this was their childs name haha |