Rehoming unadoptable dog

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not willing to pay to have the dog ehttps://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/uthanized, surrender it to the county. It’s sad but it is what it is.

op could find a breed specific rescue instead of the general shelter. Here is one in the Dc area



https://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This dog belonged to my ex, and he died.

I believe she is very unlikely to be adopted if she goes back to the Fx Co shelter, which is where he acquired her. She is animal aggressive, and has to be the only animal in the home. She is a pit mix. She is 10 years old.

Our daughter is very upset about the whole situation. She just signed a 12 mo lease at a place with breed restrictions.

Any ideas on rehoming her? Would it be crazy to bring her home with me to see if her animal aggression has waned in her sundown years? I have a 3 year old dog.

Why do you have to rehome her? Just stay away from dog parks and cross the street when you see another dog?

OP has a dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I had to work for a bit. Things have taken a dramatic turn here.

She chomped down on an ear at the vet once. Ex pried open her mouth to get the other dog free. She’s killed baby gophers and other such creatures in the yard.

She has been around children before. She’s been around a lot of people before. Her aggression with other animals seems to be some sort of fear or anxiety when they’re around. She isn’t the brightest crayon in the box, so training has been an uphill battle over the years.

I am not worried she will kill my dog. He is much bigger and stronger. What I don’t want is my dog getting tagged aggressive if he reacts to her coming after him, and hurts her.

Hard no. Drop the dog off at the shelter.

[Anonymous]

My friend had a pit this and finally had to put him down when he tried to kill another dog. Sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This dog belonged to my ex, and he died.

I believe she is very unlikely to be adopted if she goes back to the Fx Co shelter, which is where he acquired her. She is animal aggressive, and has to be the only animal in the home. She is a pit mix. She is 10 years old.

Our daughter is very upset about the whole situation. She just signed a 12 mo lease at a place with breed restrictions.

Any ideas on rehoming her? Would it be crazy to bring her home with me to see if her animal aggression has waned in her sundown years? I have a 3 year old dog.

Why do you have to rehome her? Just stay away from dog parks and cross the street when you see another dog?

OP has a dog.

I posted before I saw she had a dog. I gave her a link to someone who might take the dog but, not the shelter.

Thanks for playing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I had to work for a bit. Things have taken a dramatic turn here.

She chomped down on an ear at the vet once. Ex pried open her mouth to get the other dog free. She’s killed baby gophers and other such creatures in the yard.

She has been around children before. She’s been around a lot of people before. Her aggression with other animals seems to be some sort of fear or anxiety when they’re around. She isn’t the brightest crayon in the box, so training has been an uphill battle over the years.

I am not worried she will kill my dog. He is much bigger and stronger. What I don’t want is my dog getting tagged aggressive if he reacts to her coming after him, and hurts her.

Hard no. Drop the dog off at the shelter.

You should return the dog where you rescued it from. The ex surely signed papers promising to do so and I'm sure the op or dd knows the name of the rescue.

Do better than this other posters op!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have either of you looked into the lease breaking option? The penalty is usually one month's rent, check your lease. Can she sublet to somebody else and move to a place where she can keep the dog? Or keep your dog?
Or is this not really about the lease, and actually she's not set up to have a dog at all? (which is normal and fine)
Would a friend or rescue take the dog if it came with a large donation? If so, would that be a good result, or actually not because of the connection to her dad?

I posted upthread that I think the kindest thing for the dog is euthanasia. I still think that. But IME it can be clarifying to say, "pretend I have money to fix this, what is the fix that I want?"

You should read all the responses before posting. This was posted on page 3.

Op here again. She has been trying to work with shelters and rescues. I think they know she isn’t adoptable, because no one wants to take her. She has an appt with the county shelter on Sunday.

My daughter turned 21 this past summer. She would lose a lot of money she doesn’t really have to spare if she breaks the lease. I do not have the money to do it for her.

My dog is a 75 lb pit mix. My ex’s dog is roughly 45 lbs.

Yes, I read it. "She would lose a lot of money she cannot afford" could mean she really can't afford one month's rent under any circumstances ... or (more frequently, IME) it could mean that breaking a lease and moving seems like a big deal but nobody's done the math, or called the leasing office to ask for a bereavement exception.

As I said in my post, it can be helpful to say "Let's assume I could afford this: would this solve the problem?" Because often the money isn't actually the problem, it's a disguise we put on the real problem.

I think it's very likely that OP's daughter doesn't want to take in the dog, or any dog (which is fine and I support). But focusing on the lease prevents her from recognizing the truth and moving on to the next step in this logic chain.

Also, because this logic chain likely ends in euthanizing the dog, it may be helpful to thoroughly explore all options and know there weren't other realistic ones.

It’s not just one month’s rent, is it? She would have to report the short notice to the next landlord, and would end up paying $3k-$4k in deposits and rent on another place. That’s all of her savings.

I’d prefer not to go into all the stress and tragedy that’s been happening in our lives over the last year, none of which was her fault or her choice. I would be very, very concerned about her mental health if she tried to move again. As in, I am fairly certain it would end with her being hospitalized and/or losing her job. I hear what you’re saying about exploring options, but she is barely making it through the day right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not willing to pay to have the dog ehttps://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/uthanized, surrender it to the county. It’s sad but it is what it is.

op could find a breed specific rescue instead of the general shelter. Here is one in the Dc area

https://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/

My daughter has been trying to work with them for 2 weeks. It is painfully slow, and they haven’t been very helpful. We’ve been talking to a whole bunch of foster-based rescues. They aren’t responsive. I assume that’s because they have limited space for new dogs, especially those who aren’t likely to be adopted. The reality is that they can use those resources to help other dogs with fewer problems who aren’t elderly. Resources are finite. We’re running out of time.

She was adopted from the Fx Co shelter. I’m pretty sure I explained this earlier in the thread. They will take her back, but it will be very stressful for the dog. She has an appt with them on Sunday. I’ll be coming to town tomorrow to do what I can to help, and to offer emotional support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not willing to pay to have the dog ehttps://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/uthanized, surrender it to the county. It’s sad but it is what it is.

op could find a breed specific rescue instead of the general shelter. Here is one in the Dc area

https://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/

My daughter has been trying to work with them for 2 weeks. It is painfully slow, and they haven’t been very helpful. We’ve been talking to a whole bunch of foster-based rescues. They aren’t responsive. I assume that’s because they have limited space for new dogs, especially those who aren’t likely to be adopted. The reality is that they can use those resources to help other dogs with fewer problems who aren’t elderly. Resources are finite. We’re running out of time.

She was adopted from the Fx Co shelter. I’m pretty sure I explained this earlier in the thread. They will take her back, but it will be very stressful for the dog. She has an appt with them on Sunday. I’ll be coming to town tomorrow to do what I can to help, and to offer emotional support.

Good luck with everything, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not willing to pay to have the dog ehttps://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/uthanized, surrender it to the county. It’s sad but it is what it is.

op could find a breed specific rescue instead of the general shelter. Here is one in the Dc area

https://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/

My daughter has been trying to work with them for 2 weeks. It is painfully slow, and they haven’t been very helpful. We’ve been talking to a whole bunch of foster-based rescues. They aren’t responsive. I assume that’s because they have limited space for new dogs, especially those who aren’t likely to be adopted. The reality is that they can use those resources to help other dogs with fewer problems who aren’t elderly. Resources are finite. We’re running out of time.

She was adopted from the Fx Co shelter. I’m pretty sure I explained this earlier in the thread. They will take her back, but it will be very stressful for the dog. She has an appt with them on Sunday. I’ll be coming to town tomorrow to do what I can to help, and to offer emotional support.

at 10 I would try to keep her and talk to a vet. It might be more humane to put her down rather than the shelter. A death by thousand cuts.

Poor dog

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not willing to pay to have the dog ehttps://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/uthanized, surrender it to the county. It’s sad but it is what it is.

op could find a breed specific rescue instead of the general shelter. Here is one in the Dc area

https://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/

My daughter has been trying to work with them for 2 weeks. It is painfully slow, and they haven’t been very helpful. We’ve been talking to a whole bunch of foster-based rescues. They aren’t responsive. I assume that’s because they have limited space for new dogs, especially those who aren’t likely to be adopted. The reality is that they can use those resources to help other dogs with fewer problems who aren’t elderly. Resources are finite. We’re running out of time.

She was adopted from the Fx Co shelter. I’m pretty sure I explained this earlier in the thread. They will take her back, but it will be very stressful for the dog. She has an appt with them on Sunday. I’ll be coming to town tomorrow to do what I can to help, and to offer emotional support.

at 10 I would try to keep her and talk to a vet. It might be more humane to put her down rather than the shelter. A death by thousand cuts.

Poor dog

If you want to keep her, feel free to post an email address.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Describe the aggression.

My dog is aggressive with larger dogs, not smaller or same sized dogs. I've been able to foster a multitude of dogs, all smaller than he is.

She’s bitten dogs at the vet, and now has to be muzzled. She’s killed small animals in the yard. I tried to introduce her to my dog when I got him 2.5 years ago. She tried to attack him. She slipped the leash and my ex laid on top of her so we could get out of the yard.

I know it’s crazy. I think she should be euthanized, but my daughter says no. It is her decision.

Then your daughter needs to deal with it. Your daughter is essentially saying she prefers to have your dog killed painfully over having her father’s dog killed peacefully, and that’s not her choice to make.

If your daughter is old enough to be signing a lease, she is old enough to find the dog a responsible home that can handle a reactive pit mix (there isn't one). If you want, you can do the kind thing and after she fails to find a home for it, be the one to take the dog to the shelter (where it will be euthanized).

But if your ex had to LAY ON THE DOG to stop it from attacking another dog, I'm sorry but it needs to be put down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Describe the aggression.

My dog is aggressive with larger dogs, not smaller or same sized dogs. I've been able to foster a multitude of dogs, all smaller than he is.

She’s bitten dogs at the vet, and now has to be muzzled. She’s killed small animals in the yard. I tried to introduce her to my dog when I got him 2.5 years ago. She tried to attack him. She slipped the leash and my ex laid on top of her so we could get out of the yard.

I know it’s crazy. I think she should be euthanized, but my daughter says no. It is her decision.

Then your daughter needs to deal with it. Your daughter is essentially saying she prefers to have your dog killed painfully over having her father’s dog killed peacefully, and that’s not her choice to make.

If your daughter is old enough to be signing a lease, she is old enough to find the dog a responsible home that can handle a reactive pit mix (there isn't one). If you want, you can do the kind thing and after she fails to find a home for it, be the one to take the dog to the shelter (where it will be euthanized).

But if your ex had to LAY ON THE DOG to stop it from attacking another dog, I'm sorry but it needs to be put down.

I just saw the last page of posts where you say your daughter has an appointment at the rescue. Maybe it would be kindest for you to take the dog alone so your daughter doesn't have to be there. Maybe you can lie to her and say they said they might have a few leads.

Otherwise I agree with the other posters that if the rescue is not optimistic, the most humane thing might be a vet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not willing to pay to have the dog ehttps://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/uthanized, surrender it to the county. It’s sad but it is what it is.

op could find a breed specific rescue instead of the general shelter. Here is one in the Dc area

https://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/

My daughter has been trying to work with them for 2 weeks. It is painfully slow, and they haven’t been very helpful. We’ve been talking to a whole bunch of foster-based rescues. They aren’t responsive. I assume that’s because they have limited space for new dogs, especially those who aren’t likely to be adopted. The reality is that they can use those resources to help other dogs with fewer problems who aren’t elderly. Resources are finite. We’re running out of time.

She was adopted from the Fx Co shelter. I’m pretty sure I explained this earlier in the thread. They will take her back, but it will be very stressful for the dog. She has an appt with them on Sunday. I’ll be coming to town tomorrow to do what I can to help, and to offer emotional support.

Since you are an experienced pitt owner already and have a bigger, stronger, younger pitt mix, I would take your ex’s dog and gradually introduce the two of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not willing to pay to have the dog ehttps://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/uthanized, surrender it to the county. It’s sad but it is what it is.

op could find a breed specific rescue instead of the general shelter. Here is one in the Dc area

https://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/

My daughter has been trying to work with them for 2 weeks. It is painfully slow, and they haven’t been very helpful. We’ve been talking to a whole bunch of foster-based rescues. They aren’t responsive. I assume that’s because they have limited space for new dogs, especially those who aren’t likely to be adopted. The reality is that they can use those resources to help other dogs with fewer problems who aren’t elderly. Resources are finite. We’re running out of time.

She was adopted from the Fx Co shelter. I’m pretty sure I explained this earlier in the thread. They will take her back, but it will be very stressful for the dog. She has an appt with them on Sunday. I’ll be coming to town tomorrow to do what I can to help, and to offer emotional support.

Since you are an experienced pitt owner already and have a bigger, stronger, younger pitt mix, I would take your ex’s dog and gradually introduce the two of them.

They've had years to get to know each other and it doesn't work. This is basically advocating for a fight ring. Forget it. 10 years in and this dog reactive? Behavioral Euthanasia is the kindest option here.