Looking to Compromise: Wearing PJs to School

[Anonymous]

I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

If you look like you just rolled out of bed, its really hard to take you seriously. Same thing for the messy hair in a pony tail that hasn't been pulled through and looks like it hasn't been brushed or washed in a few days. Some people have no self respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why in the world are you worrying about what she wants to wear to school NEXT YEAR?

Focus on what’s happening now and enjoy your kid!!! If they want to talk excitedly about next year, let them. Thinking about moving up to a new school IS exciting!! Encourage them to imagine and chat about it. You can deal with the details when they actually come up.

BTW, Flannel pajamas are a late fall/winter thing. So seriously, you have at least six months until this is real. Don’t spend this time arguing about a hypothetical. Just listen. Your kid is telling you they’re excited about their new school that’s a good thing!


Kid: I can’t wait for next year. Everyone wears pajamas at [next year’s school]!

You: I noticed! Is it every day or only on special occasions like pajama day?

Kid: [All about pajama-wearing at next year’s school.]

You: Wow / hmmmm / really?

And who knows what your kids fashion sense will be by then? For example, TODAY my sixth grade girl got in the car and said “by the way, the style isn’t to wear all one brand anymore. You can’t wear all lululemon. You have to mix it up with lululemon shorts and a top from somewhere else or a top from there with athleta shorts.” According to her this change occurred THIS WEEK. I just nodded along and said “ok, you need a few more tops so maybe we can look at target” while laughing internally. Keep in mind my kid has never worn “ALL lululemon” at one time. She has one pair of lululemon shorts that she had to pay more than half of herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes I highlight to my daughter how we are treated better when we put effort into looking nice (we are lower income but still). If we are about to miss the bus but I wave, he stops and waits for us, and I tell my daughter it's because we look nice. We get things for free places and I highlight to my daughter it's because we look nice. Looking nice as in self respecting. Respecting self = respecting others. Treat yourself how you want others to treat you etc.

This post is so sad to me. I am really sorry that you feel like people will only treat you with kindness if you “llook nice.” I am sorry that is the message your children are getting. I truly hope that when they grow up, they treat everyone with kindness and respect regardless of how they are dressed. I hope that for all your kids. And I am confident the school bus driver would stop for you even if your kids were in PJ pants—a smile, a wave and a thank you means more to most people than dressing up does.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

If you look like you just rolled out of bed, its really hard to take you seriously. Same thing for the messy hair in a pony tail that hasn't been pulled through and looks like it hasn't been brushed or washed in a few days. Some people have no self respect.

DD15 will do full hair and makeup and put on a pair of pj pants and go to school. Yes there are some that roll right out of bed but majority do a normal morning routine and just substitute another pair of pants with pj pants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

Exactly!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

If you look like you just rolled out of bed, it’s really hard to take you seriously. Same thing for the messy hair in a pony tail that hasn't been pulled through and looks like it hasn't been brushed or washed in a few days. Some people have no self respect.

That is not limited to flannel pants though. You can look like you just rolled out of bed in sweatpants or leggings, which some posters have irrationally concluded are far more acceptable attire.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

If you look like you just rolled out of bed, it’s really hard to take you seriously. Same thing for the messy hair in a pony tail that hasn't been pulled through and looks like it hasn't been brushed or washed in a few days. Some people have no self respect.

That is not limited to flannel pants though. You can look like you just rolled out of bed in sweatpants or leggings, which some posters have irrationally concluded are far more acceptable attire.

I would argue that in today's athleisure/WFH environment, a pair of good quality, well-fitting leggings or joggers with a similar athleisure top look significantly more put together than pjs and a tshirt or loose sweatshirt, especially if the wearer is in shape. And yes, hair must be done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

Exactly!!

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

Exactly!!

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If you are ok with pajamas at school then I don’t really think it can be explained to you. You’ve already decided it’s fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

If you look like you just rolled out of bed, it’s really hard to take you seriously. Same thing for the messy hair in a pony tail that hasn't been pulled through and looks like it hasn't been brushed or washed in a few days. Some people have no self respect.

That is not limited to flannel pants though. You can look like you just rolled out of bed in sweatpants or leggings, which some posters have irrationally concluded are far more acceptable attire.

I would argue that in today's athleisure/WFH environment, a pair of good quality, well-fitting leggings or joggers with a similar athleisure top look significantly more put together than pjs and a tshirt or loose sweatshirt, especially if the wearer is in shape. And yes, hair must be done.

This thread is about MS girls, not women working from home. A 13 year old girl wearing flannel pants with clean, combed hair is no different than a 13 year old girl wearing sweats/leggings with clean, combed hair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

If you look like you just rolled out of bed, it’s really hard to take you seriously. Same thing for the messy hair in a pony tail that hasn't been pulled through and looks like it hasn't been brushed or washed in a few days. Some people have no self respect.

That is not limited to flannel pants though. You can look like you just rolled out of bed in sweatpants or leggings, which some posters have irrationally concluded are far more acceptable attire.

I would argue that in today's athleisure/WFH environment, a pair of good quality, well-fitting leggings or joggers with a similar athleisure top look significantly more put together than pjs and a tshirt or loose sweatshirt, especially if the wearer is in shape. And yes, hair must be done.

This thread is about MS girls, not women working from home. A 13 year old girl wearing flannel pants with clean, combed hair is no different than a 13 year old girl wearing sweats/leggings with clean, combed hair.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

If you look like you just rolled out of bed, it’s really hard to take you seriously. Same thing for the messy hair in a pony tail that hasn't been pulled through and looks like it hasn't been brushed or washed in a few days. Some people have no self respect.

That is not limited to flannel pants though. You can look like you just rolled out of bed in sweatpants or leggings, which some posters have irrationally concluded are far more acceptable attire.

I would argue that in today's athleisure/WFH environment, a pair of good quality, well-fitting leggings or joggers with a similar athleisure top look significantly more put together than pjs and a tshirt or loose sweatshirt, especially if the wearer is in shape. And yes, hair must be done.

This thread is about MS girls, not women working from home. A 13 year old girl wearing flannel pants with clean, combed hair is no different than a 13 year old girl wearing sweats/leggings with clean, combed hair.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

Exactly!!

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If you are ok with pajamas at school then I don’t really think it can be explained to you. You’ve already decided it’s fine.

That’s ironically quite accurate

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

If you look like you just rolled out of bed, it’s really hard to take you seriously. Same thing for the messy hair in a pony tail that hasn't been pulled through and looks like it hasn't been brushed or washed in a few days. Some people have no self respect.

That is not limited to flannel pants though. You can look like you just rolled out of bed in sweatpants or leggings, which some posters have irrationally concluded are far more acceptable attire.

I would argue that in today's athleisure/WFH environment, a pair of good quality, well-fitting leggings or joggers with a similar athleisure top look significantly more put together than pjs and a tshirt or loose sweatshirt, especially if the wearer is in shape. And yes, hair must be done.

This thread is about MS girls, not women working from home. A 13 year old girl wearing flannel pants with clean, combed hair is no different than a 13 year old girl wearing sweats/leggings with clean, combed hair.

We are going to have to agree to disagree.