Looking to Compromise: Wearing PJs to School

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Choose your battles. This one isn't harming anyone, and it's okay to allow her agency over her own clothing choices, so long as they're clean and not inappropriate.

This. What’s inappropriate is the girls whose butts are literally hanging out of their shorts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our middle school sells pajama pants (aka flannels) with the school logo and EVERYONE wears them. I cannot even imagine making this my hill to die on in middle school.

Same at my school. I’m a teacher and to the poster who said it was disrespectful to teachers, we don’t care at all. Not even one little bit. Let your kid wear pjs.

So many are coming to school in bras and shorts hiked up so they look like thongs. Be thankful your kid wants to wear big baggy clothes.

[Anonymous]

Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, she is too old for you to be dressing her. As long as she is in compliance with the school dress code, let her wear what she wants. I suspect shortly after you stop huffing and rolling your eyes, she will quietly move on to something else.

DP here. Schools no longer have dress codes. Girls are allowed to wear sports bras as shirts. My kids are absolutely not allowed to wear that to school. If you want to let your kids look trashy, that’s your call.

Please stop ogling middle school girls. That's really disturbing.

If their parents aren’t going to teach them proper behavior, no one else is. I’m sorry for your kids that you abdicating your parenting responsibilities like so many others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Choose your battles. This one isn't harming anyone, and it's okay to allow her agency over her own clothing choices, so long as they're clean and not inappropriate.

Agree. But I would insist that whatever she wears to school is not something she slept in the previous night, and what she wears to bed is not what she wore all day at school.

In the spring/fall my son always goes to school in the t-shirt and shorts he slept in the night before. He showers at night, puts on clean clothes and goes to bed. I actually think it is a great system.

[Anonymous]

Just let her wear the pajamas

[Anonymous]

If the school allows it, let it go. Clearly they are not concerned. My DD complains about what her school's dress code allows. She often wears baggy clothes but that could change. We give her the autonomy to choose her clothing. As long as it is clean and season-appropriate, she can wear it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I do appreciate the first response that provided some direction responsive to my inquiry.

To those who will die on this hill next to me, I salute you.

To those who disagree with my firm stance on this line, I appreciate your divergent views; however, I have not been swayed by you responses.

To all of us, best of luck.

OP sounds obnoxious. Her poor DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the school allows it, let it go. Clearly they are not concerned. My DD complains about what her school's dress code allows. She often wears baggy clothes but that could change. We give her the autonomy to choose her clothing. As long as it is clean and season-appropriate, she can wear it.

This doesn’t work anymore. Schools allow anything. It sucks for parents but we have to develop standards because the schools no longer have ANY. Literally at all. Our county officially abolished the dress code for fear of being sued or being inequitable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This IS the hill I’d die in op. I’m with you. Nothing they wear to bed can be worn outside the house. Hard stop. No compromise. This includes Ugg slippers.

My middle school girls wear sweatpants.

You know plenty of kids wear sweats to bed, right? This is the distinction I don’t understand, sweatpants being ok but flannel pants not being ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I do appreciate the first response that provided some direction responsive to my inquiry.

To those who will die on this hill next to me, I salute you.

To those who disagree with my firm stance on this line, I appreciate your divergent views; however, I have not been swayed by you responses.

To all of us, best of luck.

Good luck to you OP. Quite honestly, you’re wrong. This is absolutely not the hill to die on. There are so many other hills that are much more important to your child’s health and well-being. If this is where you choose to make your stance, I wish you and your child luck because it’s gonna be a bumpy ride for both of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I do appreciate the first response that provided some direction responsive to my inquiry.

To those who will die on this hill next to me, I salute you.

To those who disagree with my firm stance on this line, I appreciate your divergent views; however, I have not been swayed by you responses.

To all of us, best of luck.

I don't understand why OP posted this at all. She's not willing to compromise. So, what's the point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This IS the hill I’d die in op. I’m with you. Nothing they wear to bed can be worn outside the house. Hard stop. No compromise. This includes Ugg slippers.

My middle school girls wear sweatpants.

You know plenty of kids wear sweats to bed, right? This is the distinction I don’t understand, sweatpants being ok but flannel pants not being ok.

And some kids wear shorts, jeans, etc.

I don’t care what other kids wear, I care what my kid wears.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This IS the hill I’d die in op. I’m with you. Nothing they wear to bed can be worn outside the house. Hard stop. No compromise. This includes Ugg slippers.

My middle school girls wear sweatpants.

You know plenty of kids wear sweats to bed, right? This is the distinction I don’t understand, sweatpants being ok but flannel pants not being ok.

And some kids wear shorts, jeans, etc.

I don’t care what other kids wear, I care what my kid wears.

Lol please, it’s pretty clear you would judge a kid (and their parents) for wearing flannel pants to school. But by your logic, that judgment is misplaced if they actually don’t wear flannel pants to bed (my kid doesn’t because she likes to sleep cool, but likes to wear them otherwise).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This IS the hill I’d die in op. I’m with you. Nothing they wear to bed can be worn outside the house. Hard stop. No compromise. This includes Ugg slippers.

My middle school girls wear sweatpants.

You know plenty of kids wear sweats to bed, right? This is the distinction I don’t understand, sweatpants being ok but flannel pants not being ok.

And some kids wear shorts, jeans, etc.

I don’t care what other kids wear, I care what my kid wears.

Lol please, it’s pretty clear you would judge a kid (and their parents) for wearing flannel pants to school. But by your logic, that judgment is misplaced if they actually don’t wear flannel pants to bed (my kid doesn’t because she likes to sleep cool, but likes to wear them otherwise).

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