NOT redshirting august DS

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Anonymous wrote:My son has a March birthday and while we did not redshirt, we had several people telling us it would only benefit him. We are in private school though and most summer birthdays are redshirted and therefore my March birthday son is usually one of the youngest in the class.

My friend with kids in a southern private school redshirted them and they have Jan and Feb birthdays. I was shocked that people would do this for kids without need (which hers do not have). And her kids are really tall too!

Yes we have family in Texas and redshirting for spring and even sometimes winter birthdays is really common. I was also shocked to learn how rampant it is. My August birthday kid went on time and it's funny to think about her graduating high school and going to college at the same time as kids who are nearly two years older. They will turn 20 before the end of their freshman year of college!

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NP. We sent our son who turned 5 in July and is very small for his age to Kindergarten this fall and he is thriving in Kindergarten. I wouldn't redshirt without a compelling reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who is answering this before their kids are HS age is giving premature feedback. Middle school / HS is when the reasons for potential regrets (if present) will become show up

I have a high school-age child and the age issue has come up a few times. We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age. My child was so confused as to why they'd recommend it without knowing them, looking at their grades or test scores, and said no.

I've talked about it over the years with my child as they were confused about why friends the same age/birthday are a year younger. Some were held back by parents, others were not able to go because of the birthday cut-off. Even though they are smaller and younger, they feel they are in the right grade. Come 8th grade, they were so done with MS and ready to move on.

Come HS they are in several more advanced classes, some with seniors. So, holding them back and them missing out on other opportunities that go by grade, not age, would have been a huge disservice to them.

You didn’t feel like you needed to redshirt and neither did your child’s teachers. That’s very different from a parent taking the advice of preK teachers or having concerns about your child’s readiness and choosing to hold your child back. I think that’s why you are getting different responses about satisfaction from redshirting on this thread. Note: OP’s child doesn’t seem to have any delays and the teachers haven’t suggested holding him back.

Also, my non redshirted May birthday junior has been in advanced classes with upperclassmen for three years now and that’s simply not an issue. In smaller privates, that is standard.

What are you talking about? You are making lots of assumptions. Yes, there were concerns and delays. The difference is we dealt with them. We held the child back and it was a huge mistake. Child skipped a year to fix it.

Here’s what you wrote: “We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age.” That is very different from saying “we had concerns and delays and dealt with them.” I can only respond to what you write.

There were both. Funny thing, we dealt with the delays and did many years of therapies. Child would have needed the same thing regardless of the grade. Holding back would not have helped. However it would have hurt self esteem , socially and academically later on.

Most privates demand kids be held back. When you ask them why they could not say which means it’s for the school not the child. Makes you wonder about the schools.

These privates aren’t full of kids suffering socially and lacking self esteem if they are older. You are either unfamiliar with this population or lying. Probably both.

Right? Believe me, it does no damage to private school kids’ self-esteem to be redshirted.

I posted earlier about how I feel the decision should be always made with reference to the specific school you’re interested in, as well as the specific child. The cohort will vary widely. I would not necessarily want my child to be the only redshirted kid in a class, unless there were a very strong reason, but if every other kid his age is being redshirted? Absolutely. It’s just a different cohort. And if like some posters, you are deeply morally opposed, find an environment where redshirting is rare. They certainly exist.

You think your private school kids don't mix with public school kids and they all talk about it? If your top private is so good, they should be able to handle age appropriate kids, not kids who have been delayed for the schools needs. Thats what I don't get. Why do these privates insist on holding kids back if they are the "best." Surely the best is able to teach kids who are 5.

Oh, sweetheart.

Just no.

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Anonymous wrote:I sent my end of August kid to kindergarten this year. DC currently in K also has 7 other kids with birthdays between July-September. 1 kid was still 4 at open house, actually. I was really hesitant to send DC because they are very small for their age (my toddler is heavier and almost the same height), but they are doing really well and already knew how to read. Definitely send him if he's ready.

Too early to tell. Come back and report after 8th grade

Those of us with older kids are telling you it was the right choice. Why are you trying to discredit that.

Because that poster is probably a private school redshirter who doesn't know about the world beyond her private school bubble. Most public school kids with birthdays right before the cut off are not redshirted and still do fine K-12. It's apples and oranges.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who is answering this before their kids are HS age is giving premature feedback. Middle school / HS is when the reasons for potential regrets (if present) will become show up

I have a high school-age child and the age issue has come up a few times. We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age. My child was so confused as to why they'd recommend it without knowing them, looking at their grades or test scores, and said no.

I've talked about it over the years with my child as they were confused about why friends the same age/birthday are a year younger. Some were held back by parents, others were not able to go because of the birthday cut-off. Even though they are smaller and younger, they feel they are in the right grade. Come 8th grade, they were so done with MS and ready to move on.

Come HS they are in several more advanced classes, some with seniors. So, holding them back and them missing out on other opportunities that go by grade, not age, would have been a huge disservice to them.

You didn’t feel like you needed to redshirt and neither did your child’s teachers. That’s very different from a parent taking the advice of preK teachers or having concerns about your child’s readiness and choosing to hold your child back. I think that’s why you are getting different responses about satisfaction from redshirting on this thread. Note: OP’s child doesn’t seem to have any delays and the teachers haven’t suggested holding him back.

Also, my non redshirted May birthday junior has been in advanced classes with upperclassmen for three years now and that’s simply not an issue. In smaller privates, that is standard.

What are you talking about? You are making lots of assumptions. Yes, there were concerns and delays. The difference is we dealt with them. We held the child back and it was a huge mistake. Child skipped a year to fix it.

Here’s what you wrote: “We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age.” That is very different from saying “we had concerns and delays and dealt with them.” I can only respond to what you write.

There were both. Funny thing, we dealt with the delays and did many years of therapies. Child would have needed the same thing regardless of the grade. Holding back would not have helped. However it would have hurt self esteem , socially and academically later on.

Most privates demand kids be held back. When you ask them why they could not say which means it’s for the school not the child. Makes you wonder about the schools.

These privates aren’t full of kids suffering socially and lacking self esteem if they are older. You are either unfamiliar with this population or lying. Probably both.

Right? Believe me, it does no damage to private school kids’ self-esteem to be redshirted.

I posted earlier about how I feel the decision should be always made with reference to the specific school you’re interested in, as well as the specific child. The cohort will vary widely. I would not necessarily want my child to be the only redshirted kid in a class, unless there were a very strong reason, but if every other kid his age is being redshirted? Absolutely. It’s just a different cohort. And if like some posters, you are deeply morally opposed, find an environment where redshirting is rare. They certainly exist.

You think your private school kids don't mix with public school kids and they all talk about it? If your top private is so good, they should be able to handle age appropriate kids, not kids who have been delayed for the schools needs. Thats what I don't get. Why do these privates insist on holding kids back if they are the "best." Surely the best is able to teach kids who are 5.

Oh, sweetheart.

Just no.

Oh sweetheart, have you ever considered why these privates make almost all spring/summer/fall kids wait a year? It's because it's easier for them/less teaching and you have to wonder about the skills of the teachers and school if they cannot handle 5 year olds vs. 6 year olds for K. Those private school kids aren't smarter, they are just older.

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Anonymous wrote:My son has a March birthday and while we did not redshirt, we had several people telling us it would only benefit him. We are in private school though and most summer birthdays are redshirted and therefore my March birthday son is usually one of the youngest in the class.

My friend with kids in a southern private school redshirted them and they have Jan and Feb birthdays. I was shocked that people would do this for kids without need (which hers do not have). And her kids are really tall too!

Yes we have family in Texas and redshirting for spring and even sometimes winter birthdays is really common. I was also shocked to learn how rampant it is. My August birthday kid went on time and it's funny to think about her graduating high school and going to college at the same time as kids who are nearly two years older. They will turn 20 before the end of their freshman year of college!

Texas is obsessed with hs football.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who is answering this before their kids are HS age is giving premature feedback. Middle school / HS is when the reasons for potential regrets (if present) will become show up

I have a high school-age child and the age issue has come up a few times. We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age. My child was so confused as to why they'd recommend it without knowing them, looking at their grades or test scores, and said no.

I've talked about it over the years with my child as they were confused about why friends the same age/birthday are a year younger. Some were held back by parents, others were not able to go because of the birthday cut-off. Even though they are smaller and younger, they feel they are in the right grade. Come 8th grade, they were so done with MS and ready to move on.

Come HS they are in several more advanced classes, some with seniors. So, holding them back and them missing out on other opportunities that go by grade, not age, would have been a huge disservice to them.

You didn’t feel like you needed to redshirt and neither did your child’s teachers. That’s very different from a parent taking the advice of preK teachers or having concerns about your child’s readiness and choosing to hold your child back. I think that’s why you are getting different responses about satisfaction from redshirting on this thread. Note: OP’s child doesn’t seem to have any delays and the teachers haven’t suggested holding him back.

Also, my non redshirted May birthday junior has been in advanced classes with upperclassmen for three years now and that’s simply not an issue. In smaller privates, that is standard.

What are you talking about? You are making lots of assumptions. Yes, there were concerns and delays. The difference is we dealt with them. We held the child back and it was a huge mistake. Child skipped a year to fix it.

Here’s what you wrote: “We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age.” That is very different from saying “we had concerns and delays and dealt with them.” I can only respond to what you write.

There were both. Funny thing, we dealt with the delays and did many years of therapies. Child would have needed the same thing regardless of the grade. Holding back would not have helped. However it would have hurt self esteem , socially and academically later on.

Most privates demand kids be held back. When you ask them why they could not say which means it’s for the school not the child. Makes you wonder about the schools.

These privates aren’t full of kids suffering socially and lacking self esteem if they are older. You are either unfamiliar with this population or lying. Probably both.

Right? Believe me, it does no damage to private school kids’ self-esteem to be redshirted.

I posted earlier about how I feel the decision should be always made with reference to the specific school you’re interested in, as well as the specific child. The cohort will vary widely. I would not necessarily want my child to be the only redshirted kid in a class, unless there were a very strong reason, but if every other kid his age is being redshirted? Absolutely. It’s just a different cohort. And if like some posters, you are deeply morally opposed, find an environment where redshirting is rare. They certainly exist.

You think your private school kids don't mix with public school kids and they all talk about it? If your top private is so good, they should be able to handle age appropriate kids, not kids who have been delayed for the schools needs. Thats what I don't get. Why do these privates insist on holding kids back if they are the "best." Surely the best is able to teach kids who are 5.

Oh, sweetheart.

Just no.

Oh sweetheart, have you ever considered why these privates make almost all spring/summer/fall kids wait a year? It's because it's easier for them/less teaching and you have to wonder about the skills of the teachers and school if they cannot handle 5 year olds vs. 6 year olds for K. Those private school kids aren't smarter, they are just older.

Mmm hmmm. Sure. Yes. You definitely know what you’re talking about.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who is answering this before their kids are HS age is giving premature feedback. Middle school / HS is when the reasons for potential regrets (if present) will become show up

I have a high school-age child and the age issue has come up a few times. We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age. My child was so confused as to why they'd recommend it without knowing them, looking at their grades or test scores, and said no.

I've talked about it over the years with my child as they were confused about why friends the same age/birthday are a year younger. Some were held back by parents, others were not able to go because of the birthday cut-off. Even though they are smaller and younger, they feel they are in the right grade. Come 8th grade, they were so done with MS and ready to move on.

Come HS they are in several more advanced classes, some with seniors. So, holding them back and them missing out on other opportunities that go by grade, not age, would have been a huge disservice to them.

You didn’t feel like you needed to redshirt and neither did your child’s teachers. That’s very different from a parent taking the advice of preK teachers or having concerns about your child’s readiness and choosing to hold your child back. I think that’s why you are getting different responses about satisfaction from redshirting on this thread. Note: OP’s child doesn’t seem to have any delays and the teachers haven’t suggested holding him back.

Also, my non redshirted May birthday junior has been in advanced classes with upperclassmen for three years now and that’s simply not an issue. In smaller privates, that is standard.

What are you talking about? You are making lots of assumptions. Yes, there were concerns and delays. The difference is we dealt with them. We held the child back and it was a huge mistake. Child skipped a year to fix it.

Here’s what you wrote: “We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age.” That is very different from saying “we had concerns and delays and dealt with them.” I can only respond to what you write.

There were both. Funny thing, we dealt with the delays and did many years of therapies. Child would have needed the same thing regardless of the grade. Holding back would not have helped. However it would have hurt self esteem , socially and academically later on.

Most privates demand kids be held back. When you ask them why they could not say which means it’s for the school not the child. Makes you wonder about the schools.

These privates aren’t full of kids suffering socially and lacking self esteem if they are older. You are either unfamiliar with this population or lying. Probably both.

Right? Believe me, it does no damage to private school kids’ self-esteem to be redshirted.

I posted earlier about how I feel the decision should be always made with reference to the specific school you’re interested in, as well as the specific child. The cohort will vary widely. I would not necessarily want my child to be the only redshirted kid in a class, unless there were a very strong reason, but if every other kid his age is being redshirted? Absolutely. It’s just a different cohort. And if like some posters, you are deeply morally opposed, find an environment where redshirting is rare. They certainly exist.

You think your private school kids don't mix with public school kids and they all talk about it? If your top private is so good, they should be able to handle age appropriate kids, not kids who have been delayed for the schools needs. Thats what I don't get. Why do these privates insist on holding kids back if they are the "best." Surely the best is able to teach kids who are 5.

Oh, sweetheart.

Just no.

Oh sweetheart, have you ever considered why these privates make almost all spring/summer/fall kids wait a year? It's because it's easier for them/less teaching and you have to wonder about the skills of the teachers and school if they cannot handle 5 year olds vs. 6 year olds for K. Those private school kids aren't smarter, they are just older.

Mmm hmmm. Sure. Yes. You definitely know what you’re talking about.

You don't find it odd that these schools are not able to handle 5-year-olds as K, which is the appropriate age to start K. These are supposed to be the best school with the brightest kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who is answering this before their kids are HS age is giving premature feedback. Middle school / HS is when the reasons for potential regrets (if present) will become show up

I have a high school-age child and the age issue has come up a few times. We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age. My child was so confused as to why they'd recommend it without knowing them, looking at their grades or test scores, and said no.

I've talked about it over the years with my child as they were confused about why friends the same age/birthday are a year younger. Some were held back by parents, others were not able to go because of the birthday cut-off. Even though they are smaller and younger, they feel they are in the right grade. Come 8th grade, they were so done with MS and ready to move on.

Come HS they are in several more advanced classes, some with seniors. So, holding them back and them missing out on other opportunities that go by grade, not age, would have been a huge disservice to them.

You didn’t feel like you needed to redshirt and neither did your child’s teachers. That’s very different from a parent taking the advice of preK teachers or having concerns about your child’s readiness and choosing to hold your child back. I think that’s why you are getting different responses about satisfaction from redshirting on this thread. Note: OP’s child doesn’t seem to have any delays and the teachers haven’t suggested holding him back.

Also, my non redshirted May birthday junior has been in advanced classes with upperclassmen for three years now and that’s simply not an issue. In smaller privates, that is standard.

What are you talking about? You are making lots of assumptions. Yes, there were concerns and delays. The difference is we dealt with them. We held the child back and it was a huge mistake. Child skipped a year to fix it.

Here’s what you wrote: “We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age.” That is very different from saying “we had concerns and delays and dealt with them.” I can only respond to what you write.

There were both. Funny thing, we dealt with the delays and did many years of therapies. Child would have needed the same thing regardless of the grade. Holding back would not have helped. However it would have hurt self esteem , socially and academically later on.

Most privates demand kids be held back. When you ask them why they could not say which means it’s for the school not the child. Makes you wonder about the schools.

Glad it worked out for you and agree about privates often demanding a summer birthday to be held back.

I disagree with your insinuation that you “dealt with the delays” as if that is possible for every child with developmental delays. For some conditions like ADHD, time is the primary factor that helps (it’s a delay in executive functioning) although medical and structural supports can assist. That’s just one example of a delay that is alleviated by time - and it’s not the only one.

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Anonymous wrote:I sent my end of August kid to kindergarten this year. DC currently in K also has 7 other kids with birthdays between July-September. 1 kid was still 4 at open house, actually. I was really hesitant to send DC because they are very small for their age (my toddler is heavier and almost the same height), but they are doing really well and already knew how to read. Definitely send him if he's ready.

Too early to tell. Come back and report after 8th grade

Those of us with older kids are telling you it was the right choice. Why are you trying to discredit that.

Because that poster is probably a private school redshirter who doesn't know about the world beyond her private school bubble. Most public school kids with birthdays right before the cut off are not redshirted and still do fine K-12. It's apples and oranges.

DP. There are more than one parents of older kids responding here who are saying they made the right choice. My teen for one is in public.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who is answering this before their kids are HS age is giving premature feedback. Middle school / HS is when the reasons for potential regrets (if present) will become show up

I have a high school-age child and the age issue has come up a few times. We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age. My child was so confused as to why they'd recommend it without knowing them, looking at their grades or test scores, and said no.

I've talked about it over the years with my child as they were confused about why friends the same age/birthday are a year younger. Some were held back by parents, others were not able to go because of the birthday cut-off. Even though they are smaller and younger, they feel they are in the right grade. Come 8th grade, they were so done with MS and ready to move on.

Come HS they are in several more advanced classes, some with seniors. So, holding them back and them missing out on other opportunities that go by grade, not age, would have been a huge disservice to them.

You didn’t feel like you needed to redshirt and neither did your child’s teachers. That’s very different from a parent taking the advice of preK teachers or having concerns about your child’s readiness and choosing to hold your child back. I think that’s why you are getting different responses about satisfaction from redshirting on this thread. Note: OP’s child doesn’t seem to have any delays and the teachers haven’t suggested holding him back.

Also, my non redshirted May birthday junior has been in advanced classes with upperclassmen for three years now and that’s simply not an issue. In smaller privates, that is standard.

What are you talking about? You are making lots of assumptions. Yes, there were concerns and delays. The difference is we dealt with them. We held the child back and it was a huge mistake. Child skipped a year to fix it.

Here’s what you wrote: “We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age.” That is very different from saying “we had concerns and delays and dealt with them.” I can only respond to what you write.

There were both. Funny thing, we dealt with the delays and did many years of therapies. Child would have needed the same thing regardless of the grade. Holding back would not have helped. However it would have hurt self esteem , socially and academically later on.

Most privates demand kids be held back. When you ask them why they could not say which means it’s for the school not the child. Makes you wonder about the schools.

Glad it worked out for you and agree about privates often demanding a summer birthday to be held back.

I disagree with your insinuation that you “dealt with the delays” as if that is possible for every child with developmental delays. For some conditions like ADHD, time is the primary factor that helps (it’s a delay in executive functioning) although medical and structural supports can assist. That’s just one example of a delay that is alleviated by time - and it’s not the only one.

You disagree my child’s delays were dealt with? That makes no sense. ADHD is not a delay, it’s a disorder. And, there is more than ADHD. And, if anything a more structured school setting would help with that. Time is not a factor in adhd. ADHD does not go away. It’s life long.

No private was worth holding back my child. They are saying they don’t want them and I have to question their methods if they cannot handle age appropriate kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I sent my end of August kid to kindergarten this year. DC currently in K also has 7 other kids with birthdays between July-September. 1 kid was still 4 at open house, actually. I was really hesitant to send DC because they are very small for their age (my toddler is heavier and almost the same height), but they are doing really well and already knew how to read. Definitely send him if he's ready.

Too early to tell. Come back and report after 8th grade

Those of us with older kids are telling you it was the right choice. Why are you trying to discredit that.

Because that poster is probably a private school redshirter who doesn't know about the world beyond her private school bubble. Most public school kids with birthdays right before the cut off are not redshirted and still do fine K-12. It's apples and oranges.

DP. There are more than one parents of older kids responding here who are saying they made the right choice. My teen for one is in public.

Us too. They don’t want to hear it to justify holding back.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who is answering this before their kids are HS age is giving premature feedback. Middle school / HS is when the reasons for potential regrets (if present) will become show up

I have a high school-age child and the age issue has come up a few times. We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age. My child was so confused as to why they'd recommend it without knowing them, looking at their grades or test scores, and said no.

I've talked about it over the years with my child as they were confused about why friends the same age/birthday are a year younger. Some were held back by parents, others were not able to go because of the birthday cut-off. Even though they are smaller and younger, they feel they are in the right grade. Come 8th grade, they were so done with MS and ready to move on.

Come HS they are in several more advanced classes, some with seniors. So, holding them back and them missing out on other opportunities that go by grade, not age, would have been a huge disservice to them.

You didn’t feel like you needed to redshirt and neither did your child’s teachers. That’s very different from a parent taking the advice of preK teachers or having concerns about your child’s readiness and choosing to hold your child back. I think that’s why you are getting different responses about satisfaction from redshirting on this thread. Note: OP’s child doesn’t seem to have any delays and the teachers haven’t suggested holding him back.

Also, my non redshirted May birthday junior has been in advanced classes with upperclassmen for three years now and that’s simply not an issue. In smaller privates, that is standard.

What are you talking about? You are making lots of assumptions. Yes, there were concerns and delays. The difference is we dealt with them. We held the child back and it was a huge mistake. Child skipped a year to fix it.

Here’s what you wrote: “We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age.” That is very different from saying “we had concerns and delays and dealt with them.” I can only respond to what you write.

There were both. Funny thing, we dealt with the delays and did many years of therapies. Child would have needed the same thing regardless of the grade. Holding back would not have helped. However it would have hurt self esteem , socially and academically later on.

Most privates demand kids be held back. When you ask them why they could not say which means it’s for the school not the child. Makes you wonder about the schools.

These privates aren’t full of kids suffering socially and lacking self esteem if they are older. You are either unfamiliar with this population or lying. Probably both.

Right? Believe me, it does no damage to private school kids’ self-esteem to be redshirted.

I posted earlier about how I feel the decision should be always made with reference to the specific school you’re interested in, as well as the specific child. The cohort will vary widely. I would not necessarily want my child to be the only redshirted kid in a class, unless there were a very strong reason, but if every other kid his age is being redshirted? Absolutely. It’s just a different cohort. And if like some posters, you are deeply morally opposed, find an environment where redshirting is rare. They certainly exist.

You think your private school kids don't mix with public school kids and they all talk about it? If your top private is so good, they should be able to handle age appropriate kids, not kids who have been delayed for the schools needs. Thats what I don't get. Why do these privates insist on holding kids back if they are the "best." Surely the best is able to teach kids who are 5.

Oh, sweetheart.

Just no.

Oh sweetheart, have you ever considered why these privates make almost all spring/summer/fall kids wait a year? It's because it's easier for them/less teaching and you have to wonder about the skills of the teachers and school if they cannot handle 5 year olds vs. 6 year olds for K. Those private school kids aren't smarter, they are just older.

Mmm hmmm. Sure. Yes. You definitely know what you’re talking about.

You don't find it odd that these schools are not able to handle 5-year-olds as K, which is the appropriate age to start K. These are supposed to be the best school with the brightest kids.

According to what? Natural Law, perhaps?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who is answering this before their kids are HS age is giving premature feedback. Middle school / HS is when the reasons for potential regrets (if present) will become show up

No, because you can reassess the situation in later grades and hold back if it is really for the best. It's easy to repeat a middle school year by switching schools.

If you hold back at K you can't get that extra year back unless you have a unicorn school that lets kids skip grades.

Send on time and monitor. That is the sensible and less risky path.

That’s an insane perspective. No WAY is that easier. Do you have kids??

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who is answering this before their kids are HS age is giving premature feedback. Middle school / HS is when the reasons for potential regrets (if present) will become show up

No, because you can reassess the situation in later grades and hold back if it is really for the best. It's easy to repeat a middle school year by switching schools.

If you hold back at K you can't get that extra year back unless you have a unicorn school that lets kids skip grades.

Send on time and monitor. That is the sensible and less risky path.

That’s an insane perspective. No WAY is that easier. Do you have kids??

The insane perspective is to hold back at K for no good reason except "everyone else does it."