NPR: stop appropriating scars for your Halloween costume

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Anonymous wrote:What I do is evaluate each child’s costume when they come to the door for a piece of candy. Those that have non-hurtful, suitable costumes may receive a piece. Those children wearing what I consider to be an appropriated or hurtful or problematic costume in any way receive a small pamphlet I made on what is acceptable and why.

haha... good one.

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Anonymous wrote:Halloween, carnival etc are days to reverse the social order and make fun of things. Parody, satire, lampooning are part of the human spirit. It seems really sad to do away with a very non harmful part of the human experience. FWIW don't know a lot of scar masks that are to make fun of people who are disfigured. Some scary and non scary pop figures are scarred...I can think of very few honestly who are incredibly disfigured? Should we also go after witches with big noses and warts, because some people have big noses and warts?

Actually the whole Halloween thing should be cancelled as it makes light of what is a serious holiday for many pagans. It really is cultural appropriation at its finest. The way ignorant people “celebrate” the day is hurtful to so many. Don’t forget the pagans have been a persecuted and oppressed group for centuries.

Are you serious?

No, they’re not. They’re just trying to get you all riled up. Same as the OP of this thread.

Same as the people like the ones who like to use phrases like “woke” and “oppression porn.” Some of you are actively looking for reasons to be upset. Just go ahead and complete your metamorphosis and start watching Fox.

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Anonymous wrote:The main problem with too many "ah poor thing" articles is that it leads to compassion fatigue. Eventually, if you are constantly told that every little thing you do is wrong, you are just going to give up and have fun.

Yes, it's better to not hear from anyone about their lives and the impacts this or that has on them. We don't want to hear about ordinary people! Silence their voices!

This isn't about ordinary people. I'm the OP and I do have a scar and it's never occurred to me to be upset about this. I rarely think about my scar and I suspect ordinary people don't think much about this type of thing.

So people with facial scars are not ordinary people. Got it. And you think no one ever stares at them, that they can just walk down the street without being stared at or having little kids ask their moms, what's wrong with him? And you think that shouldn't bother them?

I have a major, visible congenital deformity and I get stared at all the time and have heard that question a million times. It wears on a person. I think about my deformity every single day, primarily because the reactions of other people won't let me not think about it. So I have sympathy for this person. Sorry you don't. But it sounds like you don't really experience the same thing in your daily life.

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Anonymous wrote:The main problem with too many "ah poor thing" articles is that it leads to compassion fatigue. Eventually, if you are constantly told that every little thing you do is wrong, you are just going to give up and have fun.

Yes, it's better to not hear from anyone about their lives and the impacts this or that has on them. We don't want to hear about ordinary people! Silence their voices!

speak if you want. but don't kid yourself about what the effect of your speach will be on others.

Clearly. Lots of hostility here for one person speaking about her own experience. Can't imagine chiding someone for sharing her story, one that most of us will never experience, just because you're mad to have to think about someone else.

it’s not about this person. it’s about the endless, nonstop, litany of oppression-porn coming from NPR.

Yes, it's just so tiresome to hear about other people's lives, as long as those lives are not perfect. We don't want to hear about it. We don't have the capacity to be thoughtful and empathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I do is evaluate each child’s costume when they come to the door for a piece of candy. Those that have non-hurtful, suitable costumes may receive a piece. Those children wearing what I consider to be an appropriated or hurtful or problematic costume in any way receive a small pamphlet I made on what is acceptable and why.

Is that what this NPR story asked people to do? Or are you just ratcheting up your faux-outrage over hearing about someone who has a different life experience than you and since you don't want to feel uncomfortable by hearing it you mock her?

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Anonymous wrote:The main problem with too many "ah poor thing" articles is that it leads to compassion fatigue. Eventually, if you are constantly told that every little thing you do is wrong, you are just going to give up and have fun.

Yes, it's better to not hear from anyone about their lives and the impacts this or that has on them. We don't want to hear about ordinary people! Silence their voices!

This isn't about ordinary people. I'm the OP and I do have a scar and it's never occurred to me to be upset about this. I rarely think about my scar and I suspect ordinary people don't think much about this type of thing.

So people with facial scars are not ordinary people. Got it. And you think no one ever stares at them, that they can just walk down the street without being stared at or having little kids ask their moms, what's wrong with him? And you think that shouldn't bother them?

I have a major, visible congenital deformity and I get stared at all the time and have heard that question a million times. It wears on a person. I think about my deformity every single day, primarily because the reactions of other people won't let me not think about it. So I have sympathy for this person. Sorry you don't. But it sounds like you don't really experience the same thing in your daily life.

... like I have a facial scar. I literally never think about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I do is evaluate each child’s costume when they come to the door for a piece of candy. Those that have non-hurtful, suitable costumes may receive a piece. Those children wearing what I consider to be an appropriated or hurtful or problematic costume in any way receive a small pamphlet I made on what is acceptable and why.

You should set up a charity and provide those pamphlets to people who donate at a certain level.

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Anonymous wrote:The main problem with too many "ah poor thing" articles is that it leads to compassion fatigue. Eventually, if you are constantly told that every little thing you do is wrong, you are just going to give up and have fun.

Yes, it's better to not hear from anyone about their lives and the impacts this or that has on them. We don't want to hear about ordinary people! Silence their voices!

speak if you want. but don't kid yourself about what the effect of your speach will be on others.

Clearly. Lots of hostility here for one person speaking about her own experience. Can't imagine chiding someone for sharing her story, one that most of us will never experience, just because you're mad to have to think about someone else.

it’s not about this person. it’s about the endless, nonstop, litany of oppression-porn coming from NPR.

Yes, it's just so tiresome to hear about other people's lives, as long as those lives are not perfect. We don't want to hear about it. We don't have the capacity to be thoughtful and empathetic.

indeed we should just listen to sob stories all day every day. we'll all become much better people if we do that. and of course the people who bring us these stories can be a new kind of secular saint.

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Anonymous wrote:I have scars. I don't mind if other people wear scars as costumes. Who doesn't have scars?

I have disfiguring scars. We need to get a grip on why people wear costumes a very few times a year. We've limited them so much, we are missing the entire, anthropological social custom point of them.

Yes! To scare away spirits who want to do us harm the night before all Soul's day!
We need to keep the costumes going otherwise you are not a good christian
/s

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Anonymous wrote:You might want to read the whole article before you post. You’re misrepresenting what was said by NPR.

The thing I like best about NPR is they do a piece by talking to different people, and then not telling the listener how to think or feel.

Ehh. That NPR even bothers to have this kind of false equivalency conversation tells you how shallow and meaningless they have become. It's all virtue signaling uptight people looking for things to be outraged about and try to convince other people to feel bad.

Whenever someone says they listen to NPR my estimation of their intelligence drops enormously.

It doesn’t sound like they devoted hours to this. You didn’t have to click on it if you don’t give a damn about it.

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Anonymous wrote:The main problem with too many "ah poor thing" articles is that it leads to compassion fatigue. Eventually, if you are constantly told that every little thing you do is wrong, you are just going to give up and have fun.

Yes, it's better to not hear from anyone about their lives and the impacts this or that has on them. We don't want to hear about ordinary people! Silence their voices!

speak if you want. but don't kid yourself about what the effect of your speach will be on others.

Clearly. Lots of hostility here for one person speaking about her own experience. Can't imagine chiding someone for sharing her story, one that most of us will never experience, just because you're mad to have to think about someone else.

it’s not about this person. it’s about the endless, nonstop, litany of oppression-porn coming from NPR.

Yes, it's just so tiresome to hear about other people's lives, as long as those lives are not perfect. We don't want to hear about it. We don't have the capacity to be thoughtful and empathetic.

indeed we should just listen to sob stories all day every day. we'll all become much better people if we do that. and of course the people who bring us these stories can be a new kind of secular saint.

What a sad, selfish worldview you have. You’re the kind of person who would benefit from listening to NPR.

[Anonymous]

I am as bleeding heart as they come and I find this ridiculous. We all have scars, whether visible or not.

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Anonymous wrote:The main problem with too many "ah poor thing" articles is that it leads to compassion fatigue. Eventually, if you are constantly told that every little thing you do is wrong, you are just going to give up and have fun.

Yes, it's better to not hear from anyone about their lives and the impacts this or that has on them. We don't want to hear about ordinary people! Silence their voices!

speak if you want. but don't kid yourself about what the effect of your speach will be on others.

Clearly. Lots of hostility here for one person speaking about her own experience. Can't imagine chiding someone for sharing her story, one that most of us will never experience, just because you're mad to have to think about someone else.

it’s not about this person. it’s about the endless, nonstop, litany of oppression-porn coming from NPR.

Yes, it's just so tiresome to hear about other people's lives, as long as those lives are not perfect. We don't want to hear about it. We don't have the capacity to be thoughtful and empathetic.

indeed we should just listen to sob stories all day every day. we'll all become much better people if we do that. and of course the people who bring us these stories cap n be a new kind of secular saint.

What a sad, selfish worldview you have. You’re the kind of person who would benefit from listening to NPR.

Not a single thing about all the antisemitism going on in the world. But stories about someone mad about Halloween costumes makes the cut. https://www.npr.org/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am as bleeding heart as they come and I find this ridiculous. We all have scars, whether visible or not.

OFGS. Your invisible scars are not the equivalent of someone with a huge slash across their face/eye. You are disgusting for saying it.

You're basically saying you find it ridiculous that this person who is tired of being stared at and seeing her disfigurement used as a sign of evil or ugliness should just suck it up baby and never speak out about her pain. Because after all, you have a scar no one can see so really, same thing.

[Anonymous]

What I do is evaluate each child’s costume when they come to the door for a piece of candy. Those that have non-hurtful, suitable costumes may receive a piece. Those children wearing what I consider to be an appropriated or hurtful or problematic costume in any way receive a small pamphlet I made on what is acceptable and why.

I think it's easier to just turn off your light and not give out candy.