I understand, and I’m not minimizing her profound loss. But she is sentencing your dog to a violent death by asking for this, which will traumatize her further. Imagine the call you will have make to her after this dog attacks yours, and how she will feel. If her grief-driven demands end up causing the death of your dog, she will never forgive herself. |
Thanks. Yes, I agree that you cannot bring this dog into your home. Take it to a shelter, and explain the situation. |
I had a pit that was great around people, children and adults alike, but was dog aggressive. However, it was somewhat selective and was with dogs "outside her pack"; so, if I could manage the initial meeting and the other dog wasn't super dominant like her, she would be fine with that dog once she met them and knew them. Her dog aggression did temper/lesson as she got older and was a completely different level when she was 10 compared to when she was 2. Every dog will be an individual, so may or may not be possible with you dog. At 10, he doesn't have that much longer to live, quite frankly, pits are typically a 12 year dog. If you can crate him when you are not around then you might be able to see if you can integrate him into the pack to see if his disposition is similar to the the pit I had. The only hesitation I would have is that if your current dog is a small breed it's probably too risky due to the size difference but if you have a larger dog that is similar in size that along with the old age of the aggressive dog it's less risk so long as, again, you crate when you aren't around. |
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I think the most you can do is offer to pay to get your daughter out of her lease, if you can afford it.
You can't take the dog yourself. |
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I think you should euthanize the dog.
Your daughter made her decision when she signed a lease with breed restrictions. She does not get to choose who or what likes in your house. She may be attached to the dog and feel like it’s what she has left of her father and I get that from an emotional standpoint. Bit from a logical standpoint she has moved out and is now acting as an adult. She doesn’t choose for you just as you don’t choose for her. |
| If you are in Fairfax county, nearly all SFH are multilevel. You could bring the dog home and keep it separated from your dog on another level, if they do not get along. Maybe dog Prozac would help, maybe not, but you could ask your vet or a behaviorist. |
No way. Your daughter can take the dog and find a different place to move. |
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Op here again. She has been trying to work with shelters and rescues. I think they know she isn’t adoptable, because no one wants to take her. She has an appt with the county shelter on Sunday.
My daughter turned 21 this past summer. She would lose a lot of money she doesn’t really have to spare if she breaks the lease. I do not have the money to do it for her. My dog is a 75 lb pit mix. My ex’s dog is roughly 45 lbs. |
| The dog should be euthanized. Scatter the dog’s ashes at your ex’s gravesite or wherever he was scattered. |
This is the best suggestion. I'm sorry for your daughter, but she cannot take the dog then the kindest thing *for the dog* is to euthanize it. You can offer your home for a weekend or something (move the other dog out) so she can spend time and get Lap of Love to come. But it's cruel to surrender the dog to a shelter. |
That is not a should. The dog is rehomable. Or OP could take the dog and make it work. Or the DD could take the dog without informing the apartment management. There are solutions. |
| Have your daughter take the dog. It may be a while before anyone reports her. My apartment restricts the size of dogs to 30 lbs but I've seen several larger dogs live there with impunity. |
It's not the size, it's the breed. If she takes the dog, she'll absolutely be reported by her neighbors immediately, especially if the dog is likely to be aggressive around the other dogs in the building. The dog has already slipped his leash and tried to attack another dog before. |
Aha, I thought she had just signed since this happened. Can she get out of her lease early and could you help financially with facilitating that? |
+1 I’m 100% pit hostile but this sounds like it’s just trolling. |