Rush consultants

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
We received the following advice from a paid sorority consultant. I hope that this is helpful to some people, and will help to avoid having to pay $3000, as we did:

1. Social media is essential. As soon as you register for recruitment (aka rush), "the girls in the sorority will immediately go to your Instagram account" to learn about you.

2. On Instagram, you need to look "classy and put together."

3. On Instagram, the sorority does not want to see a girl with a ton of separate photos with boys. Maybe a few photos with one boy (suggesting that is a boyfriend), but not multiple boys in photos.

3. On Instagram, it's ideal to have photos with lots of girl friends, which shows that you are a nice person and have a lot of friends.

4. On Instagram, only post a photo of yourself in a swimsuit if you are on vacation.

5. On Instagram, you want to portray yourself as fun, but not too much of a partier.

6. If rush is in the spring semester (instead of the fall semester), take the easiest possible classes to maximize your GPA. The sorority cares about the GPA. They would rather see someone take very easy classes and get a 4.0, than take really difficult classes and have a 2.75.

Wow- and people want this for their kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
We received the following advice from a paid sorority consultant. I hope that this is helpful to some people, and will help to avoid having to pay $3000, as we did:

1. Social media is essential. As soon as you register for recruitment (aka rush), "the girls in the sorority will immediately go to your Instagram account" to learn about you.

2. On Instagram, you need to look "classy and put together."

3. On Instagram, the sorority does not want to see a girl with a ton of separate photos with boys. Maybe a few photos with one boy (suggesting that is a boyfriend), but not multiple boys in photos.

3. On Instagram, it's ideal to have photos with lots of girl friends, which shows that you are a nice person and have a lot of friends.

4. On Instagram, only post a photo of yourself in a swimsuit if you are on vacation.

5. On Instagram, you want to portray yourself as fun, but not too much of a partier.

6. If rush is in the spring semester (instead of the fall semester), take the easiest possible classes to maximize your GPA. The sorority cares about the GPA. They would rather see someone take very easy classes and get a 4.0, than take really difficult classes and have a 2.75.

I’m the OP.
Helpful. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
We received the following advice from a paid sorority consultant. I hope that this is helpful to some people, and will help to avoid having to pay $3000, as we did:

1. Social media is essential. As soon as you register for recruitment (aka rush), "the girls in the sorority will immediately go to your Instagram account" to learn about you.

2. On Instagram, you need to look "classy and put together."

3. On Instagram, the sorority does not want to see a girl with a ton of separate photos with boys. Maybe a few photos with one boy (suggesting that is a boyfriend), but not multiple boys in photos.

3. On Instagram, it's ideal to have photos with lots of girl friends, which shows that you are a nice person and have a lot of friends.

4. On Instagram, only post a photo of yourself in a swimsuit if you are on vacation.

5. On Instagram, you want to portray yourself as fun, but not too much of a partier.

6. If rush is in the spring semester (instead of the fall semester), take the easiest possible classes to maximize your GPA. The sorority cares about the GPA. They would rather see someone take very easy classes and get a 4.0, than take really difficult classes and have a 2.75.

Wow- and people want this for their kids?

Did your daughter get in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sad. When will Greek life and Miss America pageants go away?

When idiots like you go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sad. When will Greek life and Miss America pageants go away?

When idiots like you go away.

It's fake friendships and buying your way in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The are real, but IMO they don't help get into the 'good' sororities. That is all connections. If you don't have them (right camps, right schools, family friends, vacation spots, etc) then consultants can't fix that.

Ok I know it sounds crazy, but if your kid ends even a school like Michigan or other Big 10/SEC schools, AND you do vacation in the right spots/go to private school/have a somewhat fancy life make sure they have “some” social media presence showing their “lifestyle”…esp if kids /you are more low key….and if your family name isn’t googleable…

Our kids are super low key - bc we’ve taught them to be and not post anything showcasing our life; but that’s not helpful for rush…..for Rush it’s important to have some of this stuff on social media (save as destinations to stories section on IG)….start early in high school…

Trust me.
Btdt.
Will give your kid more house options out of the gate.

Is this true for boys too? My son is pretty cool but doesn't post on insta.

Sadly, it's true. My kids in HS and MS judge other people their age based on their Instagram accounts and number of followers. It apparently looks bad if you follow more people than the number of people who follow you. I'm not saying I agree with it but this is the reality.

I’m so glad my 8th grader is not on social media.

[Anonymous]

6. If rush is in the spring semester (instead of the fall semester), take the easiest possible classes to maximize your GPA. The sorority cares about the GPA. They would rather see someone take very easy classes and get a 4.0, than take really difficult classes and have a 2.75.


This is pretty bad - actively discouraging academic rigor in the name of GPA window dressing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What colleges have old-school normal sororities where family privilege and/or consultants are not part of the process??!

You think privilege is not part of old-school sororities?

Correct. When I was in college, it was just like minded girls who wanted to have friendship and fun. It was pretty basic. Nothing like you see on instagram today. Just wondering if that exists anywhere at Midwest/NE colleges?

[Anonymous]

My DD was dropped by the top houses on pref day at rush. She actually fits the profile of who usually gets in and her friends all had more success than her. I hate the whole process, but I actually read this thread and thought, “Maybe she would have had better luck if we hired a consultant.” I think I need therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD was dropped by the top houses on pref day at rush. She actually fits the profile of who usually gets in and her friends all had more success than her. I hate the whole process, but I actually read this thread and thought, “Maybe she would have had better luck if we hired a consultant.” I think I need therapy.

What school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What colleges have old-school normal sororities where family privilege and/or consultants are not part of the process??!

You think privilege is not part of old-school sororities?

Correct. When I was in college, it was just like minded girls who wanted to have friendship and fun. It was pretty basic. Nothing like you see on instagram today. Just wondering if that exists anywhere at Midwest/NE colleges?

I guess you weren't very observant in college, or else you were satisfied with a less-prestigious sorority. Admirable, but not what OP is looking for.

[Anonymous]

All of the anti-Greek people on here actually sound a little childish to me. I'm a happily married, 1%er, two kids, two careers, yada yada, and if anything, life has only gotten MORE like Greek life as I've gotten older and more successful.

Success at work is more about how well you navigate politics, not just your expertise or education level.

It IS in fact about who you know and how you present yourself.

Even in academia, it's not just about your work, it's about appealing to the department head, raising money, getting on the right institutional committees etc.

There are people who take it all to a ridiculous extreme, but there are also real, useful skills that can be acquired by successfully navigating the Greek system. Ones that will serve you well in the workforce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of the anti-Greek people on here actually sound a little childish to me. I'm a happily married, 1%er, two kids, two careers, yada yada, and if anything, life has only gotten MORE like Greek life as I've gotten older and more successful.

Success at work is more about how well you navigate politics, not just your expertise or education level.

It IS in fact about who you know and how you present yourself.

Even in academia, it's not just about your work, it's about appealing to the department head, raising money, getting on the right institutional committees etc.

There are people who take it all to a ridiculous extreme, but there are also real, useful skills that can be acquired by successfully navigating the Greek system. Ones that will serve you well in the workforce.

I disdain the southern Greek life vibe, but you have a point.

I intentionally picked a LAC without Greek life since I was done with the high school girl drama. I had a wonderful few years, did well in my career after, but the past 10 years has been an eye opener and agree that who you know/your social IQ has a lot more weight than your technical skills as you advance… if I think I would chose to do Greek, but not at a southern school. Much harder to acquire those skills and connections now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP.

Not a joke. People referenced “rush consultants” in the UVA post so I thought to ask. Sheesh.

And then someone bumped up another thread.

Food for thought here though. Appreciate the thoughtful constructive responses.

Yes there are camps. Yes there are consultants. Yes, women in the south groom their daughters for rush beginning in middle school because getting their house is “the best day of their lives”. The mothers are heavily and seriously invested in rush because they also believe that the “best” girls are in ABC, DF, and EOG whatever and this reflects on them, their family and will determine who they marry.

There is a caste system in the south and belonging to the “right” house and marrying into the “right” family is still very much a part of their lives. It’s a different world. I get that this is hard to imagine when you haven’t been exposed to it but it’s true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of the anti-Greek people on here actually sound a little childish to me. I'm a happily married, 1%er, two kids, two careers, yada yada, and if anything, life has only gotten MORE like Greek life as I've gotten older and more successful.

Success at work is more about how well you navigate politics, not just your expertise or education level.

It IS in fact about who you know and how you present yourself.

Even in academia, it's not just about your work, it's about appealing to the department head, raising money, getting on the right institutional committees etc.

There are people who take it all to a ridiculous extreme, but there are also real, useful skills that can be acquired by successfully navigating the Greek system. Ones that will serve you well in the workforce.

This has been my experience as well. Couldn’t agree more.