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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone who is answering this before their kids are HS age is giving premature feedback. Middle school / HS is when the reasons for potential regrets (if present) will become show up [/quote]

I have a high school-age child and the age issue has come up a few times.  We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age.  My child was so confused as to why they'd recommend it without knowing them, looking at their grades or test scores, and said no.

I've talked about it over the years with my child as they were confused about why friends the same age/birthday are a year younger.  Some were held back by parents, others were not able to go because of the birthday cut-off.  Even though they are smaller and younger, they feel they are in the right grade.  Come 8th grade, they were so done with MS and ready to move on.

Come HS they are in several more advanced classes, some with seniors.  So, holding them back and them missing out on other opportunities that go by grade, not age, would have been a huge disservice to them.[/quote]

You didn’t feel like you needed to redshirt and neither did your child’s teachers.  That’s very different from a parent taking the advice of preK teachers or having concerns about your child’s readiness and choosing to hold your child back.  I think that’s why you are getting different responses about satisfaction from redshirting on this thread. Note: OP’s child doesn’t seem to have any delays and the teachers haven’t suggested holding him back.

Also, my non redshirted May birthday junior has been in advanced classes with upperclassmen for three years now and that’s simply not an issue.  In smaller privates, that is standard.  [/quote]

What are you talking about?  You are making lots of assumptions.  Yes, there were concerns and delays.  The difference is we dealt with them.  We held the child back and it was a huge mistake.  Child skipped a year to fix it.  [/quote]

Here’s what you wrote: “We looked at privates in ES and they recommended holding back based on age.”  That is very different from saying “we had concerns and delays and dealt with them.”  I can only respond to what you write.[/quote]

There were both.  Funny thing, we dealt with the delays and did many years of therapies.  Child would have needed the same thing regardless of the grade.   Holding back would not have helped.  However it would have hurt self esteem , socially and academically later on.

Most privates demand kids be held back.  When you ask them why they could not say which means it’s for the school not the child.  Makes you wonder about the schools.  [/quote]

These privates aren’t full of kids suffering socially and lacking self esteem if they are older. You are either unfamiliar with this population or lying. Probably both.[/quote]

Right? Believe me, it does no damage to private school kids’ self-esteem to be redshirted.

I posted earlier about how I feel the decision should be always made with reference to the specific school you’re interested in, as well as the specific child.  The cohort will vary widely. I would not necessarily want my child to be the only redshirted kid in a class, unless there were a very strong reason, but if every other kid his age is being redshirted? Absolutely. It’s just a different cohort.  And if like some posters, you are deeply morally opposed, find an environment where redshirting is rare. They certainly exist. [/quote]

You think your private school kids don't mix with public school kids and they all talk about it?  If your top private is so good, they should be able to handle age appropriate kids, not kids who have been delayed for the schools needs.  Thats what I don't get.  Why do these privates insist on holding kids back if they are the "best."  Surely the best is able to teach kids who are 5.[/quote]

Oh, sweetheart.

Just no. [/quote]

Oh sweetheart, have you ever considered why these privates make almost all spring/summer/fall kids wait a year?  It's because it's easier for them/less teaching and you have to wonder about the skills of the teachers and school if they cannot handle 5 year olds vs. 6 year olds for K.  Those private school kids aren't smarter, they are just older.[/quote]

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