Any Co-Sleepers Out There?

[Anonymous]

Hi - I am bit relunctant to post again b/c I don't want to continue the debate, but I feel I do need to respond to the 14:27 poster above who wrote about my post (judgemental tone). She might be surprised to learn that we do not co-sleep. I actually have no problem with doing so, and we did try it, but it didn't work for us. I too read numerous books and found one that worked for us (and could very well be thesame one she used). And I too was strict about DS schedule (early bedtime, naps).

I loved the 17:13's poster's post. I really agree that it's about figuring out the type of baby you have and determining a method that works best for that child - rather than co-sleeping is the right way or not co-sleeping is the right way or CIO is the right way, etc etc. That's what I was trying to say in my post, but she said it better!

[clarabow]

To echo the sentiment that your choices may depend in part on the individual needs and temperment of the child (on top of whatever your family's personal needs and philosophies are), I'd add that the child's needs can evolve over time. One of the recent PP's seems to be experiencing this (we did too) and asked about how to manage co-sleeping with an older more mobile baby. Here's what we do right now -- we have added a rail to the side of the bed that can fold down when not in use. DS goes down in his crib at bedtime, and tends to move to our bed after his first or second night waking. If he easily goes back to his crib, we try that first, and he sometimes does fine, but if he protests and seems to need the extra comfort then he ends up with us for the balance of the night. Also sometimes dad lays down with him in the night in his own room on a mattress on the floor. (We want him to be comfortable in his own room over the long haul.) This is a babe that STTN in his own bed beautifully at 5-6 months but started struggling as separation stuff and the teeth and the crawling etc began. We're seeing glimpses that it's all starting to settle back down, fewer night-wakings, etc. and for now are taking it as it comes.

[Anonymous]

why does everything always turn into a huge debate/mess in thses forums. We cosleep but I don't think it's working for us as DD is a terrible sleeper and when I started reading the thread I was excited to see what others did/were doing. But I don't have the time to read through 6 pages of debate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why does everything always turn into a huge debate/mess in thses forums. We cosleep but I don't think it's working for us as DD is a terrible sleeper and when I started reading the thread I was excited to see what others did/were doing. But I don't have the time to read through 6 pages of debate.

Other than bashing DC Urban Mom forums, what's your point?

Do you want advice? No.

Do you want to take the time to read through the advice in the 6 pages and filter out what you need? No.

Oh...just bash. Okay. Thanks for sharing and a Merry Christmas to you.

[Anonymous]

Um, yes, pp actually did say she wanted advice. But, some folks don't have time or desire to "filter out" the (always predictable) debate on this board. I do, sometimes. PP apparently does not.

And, I don't see where pointing out what I also see as a flaw of this board as "bashing." I can sometimes find useful information; many times not. Relax.

[Anonymous]

Actually the real humor of this is that I hoped this thread would die already. The last post was 12/18. Then someone gets on here just to say she doesn't have time to read it and she hates the debate on here. Ironic and funny.

If she were more thoughtful about her post, she would have started a new thread and stated what help she was looking for (and pointed out that there is a thread called "Any Co-sleepers Out There?" that she didn't want to add to, so she started her own). But that takes thought and intention other than bashing. She never stated the advice she supposedly sought.

So thanks for telling me to relax. I don't need your advice. You sound like Clarabow. Not a fan.

[Anonymous]

Just wondering what you dress your babies in to co-sleep. My baby is very sweaty. We start out in a sleeper but it always seems like it gets too hot with all the body heat. What do you put on them?

[Anonymous]

Co-slept w/ my oldest son who is now 5 until he was about 3. He transitioned to his bed fine until he started having nightmares. Now sometime co-sleep with him and 13 month old. Youngest may be more of a test. Looking forward to placing them in their room together. Husband left the bed a long time ago, gets up at 4AM can't stand being kicked anymore LOL