Name as many things as you can that used to be considered deviant but are no longer considered deviant

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Anonymous wrote:Dating a younger woman

My bad. I flipped the question in my head!

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I actually wish many of these were still not accepted but considered taboo or at least dishonorable

- pornography
- paying off student debt doing online porn/ fetish/ suggestive web content
- swearing like old sailors at any time instead of when needed
- use of racially charged insults
- politicians openly lying and refusing to maintain basic civility
- denying science proudly and loudly

But there are some positive developments
- women have much fewer restrictions (theoretically anyway) on whatever education or career dreams they may have
- talking openly about mental health challenges

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Same sex couples being affectionate in public

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Butsecs

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nail polish on men

Nail polish on women used to be deviant! Particularly any color but pink/nude.

Make-up. “Painting your face” was something only harlots and actresses did.

Even being an actress was considered deviant, akin to prostitution.

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Wearing white after labor day

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A woman not taking a man's last name
Rock'n'Roll
Dirty Dancing (both the dancing and the movie that my mom wouldn't let me watch)
not wearing a slip
masturbation
mini skirts
pride parades
BDSM
drug addiction

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open floor plans
open marriage
Satanism, Church of Satan, etc
witchcraft / Wicca
men wearing women's clothes
gay marriage
not saying the Pledge of Allegiance or standing for the national anthem

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Really open floor plans?

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Anonymous wrote:A woman being unmarried by choice and planning a child—by donor sperm or otherwise.

Couples living together without marriage. Couples having children without/before marriage.

+1
My sister lived with her boyfriend/future husband before marriage in the mid 1970s and my parents were so upset. I did the same in 1990 (I'm much younger) and my parents were delighted.

There was so much shame about children born before marriage, born too early or unwed mothers. And now people routinely get married when kids are toddlers or have a child on their own. I know several people like this.

I'm glad all these particular beliefs are gone. People in many ways are kinder and more accepting than they used to be.

Read about the baby scoop era. Very sad.

On the other hand, the decline of the traditional family has clearly had disastrous outcomes for so many kids. I wouldn't celebrate these loosening standards.

The decline of the “traditional family” arose out of the divorce boom that began in the 70s. The problem wasn’t a lack of marriage, the problem was the breakup of families and the fact that so many households were headed up by one struggling parent who hadn’t planned on parenting alone. Lots of problems there: the pain associated with absent fathers, poverty, and mothers focused on things other than their children.

None of these issues would be present in a functional two-parent household today in which the parents have opted out of the (arguably out of date) traditional marriage. And these problems would be less likely in a household headed up by a woman who actively chose single motherhood.

I do think our evolving definition of what makes a family is a good thing.

It was not as you put it, a ‘70s divorce boom.

It was the women’s liberation movement of the 1960s and 70s.