Short men and romantic relationships

[Anonymous]

I proclaimed I wanted a taller guy after dating someone 5’8” for many years. Then I dated some taller men who weren’t great, and I quickly realized that was a really dumb checklist item to have.

Ultimately I married my husband, who is exactly my height at 5’6”. He’s kind, funny, confident, and a great cook. I never even really thought about his shortness since I was attracted to him.

But now that I have a som I sometimes feel myself rooting for him to grow taller (for sports and relationship purposes). I have to remind myself that it’s not important—I grew out of being shallow in that way and many other shallow women will too. It’s much harder to find a great guy than a tall one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 6' woman and my DH of 20 years is 5'7". My previous long term boyfriend was 5'3". Woman who are not superficial will not care about height.

The problem is that most women care about height. Even the women that care less still want a man that is taller than them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him to Google "short king" and own it. Confidence is extremely attractive

You realize that they are mocking short confident men, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 6' woman and my DH of 20 years is 5'7". My previous long term boyfriend was 5'3". Woman who are not superficial will not care about height.

6’ woman is too tall; it’s like being a 5’3” man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him to Google "short king" and own it. Confidence is extremely attractive

You realize that they are mocking short confident men, right?

No get with it. The term is being reclaimed by true short kings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him to Google "short king" and own it. Confidence is extremely attractive

You realize that they are mocking short confident men, right?

No get with it. The term is being reclaimed by true short kings

Sure so I can call someone a Asian queen or Gay King as a term of encouragement?

[Anonymous]

OP - this stuff has to run two ways. You don’t want him to get overlooked because he is not tall. Make sure he doesn’t overlook a great woman because she is not thin or classically pretty.

[Anonymous]

Eh, it is what it is. You can't do anything about height, and if men or women want to mock you for something genetically out of your control then that toxicity is on them. They're the same kind of people who would mock people with Down's Syndrome, because it is the same thing.

You can laugh secretly inside when some obese cow makes fun of you for being short, because being overweight is entirely in your control, which shows a lack of discipline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him to Google "short king" and own it. Confidence is extremely attractive

You realize that they are mocking short confident men, right?

No get with it. The term is being reclaimed by true short kings

Sure so I can call someone a Asian queen or Gay King as a term of encouragement?

You know how some people can use certain words and some can't?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 21 yr old son is 5”6. He’s also super smart, funny and good looking. He’s always been able to make friends easily but has had no romantic relationships. You hear so much about how women want tall men it makes me sad for him. I’d love to hear happy stories of short men finding love.

Just wait until your son has a big bank account and income. Women will be swooning over him like flies to manure.

+1

Above all, today’s women value money and power.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh, it is what it is. You can't do anything about height, and if men or women want to mock you for something genetically out of your control then that toxicity is on them. They're the same kind of people who would mock people with Down's Syndrome, because it is the same thing.

You can laugh secretly inside when some obese cow makes fun of you for being short, because being overweight is entirely in your control, which shows a lack of discipline.

Being obese in 2024 is no different than “short man energy.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eh, it is what it is. You can't do anything about height, and if men or women want to mock you for something genetically out of your control then that toxicity is on them. They're the same kind of people who would mock people with Down's Syndrome, because it is the same thing.

You can laugh secretly inside when some obese cow makes fun of you for being short, because being overweight is entirely in your control, which shows a lack of discipline.

Being obese in 2024 is no different than “short man energy.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 21 yr old son is 5”6. He’s also super smart, funny and good looking. He’s always been able to make friends easily but has had no romantic relationships. You hear so much about how women want tall men it makes me sad for him. I’d love to hear happy stories of short men finding love.

Just wait until your son has a big bank account and income. Women will be swooning over him like flies to manure.

So basically he can’t just have an average career or will end up alone.

A short guy can find a woman, but the woman may not be "high value" according to most men. Most average to below average people have to settle to some degree, and not shoot for above their league.

There is a lid for every pot, if people are willing to lower their expectations. My brother is 5'4", only earns like $90K and managed to find a wife (who is also 5'4"), but she is not "high value" -- ordinary in every sense of the word.

There is 0 reason why a short guy can't land a "high value" girl. Sure, being short is a liability, but so is [fill in the blank] characteristics. He just has to be smart and not settle for the first girl that pays attention to him. Being fat is so much worse because that truly demonstrates a character flaw, e.g., laziness.

[Anonymous]

5’7 guy here who got out of a relationship a year ago and actively looking (in person, not online) and it’s def something that seems to be a larger headwind than before

The only people I know around my height that are married are making 300k+

It never messed with my head before (I’ve gone on dates with 6’0+ women before but that was when IG wasn’t as big)

Post TikTok, there def seems to be a more intense scrutiny of this issue

I think I’m going to take a couple months off from trying and need a reset.

I run 5x a week, have visible abs, work out, wear tailored shirts….the vibes just seem off

I could be in better shape (my bf % is probably high teens and not 11-13%)

But outside of 3x-ing my income, I think having a family is most likely not going to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5’7 guy here who got out of a relationship a year ago and actively looking (in person, not online) and it’s def something that seems to be a larger headwind than before

The only people I know around my height that are married are making 300k+

It never messed with my head before (I’ve gone on dates with 6’0+ women before but that was when IG wasn’t as big)

Post TikTok, there def seems to be a more intense scrutiny of this issue

I think I’m going to take a couple months off from trying and need a reset.

I run 5x a week, have visible abs, work out, wear tailored shirts….the vibes just seem off

I could be in better shape (my bf % is probably high teens and not 11-13%)

But outside of 3x-ing my income, I think having a family is most likely not going to happen.

TikTok has most definitely made Americans more shallow and frankly, stupid.