Looking to Compromise: Wearing PJs to School

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You can find baggy flannel sweats that look like pajamas but aren’t. That’s what I did because I hated the idea of her wearing pajamas to school.

That's not any better. There are plenty of ways to feel comfortable without looking like a total slob. I'm shocked so many of you are defending this. When I see people wearing pajamas in public, I assume they are mentally ill.

Ironically, that makes you sound mentally ill.

Don’t be confused in 15 years when your child is unmarried, living in your basement and you have no grandchildren. You set the tone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You can find baggy flannel sweats that look like pajamas but aren’t. That’s what I did because I hated the idea of her wearing pajamas to school.

That's not any better. There are plenty of ways to feel comfortable without looking like a total slob. I'm shocked so many of you are defending this. When I see people wearing pajamas in public, I assume they are mentally ill.

Ironically, that makes you sound mentally ill.

Don’t be confused in 15 years when your child is unmarried, living in your basement and you have no grandchildren. You set the tone.

Wait, who are we saying will live in the basement? The kid who wore flannel PJ pants to school? Or the one who can’t get dress himself without first obtaining mother’s approval? I’ve lost track.

[Anonymous]

The middle school girls of the neighborhood congregate near my house to walk to school together. I can report that many of them seem to wear not just plaid flannel Pjs, but the same pair every day. Even the daughter of one of the most glamorous, fashionable moms I know.

As far as battles go, I would take flannel pants over the booty shorts that don’t show under their oversized t shirts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You can find baggy flannel sweats that look like pajamas but aren’t. That’s what I did because I hated the idea of her wearing pajamas to school.

That's not any better. There are plenty of ways to feel comfortable without looking like a total slob. I'm shocked so many of you are defending this. When I see people wearing pajamas in public, I assume they are mentally ill.

Ironically, that makes you sound mentally ill.

Don’t be confused in 15 years when your child is unmarried, living in your basement and you have no grandchildren. You set the tone.

Okaaay…

*slowly walking away*

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

Exactly!!

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If you are ok with pajamas at school then I don’t really think it can be explained to you. You’ve already decided it’s fine.

I guess so. I’m the poster who doesn’t get it who you are responding to. But my PJ wearing straight A varsity athlete is heading off to a top 10 college this fall, and is also a really nice person. So I’m not only ok with it, I feel like it’s worked out really well for us. I’m glad she was comfortable, and able to focus on her studies, her activities, and being her own person. And I think she has a lot of self respect!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Choose your battles. This one isn't harming anyone, and it's okay to allow her agency over her own clothing choices, so long as they're clean and not inappropriate.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can find baggy flannel sweats that look like pajamas but aren’t. That’s what I did because I hated the idea of her wearing pajamas to school.

This is entirely a you problem. You seriously bought baggy flannel sweats because baggy flannel pants were too much for you to handle? Seek help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why something being made out of cotton flannel is “lazy” but the same thing made out of poplin or t-shirt material or tencel is not. Flannel is such a practical comfortable fabric!

Also all the comments about dressing for the occasion….isnt that defined by how people dress for that occasion? You wouldn’t wear a business suit to a baseball game, right? Children’s school clothing should be comfortable and allow them to focus on studies.

If you look like you just rolled out of bed, it’s really hard to take you seriously. Same thing for the messy hair in a pony tail that hasn't been pulled through and looks like it hasn't been brushed or washed in a few days. Some people have no self respect.

That is not limited to flannel pants though. You can look like you just rolled out of bed in sweatpants or leggings, which some posters have irrationally concluded are far more acceptable attire.

I would argue that in today's athleisure/WFH environment, a pair of good quality, well-fitting leggings or joggers with a similar athleisure top look significantly more put together than pjs and a tshirt or loose sweatshirt, especially if the wearer is in shape. And yes, hair must be done.

This thread is about MS girls, not women working from home. A 13 year old girl wearing flannel pants with clean, combed hair is no different than a 13 year old girl wearing sweats/leggings with clean, combed hair.

This. My daughter doesn't even sleep in her flannel pants, she finds shorts and leggings to be more comfortable for bed and instead prefers to wear them as her day pants. What makes her flannel pants different from a pair of grey sweatpants in this case? They have not (and likely will not) ever be worn to bed. But apparently according to a surprising amount of this thread, wearing flannel pants with a plaid design immediately makes them pajamas. Distinction without a difference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The trend may die by September

My kids wore them in high school. One is now a senior in college. Sure, it will die by September.

And I wore them in college in the 90s. Magically I managed to become a successful and married adult who wears actual pants and dresses, not athleisure 95% of the time.